Tonight is the night when I could give it all up

[Twofishfingers]

I was laughed at because of my accent, my nationality and my language. I have lived in the UK for 20 years, and tonight again I was again made fun of. I feel like I have wasted 20 years of my life trying to fit it to a country that will never accept me.

I honestly feel like shit. Please give me some reassurance that I will be ok here, and that the last 20 years haven't been completely wasted.

I'm sorry you have had that experience. There are racist, stupid twonks all over the world unfortunately, including in the UK, and the last couple of years have only made things worse. Please stay, after 20 years you are one of us.

I love living in a multicultural environment. Ignore the twats. They’re a minority.

People can be cruel and easy targets are people that are different to them. Your nationality is the difference here but it could be anything. Thank God you are different, who would want to be like them? Please do not feel like shit. Wouldn’t you rather be you than them, bullying their way through life. Their comments do not define you. Ignore, and if possible, never engage with them ever again. You will be okay, years have not been wasted.

People are rude. I had someone gleefully come up to me the day after the brexit vote and gleefully announce: Finally we can get rid of all those foreign scroungers!

His face when I said, uh I am foreign?

Just because I am white and don't have much of an accent (been here for 14 years).

I have the opposite, I picked up the local accent so I look and sound the same as them. Worked since day one of moving here. People are idiots to put it politely. They will make fun and ridicule things they find strange, why? I do not know. You are better than them. How sad a life must they have to find joy in taking down someone else... You will be fine here, there are people like me who do not care where you are from and what accent you have.

Now if people will just stop telling me that I am the right kind of foreigner and they would never ever want to throw me out of the uk, I would be happy.

Dear god, where were you? These people are low life, please don't take what they said to heart.

If it's any consolation, in certain parts of the UK I have also been laughed at, and verbally attacked, for my accent, nationality and language, despite being a British citizen from another part of the UK. Some people are just horrible and narrow minded to anyone whose face doesn't fit their tiny world view. Don't let it put you off being here, we need people who see this shit for what it is

I hope these were not 'friends' of yours? If they were, I hope they are now dumped.

I'm in a mixed-nationality marriage, and we've felt more uncomfortable in the last couple of years - since the referendum really.

Please be assured that the vast majority of sensible people welcome you. Is your region particularly racist and insular? Would you consider moving to a city/town where immigrants are welcomed for the culture, skills, and diversity they bring? Twenty years is a long time, but I come from a village where people are so insular that you're considered an outsider unless your parents. grandparents and great grandparents were born in that specific village (mine weren't, so despite the family living there for nearly 50 years, we're not 'locals'). I can't imagine how someone with a different nationality, accent and language might be treated there.

They are not friends, but people who are friends of friends. Worst thing is I'm in East London, where I have encountered very few people who where hostile and unfriendly, but tonight just did it for me. The arrogance of it all just made me want to give up.

Those people are idiots- and I hope your friends who are friends with them are mortified.

Twats. I'm ashamed and embarrassed by these people.

Please don't think they're representative of everyone in this country. 💐

As pp said, and yourself, indirectly, they are not representative of London or this country.

Imagine being such a fuckwit that you have to reach for something like someone's accent to make yourself feel special. Bellends.

You can't legislate for arseholes. Sadly it will never disappear. I hope you have great friends who appreciate you for the person you are.
Tonight I am gutted because one of our employees who is not native British has to leave us to return to his home country for family reasons . The entire company is devastated. He is our friend , neighbour and colleague. It matters bugger all where he was born.

They laughed at my name, at the way that I pronounce my name. Fuck I don't think I can put up with this shit anymore.

Could you consider moving to a more sensible area?

"They laughed at my name, at the way that I pronounce my name."

I get that from time to time and I've lived in the UK all my life. Some childish people make fun of everyone who's different. There's some evidence that Brexit has allowed some racists to come out of the closet so to speak, but please don't be too disheartened.

There are twats in every corner of the country OP.
I'm sorry that you have to experience such racism.
I don't know you OP, but I accept you and would treat you with as much respect as I do everyone else.
Most people I know would do likewise.
We live in a northern town and some areas are terrible up here, only little pockets but the people are dreadful.
It's fine where I live it's a good cosmopolitan town.
for you and I hope things look up soon, for you.

Where are you from originally? (Just being nosy 😳😁). I was born in England, but I have a foreign accent, it’s amusing at times when people ask where I’m originally from and I tell them ‘local town’ then I get the 🤔 look. I usually cave in & explain, but not always.

Twats are twats. If it’s not your accent, it’s someone else’s clothes or my weight or whatever. They’re not representitive of the vast majority.

I voted ‘Leave’. I want US to leave the EU, not for people to ‘leave’ the UK. 💐

Well I’m born and raised here 32 years, mixed race and a boy came up to me whilst I was sitting in my convertible the other day said the P word and told me he was going to steal my car.
Admittedly said boy had smaller arms than me so I gave him what for and offered to open the car door violently onto his lovely little push bike to which he swiftly moved on.

The thing is there are always going to be people in any country who are nobs. There are so so so many more nice people out there though. I’ve been to so many different countries and experienced so many different reactions to what I look like and speak like (trust me coming from Essex is a whole different language also to some) you could always turn to yourself and say fuck this I’m gonna go find some decent people.
I wouldn’t moan though. That’s a waste of 20 years definitely

Fuck fhose pathetic nasty twats. They're just dicks

I'm from Liverpool. I also have an Irish surname. I get the piss taken out of me whenever I leave the city. Sometimes (rarely, nowadays, on the bright side) I get low-level hostility in my own city because it's the wrong kind of Irish surname.

It is wrong that you have been ridiculed but I'm with you in spirit in offendedness; you're not the only one. Racism is always wrong, and illegal, of course. So is sectarianism. And most of the other -isms. My point is that people will take the piss out of people because of any difference whenever they can. This is because generally speaking, mostly, people are, usually, wherever you go, parochial twats.

I’m so sorry. What is wrong with people?
I’ve heard more daft racist stuff in the past couple of years than ever.
latte you might not have voted with immigration at the front of your mind but apparently it was the second most common reason cited for voting Leave. Referendum result consequences have been horrid. People seem to think their racist views have now been validated because “ the majority” think like them.

Hi OP, sorry you are feeling low about those losers, give them the headspace they deserve: zero, exactly.
I know how hard it is to be in a different country. I am half British and half Spanish, and in my years living in Spain I was referred to as the English girl, and here I am called the Spanish girl so have never been able to feel 100% from one place or fully "at home" anywhere. I have been lucky enough to never have suffered any direct xenophobe attacks- because I am able to blend in easily, but I must say, I sometimes feel uncomfortable if my (spanish) mum phones me and I'm walking down the street. I never pick up as I fear being abused if people hear me speaking in another language. I have witnessed the horrific abuse Polish immigrants have suffered from some imbeciles in my area since the Brexit vote, it is really sad.

But I think most people are mature, kind and welcoming enough with foreigners that do their best to integrate in and contribute to the community they come to live in.

I hope you feel better tomorrow and forget about those unkind, ignorant comments. Nobody is better than anybody else. Nobody has the right to make you feel like this. Massive hug to you, and anybody else experiencing it. 💜

I'm from Canada, I'm French speaking. All I can say is that I will remember this as a bit of a turning point for me. Trust is out of the window. I have always been proud of saying when I am from, if anyone asks me I don't take offence. But tonight that's changed.

Yes they are just dicks. Men trying to assert themselves is some very strange way.