To think it must be nice being the dad of a breastfed newborn

[CocoDeMoll]

Because a bit like other relatives you can always hand them back and defer back to the mum ‘because he’s rooting again’!

Dh doesn’t have to wake up at all in the night and the buck never stops with him. It seems a cushy role to me .

I wanted to breastfeed but FF on medical advice. I have to say that although I was disappointed at the time I am so grateful that it meant that DH could feed DS too.

DH was sad that he couldn't feed DD. DS used to take a bottle of ebm, and DH loved doing the bedtime feed, but DD was having none of it.

So I think yabu, but I know what you mean about the night time thing, and the responsibility.

The trade off is that they deal with all the nappies though!

I’ve tried introducing a bottle of EBM which ds isn’t keen on taking and dh isn’t keen on giving. I think he knows the easy ride might be over if ds starts accepting a bottle!!

He is the king of nappies and burping though which is good.

Your thread title is just so smug and supercilious. You make a choice to breastfeed and I’m sure many husbands and partners help in different ways

Surely, if the father is working and the mother is on maternity leave, it is only fair that she does the feeds and nappy changes during the night.

Yeah my husband moaned and still,does about the bond I have with dd and that she always wanted me - she was a very frequent feeder - but I wonder if he would've actually liked the reality! But maybe he would actually, he's a light sleeper so always woke up anyway even if he didn't have to get up and it's so satisfying being able to comfort them.

When ebf ds had his early feed - 5 ish, dh would take him and let me sleep til a more civilised time and get up with the other dc's about 8/whenever he needed a feed.
Ebf isn't a get out clause for df's.

What on earth is smug about my title?! It’s a lighthearted poke at dh not having to do as much. Genuinely confused

When dd was a baby, I would do the night feed, then hand her over to dh and he burped and resettled her while I went back to sleep. This was all whilst he was still working a full time job. He wanted to do it and recognised that I needed my sleep too.

Some men use bf as an excuse for being lazy bastards.

OTOH I didn't do pretty much anything other than feed when DD was permanently clamped to my boob. DH did everything else.

I dealt with input, DH dealt with output!
To be honest, although DH couldn’t help with feeling he pulled his weight in all other ways. When I was really exhausted I’d sleep in the spare room and he’d just bring them to me for feeds, meaning he’d always try to settle first and would deal with winding/nappy changes/re settling/rocking the Moses basket for hours on end. He also took over all cooking/cleaning duties.

april that’s the issue though. I’ll be on the point of drifting off in the day and dh will come in and say ‘he’s trying to latch on to my bicep again...’ and that’s my nap time over.

Oh and when DD2 wouldn’t settle after 4am for months on end he’d take her downstairs so I could get a couple of hours more sleep (while working FT)

I think this is a very lighthearted thread that’s going to go tits up.

Based on other threads I’ve seen. They’ll be strong reactions, and very little reading going on 🤷🏻‍♀️

My DH loved the fact that both our children were EBF. He never heard them during the night either.
But he did regularly take over during the day between feeds so I could catch up on sleep and did most of the housework because I was basically glued to the sofa with a baby attached to my chest

My DH wants me to BF but it worries him that he won't get the same chance as me to bond with baby. We've agreed that I'm going to express and that way he can also feed baby. There are lots of ways that daddies can be involved and I'm sure any real man would WANT to be involved in whatever way they could.

I can see how it looks smug. It’s the Internet after all and words without facial expressions. A grin may have made it seem less smug though. I breastfed our first for five months, partner did all the nappies but I liked doing the feeding. It may have meant doing all the feeds but it was easier and less faff than getting up to make a bottle. We are wanting a third and I plan to breastfeed again and hopefully longer. Hopefully breastfeeding goes ok and I don’t have to use bottles. We tube feed our second and boiling kettles etc and making feeds is jarring so breastfeeding a third child will seem a breeze lol

rodstewartsmerkin Don't be so mean.

My DC had the cleanest bottoms of all the babies as their dads whisked them onto the mat for the smallest of tinkles. BF was my thing, cleaning and tickling tums was a dad thing.

Eddie DH was in charge Friday and Saturday nights, I did the other nights.

I FF my oldest & BF my youngest. My husband actually found it hard because my youngest ALWAYS wanted me & she screamed if she was with him (or anyone else).

He has an awesome bond with both of them now, but the first 12 months with my youngest were incredibly hard for him.

CocoDeMoll That’s the joy of breastfeeding lol when the baby needs fed, they need fed.

My DH had to get up with me every time to help keep me awake because the only way DS would latch was with nipple guards on my left boob and sitting up. He also had to yell at a GP who left me in tears after my milk dried up. No I don't think DH thought the BFing experience was nice at all.

Dh keeps me fed whilst I keep ds fed. That’s for sure! He doesn’t recognise mess so much so cleaning is a shared responsibility. I’m one of those weirdos that genuinely loves doing laundry so that’s always my gig.