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Was I unreasonable? New neighbours!

78 replies

Sherlock28 · 08/05/2018 21:05

A little long as I want to include some background.

We've recently had a new family move in next door. Mr X (the DH) has a car business so the first week they moved in there were 4 extra cars in our narrow little cul de sac, all parked legally, 2 on our shared driveway and 2 more or less outside his house. We have 2 spaces for us on our drive so no issue with us not being able to find parking, just a little extra manoeuvring needed as one of his cars was parked across his drive so blocking ours by a few inches. This bothered DH a little but I told him to leave it as they were new neighbours and I didn't want any issues. We could just park right up against the wall to allow space for us to get in on the driver side.

When bin day arrives they constantly put bags in our bin and leave bags all around the side. DH went out once to put a bag in our bin and there was obviously no space! There's only 2 of us and 6 of them so I again I told DH not to bother saying anything, if our bin is half empty their bags going in isn't an issue and they would obviously have more rubbish than us as there is more of them. They obviously hadn't realised we had more bin bags that time as our bin had been taken out and put in front of the house.

Today DH comes home from work and there is vomit on our empty side of the drive and on theirs next to the driver side of their car. He knocked on next door and asked if everything was ok. The wife answered and asked why he was asking this, he said there is vomit on the drive. She said let me go in and check with my husband and closed the door on him. DH waited a few minutes and realised she wasn't going to come out again. He then parked elsewhere. I arrived home and the wife was washing vomit off the drive. I was unaware as to what had happened and as soon as I opened the car door she walked over and told me DH was unreasonable for knocking on and he should have just cleaned it himself. I asked if it was my DH's vomit and she said no it was her DH's but he was come across with nausea, puked, walked in his own house, and didn't tell anyone. She said it had just happened so her DH didn't have chance to tell anyone. I enquired about her DH, hope he got well soon and just walked in to my house. Myself and DH checked our security camera and Mr X had vomited at 2.25pm, myself and DH both arrived home between 5 and 5.30pm so it was there for hours! I said hello to Mrs X just now as I was taking my bin out and she said 'I thought you were nice neighbours but I was obviously wrong' and just walked in to her house.

I'm so confused, did DH or I do something wrong here?

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Idontdowindows · 08/05/2018 21:07

Nope, you've got entitled fuckers next door, sorry.

LaGattaNera · 08/05/2018 21:09

No OP - it's them! Definitely them!

caitlinn · 08/05/2018 21:09

Not being unreasonable at all, it isn't your job to clean someone else's vomit, neither is it your DH's job. Let the dust settle and hopefully this will be the end of it!

Plasebeafleabite · 08/05/2018 21:10

Borrow my dcat - she enjoys a good vomit. She could start with their front doorstep

Returnofthesmileybar · 08/05/2018 21:10

When she said she thought you were nice what she actually meant was she thought you were pushovers, she is not impressed now she thinks you are not. Start standing up to them about the rubbish too, people like that are total piss takers

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 08/05/2018 21:13

oh crap. get the house on the market, or kill her with your kindness.

Fruitcorner123 · 08/05/2018 21:14

Oh dear. Next time your DH is annoyed by something they do don't talk him out of speaking up. They sound unpleasant and you did nothing wrong.

Sherlock28 · 08/05/2018 21:15

We've also had new people move in opposite to us and their visitors park dreadfully. It's a small cul de sac so any extra cars not on anyone's drive cause an issue. So with the addition of the cars next door and the way opposite neighbours visitors park it's been hard/nearly impossible to get on to our drive. We've had to ask opposite neighbours to move their cars twice. God I miss my old neighbours!

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PuppyMonkey · 08/05/2018 21:15

Fasten your seatbelts, you’re in for a bumpy ride with these lot OP. Sad

WibblyWobblyWho · 08/05/2018 21:16

Oh dear they sound unhinged op. Good luck. If it's any consolation our neighbours are also insane. Fortunately they have yet to vomit on our property.

viques · 08/05/2018 21:16

No moreMrs NiceNeighbour with their bin bags in your bins, and that's an order!

Sherlock28 · 08/05/2018 21:17

Annoying thing is DH is usually the softie and I'm very quick to challenge unreasonable behaviour, but with them being neighbours I didn't want any unnecessary conflict with people you see everyday. I'm forgetting being polite now, I'll be knocking on each time their stupid cars are blocking the entrance to my drive even slightly!

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staffiegirl · 08/05/2018 21:17

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cafetea · 08/05/2018 21:18

How awful of them to not say sorry. The neighbours cleaning the sick up should have done so without complaining about you. I would say that from now they keep their property and rubbish to themselves. Get your dh to speak up as well. Any illegal parking they do report it

Sherlock28 · 08/05/2018 21:20

Such a shame as it's such a lovely quiet little estate, and when they first moved in, they told us they'd moved from a really rough area and appreciated the quietness we have here!

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FrogFairy · 08/05/2018 21:21

Get a gravity lock for your wheelie bin, this will prevent them using it without you having to have a conversation about it.

chocolatesun · 08/05/2018 21:21

I feel sorry for you OP, they sound awful. I agree with the advice here. Don’t let them bully you.

daffodillament · 08/05/2018 21:22

How disgusting. Cheeky bastards too. "I thought you were nice neighbours" ..this is one of those times you think of great things you could have said after the event like .." funny you should say that, I was just saying how we are going to really miss the lovely neighbours who lived in that house before you". Good luck.

Singlenotsingle · 08/05/2018 21:23

Just wondering if they have the right to use their house for business purposes. Isn't it a change of use? Does the council permit it? Does their mortgage? You won't know but it's worth looking into. I wouldn't be happy if my neighbours did this!

bimbobaggins · 08/05/2018 21:28

What is it with the “kill them with kindness “. Don’t bother with this.
Just go about your business as normal but don’t let them walk over you .

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 08/05/2018 21:28

Time to move, OP. This isn’t going to get better.

SaltireSaltire · 08/05/2018 21:32

You've got a rough ride ahead......?

SmashedMug · 08/05/2018 21:35

they told us they'd moved from a really rough area and appreciated the quietness we have here!

That's code for "oooh everyone here is quiet so they won't dare stand up to us CFs!"

birdonawire1 · 08/05/2018 21:44

Try just to rise above it. They’re your neighbors not your inlaws.

If you get confrontational it will escalate and escalate and will get nasty. Ignore them. Lock your bin lid. Ignore the parking. Even vomit in the drive is preferable to an all out war this type of neighbour can inflict on you.

You are in the right but you have to be cleverer than them.

Maelstrop · 08/05/2018 21:44

I’d be on to the council about his cars blocking up the street. Search out the CF dog grooming neighbours, they were told to stop clients parking on others drives, you might be lucky if you complain.

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