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to cringe at the term " boobing the baby "

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anxiousmumma12 · 12/05/2018 12:03

Hear it so much on mumsnet

' boob milk "
' boob the baby '

Yuck yuck so cringe

Just say breast feeding or breast milk

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Pressuredrip · 12/05/2018 13:49

I boob my baby. I'm going to breast feed sounds ridiculously formal.

QueenofSerene · 12/05/2018 13:52

The whole “boob/bobbing” thing has always sounded weird/uncomfortable to me, but I’ve always chosen to FF from the outset so it sometimes comes off as some BF mothers trying to big note themselves? I just say “I’ve fed xyz” or “they’re due for a feed in xyz” the method of feeding is never the “point” as if were.

Mind you I do often ask my DD “do you have a stinky bum?” which I’m sure would grate on others...

YourDaughter · 12/05/2018 13:59

In laws call it “nipple”. I used to die a little every time they said it. Shortened occasionally to “nip”.
What’s wrong with just saying, “I need to feed the baby”?

JoeElliotsMullet · 12/05/2018 14:32

Oh I know someone who says this... also goes to "booby group" and is a militant breastfeeder. I once mentioned to her that I remembered feeling overjoyed when I finally stopped feeding DD2, because I was so done with it by then, and she pounced on me and said "Why did you stop?" in a slightly menacing way. Then had to reign herself in when I told her that DD2 had decided to stop, all by herself, at 18 months old, not that wicked mummy was withholding her "booby juice" because god forbid she might want her own body back...

mimibunz · 12/05/2018 14:35

I hate the term ‘latch’ or ‘latched on’ ugh, it sounds so feral and gross.

MaisyPops · 12/05/2018 14:36

I boob my baby. I'm going to breast feed sounds ridiculously formal
What's wrong with 'feed the baby'?
We don't say 'oh 5 minutes. I've just got to knife, fork and plate feed my child' or 'give me 2 mins. I need to hand feed my child' and you never hear people say 'I need to bottle the baby' because all of those statements are ridiculous.

Is the method of feeding really an essential part of the statement? Probably not (unless thr main point of the statement is 'look I breastfeed!!!')

bbqseason · 12/05/2018 14:40

I breastfeed my baby, feed my baby, boob him, give him boob and prob describe it in a million other ways too. I'll describe it how I like! Is this another way to criticise breastfeeding mums?

For those saying it's just feeding the baby - actually it's not. We boob our babies for numerous reasons, feeding being one of them. Other reasons being to soothe them, calm them, send them to sleep, stop them crying, etc etc. So maybe that's also why 'feeding the baby' doesn't seem to describe it for many of us.

paradyning · 12/05/2018 14:41

Ooft. I use 'just got to boob the baby' and 'change their bum'. Je suis common.

RavenWings · 12/05/2018 14:42

Is this another way to criticise breastfeeding mums?

Oh would you stop. No, it isn't. It's just like people not liking the phrase picky tea or the word moist.

bbqseason · 12/05/2018 14:43

Also - if some bf mums are describing it in this way because they are proud of it and want others to know they are bf then why not? Bf is bloody hard work for many, it certainly was for me for quite some time, and I am proud to breastfeed.

susurration · 12/05/2018 14:43

In my imagination if you're boobing the baby you're just sort of doinking the baby on the head with it...

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 12/05/2018 14:44

Let's face it, everybody hates everything that anybody (but themselves) ever says or does. They themselves are perfect in their own eyes.

In the good old days, before social media and other ill-advised platforms, the best that people could manage was a stamping of feet and perhaps a sour-faced rant to a friend (not guilty of said hated term). It was better then. Everybody just blurts out whatever tiny things are on their minds now.

