I was on the bus earlier and there were only two older women on besides me (and obvs the driver) - one of my colleagues rang me, I felt I had to answer and talked for literally a couple of minutes then put my phone away again, I wasn't loud, wasn't swearing, there's no phone ban on the bus, I was sat far away from them, nothing I can see to object to. As we were getting off 5 mins later one of the women complained to the bus driver about me being on my phone and then, as I passed her on the street, told me in a very incensed manner how rude and ignorant I was. I didn't say anything to her, which was the best thing I could do at that moment but AIBU to think she was ridiculous to complain, twice at that?
If you were the woman on the bus - thanks. I'm having a hell of a week, I (and my colleagues) work with some incredibly vulnerable people and a whole shitstorm is happening with some of them (not that unusual tbh) and we're trying to prop them up the best we can. Without outing myself, one of them will probably not be alive this time next week and it's really getting to me at the moment but I'm managing to do my job professionally, hold myself together and look after my family so if you could just manage to not be so judgey that would be great.
I fully appreciate you haven't a clue what's going on for me and you may have just as much or more going on in your own life but maybe you wouldn't like it either if someone went out of their way to make life the tiniest bit more unpleasant for you. If you'd just asked me to stop the call or politely told me you thought I was rude I'd have apologised profusely and thought very little more about it. As it is, you're cross, I'm sobbing (was the straw that broke the camel's back tbh) so life is that smidge worse than it needed to be - well done.
Sorry, really needed to vent somewhere - anyone else?