How much wine is to much

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Please help settle a debate with Dh.

I've just put the kids to bed (as always at 8:15) waltzed down the stairs and poured myself a large glass of wine. My Dh has pointed out I go through 4 bottles per week.
Help me out ladies is that to much?

When does your liver recover? Contrary to popular belief that little and often is better than binge drinking, a doctor specialising in addiction told me your liver needs 2-3 (preferably 4) consecutive days off the booze for it to properly recover. 2 bottles of beer every night is really not that great for you as your liver never gets a chance to fully rinse out. So I can only imagine what half a bottle of wine+ must be doing...
Not advocating binge drinking of course, but when you do have a party weekend, not having " just one drink" on Monday evening (or Tuesday or Wednesday) is potentially a good idea.
(Used to drink at least one if not two bottles of red together with OH almost every night back in the early days of our courtship. Ten years, two kids, and a hefty mortgage later, 250ml with dinner is a party these days! My wallet, my hips, my head and the early-morning starts are all better-off for it!)

Cripes, that doesn't seem loads to me, I live abroad so maybe habits are a little different! But a bottle a night is pretty average for us

I think that’s fine! Four bottles a night would be a very different story! Four bottles a week is like a glass a night! It’s fine.

Yes too much. I used to just have a drink over the weekend, then I started having a glass maybe Weds - Sunday (days I wasn't working). Now I just have a glass Fri, Sat, Sun and I have lots weight and feel better even though I rarely ever had more than a glass a night. I really love my wine it's the best thing ever, but it's just empty calories from something which doesn't have any health benefits really.

@JoesNanny you must have huge glasses... a glass a night from four bottles?!?!

Do you drink every single night? When I cut down on my drinking I aimed for two (then three, four) alcohol free nights a week in a row. Could you manage that?

Try it. If you can't manage it for, say, a month then I think there's a problem and you need to rethink your relationship with alcohol.

I was drinking that when I had a bad breakup with exh. I realised I was drinking too much and justifying it to myself.

I now never drink in the week and over the weekend if I drink at all will have a bottle over Friday, Saturday and Sunday. If I go out I drink a bit more.

I have lost weight just by that (am really ta still though)

That is a lot of alcohol!

Journo aye?

my ex was a bottle a night and extra at weekends

i said he had a problem and he said he didnt

i finshed it with him as it was getting in the way,he also smoked weed,the relationship never stoo da chance

I think the fact your dh is commenting on it should tell you something. Clearly he's not sharing in the drinking and is probably unhappy about it if he has mentioned it. This might be to do with your behaviour when drinking, the cost, the health risks. I think you should talk to him and try and have a non confrontational conversation about why he made the remarks.

@tigerrun Yes, it's a good graph, replicated by many studies. The recent study which generated multiple scare stories in the media buried a similar one in the appendix but presented a different graph to the media missing out the first bit giving the impression that a sniff of alcohol is enough to give you the lurgy.

Since, I am in the Mediterranean, it is very normal for us to have a glass or 2 of wine with lunch and during the evening 1 or 2.

Normal here ..

I don't think that is too much. I could easily drink that in a week. I don't every week but some weeks I will drink gin instead so might not have any wine at all.

My drinking had crept up to this much after my mum died last year and yes it is too much. I have been sober for a few days but plan on making it a permanent choice.

That's a huge amount - you're placing yourself at risk of liver disease and many other conditions. If you're drinking that amount regularly, you need to be honest with yourself about whether you have dependency issues. The fact you're posting on here suggests you know you have a problem and your DH is also likely aware of this.

I honestly had no idea that so many people drink everyday/most days. It seems like far too much unless you are on holiday/special occasion.

I have zero tolerance for alcohol and feel hungover after only a few glasses so this might cloud my judgement.

The abstaining group on the j curve included previous heavy drinkers who gave up and the moderates often under report their consumption. This was discussed in a meta analysis in 2016.

It's hard to interpret that sort of data.

Do people really not think it's true that alcohol is associated with many serious diseases which cause huge mortality and morbidity?

I haven't read all the thread but units per week for women is meant to be 14 units. Spread over at least three days

A bottle of 13.5% wine has 10 units

So your weekly "allowance" is roughly 1 1/2 bottles a week.

If you are drinking every night, it's a problem.

That sounds a lot to me. I don't drink a bottle even a week.

Sorry forgot to add my normal is 1/2 a bottle of wine on a Saturday night sometimes the same again on a Friday or Sunday

The abstaining group on the j curve also includes people with other conditions who don't drink because of that. It doesn't represent pure cause and effect.

If I didn't care how much weight I put on I could easily do that but I eat crap when I drink so there's no avoiding it