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To think I've been catfished?

104 replies

NameChangeGaryOldmansMate · 08/05/2018 17:21

Name changed for this one, but penis beaker etc!

So I met a guy online after being single for a while. He seemed nice, attractive, we chatted for ages etc and eventually agreed to meet last week. I drove to his town (20 mins away) and waited at the coffee shop we agreed to meet at. After 15 mins or so and he didn't show up, I messaged him on FB asking where he was. No reply and did the same thing after about 30 mins had passed.

I hung around for about an hour (large shopping centre) but he never showed so I gave up and went home.

Later that night he messaged me on FB all apologetic, really sorry I had car troubles and my phone had died so I couldn't make it etc. I was still a bit miffed but he sounded sincere enough so carried on talking to him.

We have been having chats all week until this morning he messaged me out of the blue asking if I wanted to meet tonight at 5pm at the same place as he would be in town.

Its currently twenty past five and he isn't here! I've been stood up haven't I? :(

OP posts:
YessicaHaircut · 08/05/2018 17:53

Well done OP.
I too need to know more about this cake please!

sobeyondthehills · 08/05/2018 17:54

Penis beaker proves the OP is a long time mumsnetter.

No it doesn't my friends who don't use mumsnet know about penis beaker

Original poster
NameChangeGaryOldmansMate · 08/05/2018 17:55

@AgathaF I'm pretty sure he was heading to the cafe as the escalator doesn't really lead anywhere else if that makes sense! Well unless him and Rob were on their way to the gents together pmsl

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mumsypig14 · 08/05/2018 17:55

I think catfishers do arrange dates they have no intention of going to - as a way to keep you strung along longer and will make an excuse as to why they can't make it. Or they make a date in the future and keep postponing for as long as possible.

Its weird but so are people who catfish....

expatinscotland · 08/05/2018 17:56

Block and move on.

StrugglingMumma · 08/05/2018 17:57

Good for you Op. Perfect reply to a twat!

SabineUndine · 08/05/2018 17:57

sobeyond that’s the reason people mention it though. Don’t be pedantic. It’s not nice.

MrsFezziwig · 08/05/2018 17:57

Penis beaker proves the OP is a long time mumsnetter

Well actually it doesn't, it refers to a very well-known thread which was taken up by the national press. It is quite often cited by posters who aren't long-term mumsnetters but want to pretend they are (not that I'm saying that is the case here, of course)

rememberthetime · 08/05/2018 17:58

I had an experience with someone who literally pestered me for a date for about 2 weeks. Kept asking if he could come over when it wasn't convenient or asking me to meet him at short notice. Finally one weekend I agreed. Of course he doesn't show up - sent me a message around 15 minutes after the time to say emergency with his child. This was after he asked me to send proof I had arrived with a picture of me with my drink...

it was purely to mess me around. I went home and blocked him immediately.

Juells · 08/05/2018 17:59

@ManchesterGin

He’s possibly very shy?

Yeah, that'll be it 🤣

BalaBrith · 08/05/2018 18:00

As if you saw him!
As if he brought a friend to a first date...CF!
Atleast you got a yummy cake out of itGrinCake

Mousefunky · 08/05/2018 18:00

Bringing a friend along is hilarious. Why does he need a chaperone? What a loser.

Echobelly · 08/05/2018 18:03

I don't know about catfished, but certainly not treating you and your time with any respect, so he can feck off.

Aeroflotgirl · 08/05/2018 18:05

What a wanker, I would have got him to meet at your home town the second time round, delete and block him.

woodenstag · 08/05/2018 18:05

Uchhhh he sounds like an utter wankstain. Sorry this happened to you twice. You enjoy your cake.

RidingWindhorses · 08/05/2018 18:06

Well at least you know he's real, just a knob.

ManchesterGin · 08/05/2018 18:06

Ha @juells I know, I know.
But someone had to give him the benefit of doubt!?
Glad you enjoyed the cake OP Cake

I’m confused now he’s actually shown up though!

Aeroflotgirl · 08/05/2018 18:07

Tell him to fuck off, go home and have a nice evening in. He's messing you about, flaky and rude. Babe really! Any man who uses that, will not be getting a look in.

Aeroflotgirl · 08/05/2018 18:09

You dodged a bullet, can't stand flaky people.

Aeroflotgirl · 08/05/2018 18:09

The date is between you and him, not you, him and his mate, no thanks, unless he is very nice.

ScrambledSmegs · 08/05/2018 18:10

Penis beaker the sign of a long-time mumsnetter? You’re having a laugh.

I remember when all around here was rivers of sweetcorn

snewname · 08/05/2018 18:11

Chocolate, you say?

Ellendegeneres · 08/05/2018 18:12

😂😂 I so want him to have seen you and been chasing you down namechange! Namechange! Come baaaaaack!!!!!

Did he reply to your last message? Who was hotter, him or rob? 😂

Juells · 08/05/2018 18:13

Bet he'd have been angling for a threesome.

BalaBrith · 08/05/2018 18:16

"Who was hotter, him or rob?"
GrinGrinGrin