To have told this small child not to be rude?

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Walking back from school run and a l3/4 year old (?) was behind me on their scooter. I was going to move aside but before I did the child said "get out of my way". At this point his mother was way ahead of him so I didn't say anything. He stopped to look at something with his Mum and a younger child. I went past again and he once again was behind me but his Mum was next to him. Again he said to get out of his way in an annoyed tone and as his Mum said nothing such as sorry about that or told him to ask politely I shouted after him not to be so rude. Was I wrong for doing that?

Naturally I'm prepared to get slated as it's AiBU.

I don't know the Mum or child in question. I just thought even with a young child that's pretty rude.

I don't think yabu. I hope the dm looked embarrassed?

I'd have said the same.

YANBU

I don't even know why we as a society, tend to question ourselves over these things nowadays.

Yours was a perfectly reasonable response.

Yanbu. I'd be mortified if any of mine spoke to an adult like that

YANBU. This happened to me recently - little f*cker bashed my calf when I didn't move quickly enough! Told him off and told Mum too (who tbf was mortified and very apologetic).

I think that is awful yanbu the mum could have intervened and apologised. I do know a parent who allows her 4 year old to talk like this to everybody the parent sees it as him being assertive

Not unreasonable. I’d be mortified if one of my children spoke to anyone like that (although I would deal with it rather than ignore it obvs, shame this parent didn’t.)

@PurplePumpkinPiss she looked annoyed. Perhaps he talks like that to her and she's used to it. But I just can't see why you'd allow it.

Even when my 2 year old says to me go away I tell her it's not nice and be kind to Mummy.

My Mum would've been mortified. She is the least strict parent ever, but she dislikes rudeness.

You’re fine. That was rude. I’ve said the same to scooter riders.

YA NBU. Perhaps if other people tell him.
He might learn. Seeing as his mother is clearly allergic to disciplining him.

Yanbu.
I’d never have been allowed to get away with that when I was a child.

Not unreasonable at all. I responded in the same way when I got 'move lady.'

@MrsJayy oh yes the parent who has a spirited child.

Assertive would be saying 'Can you move please?' Or 'Excuse me?'

If he's done that I'd have happily moved. I'm not an Ogre. Except when I don't give the kids enough chocolate, obviously 😃

Assentive . Rudeness more likely.
God help his poor teachers.

I have had moments with kids on scooters i think scooters are a menace I know that is quite controversial but I don't understand kids scooting to school.

@MrsJayy I'm not a fan of them for school run either. Too many going at once and too many chances to fall off. I've helped a few kids up who fell off. I think doing it when the pavements are more clear is better.

Yy wait till the assertive one goes to school he is a nice kid tbf just hasn't had the direction which is a real shame because he doesn't know any better.

I think what you said was fine, but if you wanted to be irreproachable you could tell him what to say rather than telling him not to be rude. He may not even know he is being rude, if his parents let him talk like that to strangers.

This is exactly why we have the society we have these day as parents allow this kind of behaviour to happen, you were well within your rights to comment. The mother should have stepped in and should have made the boy apologise, yet she allowed him to speak to an adult like that, I wonder how he will be when he is older🙄

I think what you said was fine, but if you wanted to be irreproachable you could tell him what to say rather than telling him not to be rude. He may not even know he is being rude, if his parents let him talk like that to strangers.

Yes well he knows now.

An older boy of about 8 did this exact thing on the school run and i said "How rude."
I couldn't care less if it offended as his sister was bullying my dd at the time so i was stressed about that and in no mood to pussy foot around the family.

YANBU. Manners are vital to teach a small child otherwise they turn into rude horrors at school, teachers dislike them and no one wants to be their friend. My daughter had a friend round for a play date last week (5/6 years) and this girl was horrendous. Truly awful. When her mother came to pick up you could tell she was desperate to encourage the friendship and have her invited again (I reckon invitations are few and far between unsurprisingly). You are doing your child and society a disservice by not teaching them manners and decent public behaviour.

It's not your place to parent other people's children but if the child is rude to YOU it's absolutely fine to say something If the parent isn't going to say anything the child will at least get used to the fact that other people don't appreciate being spoken to like that.

Of course it was fine. Mine scoot to school -but I am clear they will have to walk if they do not consider other pavement users and keep out of their way - without any shouting / rudeness!

It's not exactly constructive feedback though is it? If you want to be part of the village that raises the child etc try "say 'please' next time, please" or somesuch.

Children learn to be polite by people being polite to them, modelling politeness in the way they treat others, and teaching them positively what to say that is socially acceptable. Random strangers shouting after them labelling them rude (or eg naughty, in a different scenario) doesn't tend to achieve much.