ForkIt · 12/05/2018 14:44

My child LOVES the word boob... or BOOB!!!! She’s heard it all, latched on to that word... and I don’t care

ConciseandNice · 12/05/2018 14:45

I quite like the term ‘boobing’. I really get annoyed at People who don’t know basic grammar and yet call others ‘common’ and get irritated when they point out the hypocrisy.

bbqseason · 12/05/2018 14:46

Para it's not the same. I reckon most people here saying they don't like the phrase haven't breastfed for any length of time, and so it feels like they are picking at Mother's who bf to be honest. You won't find a thread written by bf mums saying they hate the way bottle feeding mums describe an aspect of their parenting.

MaisyPops · 12/05/2018 14:47

Is this another way to criticise breastfeeding mums?
Of course not. Just most people are of the sensible view that babies need feeding and beyond that don't really care how it's done.

if some bf mums are describing it in this way because they are proud of it and want others to know they are bf then why not? Bf is bloody hard work for many, it certainly was for me for quite some time, and I am proud to breastfeed.
I'm proud of lots of things in my life. But if I spent multiple times a conversation dropping it into conversation on the grounds of but I'm proud and it was hard, my friends would be well within their rights to think 'STFU. We get it'.

Same with breastfeeding. For some it comes naturally, for others it's a challenge, some feel proud of it. It doesn't mean people can't find endless chessy references to it irritating

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anxiousmumma12 · 12/05/2018 14:48

No I breast fed my eldest .

Should I of said I'm just going to bottle my youngest ?.

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Bridesmaidinchief · 12/05/2018 14:49

Yesssss I hate it. It has this kind of forced cheer about it, like the person is trying to shout 'look how normal and funny we're all being about boobs!'

I think women should breastfeed however and whenever they like without comment from anyone but I cringe so hard at that term.

MaisyPops · 12/05/2018 14:49

You won't find a thread written by bf mums saying they hate the way bottle feeding mums describe an aspect of their parenting.
I'm yet to have a conversation in real life or online with a bottle feeding parent who drops it into conversation endlessly and has their own cheesy phrases.

Nobody is having a go at breastfeeding. It's all the cheesey expressions that some women seem to use to ensure everyone realises that breastfeeding some inherent part of their identity.

bbqseason · 12/05/2018 14:49

Amused at the idea that boobing means thunking the boob on the head of the baby and also of bottle feeding mums starting to say they need to bottle their baby

4GreenApples · 12/05/2018 14:54

I decided to avoid any talk of boobing the baby, giving baby the boobie etc before I started breastfeeding.

Mainly because I have a friend who had called it that when she was breastfeeding her baby. All fine, until her baby turned into a toddler and got into the habit of loudly shouting boobie whenever she wanted feeding.

I didn’t want my DC shouting boobie when out in public so always called it milk or milky to them.

WonderTweek · 12/05/2018 15:05

I like the word boob in general. It looks like the sound breasts would make if they could make sounds. Not heard “boobing the baby” before but I don’t think it sounds horrendous.

I dislike “change the baby’s bum”. English is not my first language so sometimes my brain is very literal in interpreting what other say, and when I first heard someone say “let’s change your bum”, I had the mental image of the baby getting a new backside. It was a bit absurd. Obviously I know what it means but it sounds wrong to me.

TotHappy · 12/05/2018 15:17

I said it sometimes. 'just going to boob her' or 'I think she needs boob'. Not to draw attention that i was bfing or show off, but it does describe a particular activity - it means she needs to be held by me, in a comfy chair, with arm support, possibly for quite a long time. Those might not all apply if i was feeding her in some other way. And sometimes, as pp mentioned, it wasn't to feed her but for other reasons.

Plus, while I've never heard someone say they're going to 'bottle the baby ' people do say 'baby needs a bottle' or 'im going to give her a bottle now.' And why not?!

Ghanagirl · 12/05/2018 15:21

' boob milk "
' boob the baby '
Yes hate these terms also and I breastfeed my twins till they were 13 months.
I was speaking to a couple who asked advice about getting baby off "the tit"!!😳😳

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anxiousmumma12 · 12/05/2018 15:30

Just read " boob monster " on here to .
Vomit

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