The young woman in Lush called me My Dear today AIBU to

[NotsoLush]

Wonder if this is what The a Young are calling everyone these days (like when they kept saying "bless" a few years back) or did she think I was from her gran's generation?

To very young people anyone over 30 is old.

odig did it make your day?

Yes yabu.

If she'd of said 'here you go, you cunt' then if understand.
But she called you my dear. What's the problem? You're just been touchy.

I think when we are conscious of something we worry about it more, I've been called Dear many, many times by kids (I'm 34) but it may just be a word more often used around these parts? (Or I do look 65...!)

I got called young lady and I am mid 40s 😎

That would piss me off. It's not professional. I'd find it condescending really. I don't think yabu to be irked!

Isn't 'my dear' just a generic term of endearment? Not age-related I think.

tbh i just get pissed off when a Lush employee even talks to me now, they just wont leave me alone in any store

I think it's nice to use terms of affection. Where is the harm? It's a friendly gesture. Of course , Stalinists would regard it as somehow gender demeaning and therefore consider it a hate crime. So lets never ever use quaint endearing nouns ever again. Just say "thank you person".

I've been called "my dear" several times by all sorts of aged people, and I'm 30. I wouldn't think it's an age thing at all, more a personality thing. Some people say Hun, love, darling etc.

Oddly, I've encountered dozens of US young people/teens using 'dear' to address each other over the past couple of years. I think I was surprised the first few times, but I'm mostly used to it now.

Tell her "My dear" is not your correct pronoun and she's just committed literal violence. You'll call the police if she persists.

That should confuse her.

rice I'm from the West Country - I call people 'My Luvver' all the time.

I was with several Open Reach engineers in work this week, trying to sort out a phone line issue. They had to call their manager and were talking about 'The Lady who is in charge'. I thought 'Who?' Then realised they meant me . A LADY .

NannyOgg - thank you for getting it 😀

What's "unethical" about Lush? I was getting a few things for teenage DD who wants her products to be cruelty free.

'Nice' women under 35 call everyone my lovely poor something similar. Presumably it is part of her job to be 'nice'. I don't really understand why you find this weird tbf.

Lush should be renamed Thrush.

Race - NannyOgg's post explains it

odig - because of the bath bombs?

I have absolutely no problem with people being nice to me in shops or anywhere else for that matter - after a week at my work I'm almost in tears of gratitude when I get called an endearment! Enjoy the lurrrve OP and take it for what it was - just a nice moment in the day!

Im 29 and say this. It’s just a turn of phrase, I even say it to my kids.

Will do, Missus 😀

Last time I was visiting family in the NE, a man called me “flower” and I was delighted!

The bath bombs, oh yes. Their hair soap stuff gave DH an almighty rash round his neck too.

I love endearments as long as they are meant kindly and not said in a sarcastic way.

When I was a little girl a friend's mum used to call me 'flower' and I thought that was so funny, but lovely.

I think (don't quote me as gospel) there was an issue with the support of foxhunting or something.
I love Lush, I love the ethics behind non animal testing, paper bags and recycleable/re-fillable tubs.

Not so keen on the Staff members who ambush me though.

One of my guinea-pigs (the least intelligent one) decided to poke his nose under my henna wrap and dye himself. We did wash it off as best we could but he had a tinted nose for a while and gloated to himself that it had now been tested on an animal (though self inflicted and not in his eyes )

I silently use the endearment Cuntychops if someone pisses me off (I blame MN for that one) so far , not out loud .