AIBU to ask neighbours to turn their t.v down 4-8 pm so DD can revise?

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Hi there, first time poster, please be gentle with me.

Back story, we have lived in our house for almost 6 years. Couple next door are elderly and hard of hearing, both wear hearing aids.

T.v and music are usually really loud - crazy bonkers loud over our own telly- to the point where we know exactly what they're listening to/ watching.

But, we are not silent either, and as it is generally off by 9pm we don't make a fuss. Lady has asked a few times previously if the noise is too much and they will use their headphones.

Dd is revising for GCSE exams and is finding the telly noise very distracting. All our bedrooms and our through lounge/diner have a wall in common with neighbours, so moving her makes no difference.

It has been especially loud music this weekend , which possibly means Mr is home alone. Learned over the years that He tends to listen to music rather than telly, and won't use headphones unless wife tells him to.
He is grumpy and shouty and once had me in tears over a washing line ( another post) .

I am quite prepared to have the conversation. I am asking for turn down 4-8 on weekdays for a few weeks while the exams are on, but don't want to be difficult or unreasonable.

Please share your thoughts with me and any 'how to word my reader's ideas welcome too.

I don't think I would. It sounds annoying, though. Could your DD wear noise cancelling headphones instead?

Yabu. 4 hours is a long time and that time slot is probably prime tv time for them.

Yes it would be unreasonable I think. Agree that dd could wear ear plugs/ noise cancelling headphones instead?

Normally I would say YABU but given that the lady has told you to just say if it would help for them to wear headphones I think you would be ok to ask for them to do so for a short time.

If they've asked if it's too loud then they know really.
I don't think it's unreasonable to ask them during run up to exams and exam period.

Sorry ' how to word my reader's ideas welcome too

It sounds like she already knows it's very loud, I would ask them to use headphones and make sure you're not too loud either.

Thanks, we don't have noise cancelling headphones, but that's an idea. She's tried her phone ear phones, but it,s so loud it doesn't work. Ear plugs might be cheaper to try. Thanks

Oh you are funny!!
Your DD should wear noise cancelling headphones.The world does not revolve around her GCSEs!

Noise cancelling headphones great idea! I borrow my sons sometimes and they are much better than ear plugs. Could she maybe ask at school to see if music teacher could loan her some? If she feels she can that is?

Exactly. If the people next door can wear headphones, so can your daughter.

Noise cancelling headphones are definitely in order, much easier! Otherwise just ask, why not since they told you to tell them if it was too louse!

Why can't your DD go to a library or another place to study? Or get up earlier in the morning and get in an hour of work (which is what I did).

Noise cancelling headphones are probably easiest, though.

queenofsass I am aware that the world does not revolve around her GCSE exams. I am genuinely asking for useful ideas and suggestions.
Noise cancelling headphones never occurred to me and seem like a great idea

I can only assume the evangelists for noise cancelling headphones don't have the joy of noisy neighbours. Exams or not it grinds you down having no control over your own environment.
Id ask them. Her exams and state of mind are important at this time.
And to be honest I'd be asking them anyway.

Yes you could try headphones for your daughter but I can’t believe how many people think it is acceptable for the neighbours to have the TV so loud they can tell what channel and on a daily basis? Is it because they are elderly?

MN is the most surprising place at times.
So the ops neighbours have their tv/music on so loud that the op and family can hear it in every room and can tell what programme the neighbours are watching. Louder than the op and family have their own telly on.

And the solution is for op's dd to wear noise cancelling headphones in order to study in her own home. Really?

Yes OP go and ask. Tell them the effect the volume is having on your being able to live comfortably in your own home. Its not just about dd revising is it really. Why should you have to put up with that for hours every day?

I hope the neighbour is understanding - just as he has the right to enjoy his home, so do you. x

Honestly your daughter should have strategies for coping with this without you needing to get involved. If she’s on study leave and waking up at 7 and revising until 4pm on the trot; then the four hours could be a break for her to do chores / go for a walk / exercise.

No study leave. In school 8.30- 3.30. School's rules.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask your neighbours to wear headphones when listening to the tv or music, when otherwise they require the volume to be at an anti social level. Whether it’s through necessity (hearing loss) or choice, neighbours can’t just make as much noise as they like.

Agree with pinga its too loud to start with. I genuinely wouldn’t be putting up with that shit at all

Your daughter can use noise cancelling headphones to stop the noise, but your neighbours can't stop being hard of hearing. I think it'd be a bit hard to ask elderly people to live in relative silence while your daughter studies, but maybe you could compromise and have her use headphones for now but ask them to be extra quiet during exam weeks.

It's clearly too loud
I don't know how you put up with it all the time
Ask them, it is not unreasonable, and they already know that

Arent there any rooms at all in you house that don’t share the same wall as your neighbours?