To think I've been catfished?

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Name changed for this one, but penis beaker etc!

So I met a guy online after being single for a while. He seemed nice, attractive, we chatted for ages etc and eventually agreed to meet last week. I drove to his town (20 mins away) and waited at the coffee shop we agreed to meet at. After 15 mins or so and he didn't show up, I messaged him on FB asking where he was. No reply and did the same thing after about 30 mins had passed.

I hung around for about an hour (large shopping centre) but he never showed so I gave up and went home.

Later that night he messaged me on FB all apologetic, really sorry I had car troubles and my phone had died so I couldn't make it etc. I was still a bit miffed but he sounded sincere enough so carried on talking to him.

We have been having chats all week until this morning he messaged me out of the blue asking if I wanted to meet tonight at 5pm at the same place as he would be in town.

Its currently twenty past five and he isn't here! I've been stood up haven't I? :(

PS sorry it happened op! Onwards and upwards.

I'd message back 'sorry I forgot about the date, still at home'

If it was a possibility and you haven't mentioned you being there, I would definitely send the above message.

He's an arse! Definitely don't meet him or waste another second messaging him.

AIBU to want you to stay just to find out if he shows up or not??

Then tell him to do one. Go on, have another bit of cake

@Moritz Yeah I think you're right, catfished is when you deliberately mislead people by having a fake picture and bio etc. Although tbf I still haven't actually physically seen him...

He sounds like an absolute meathead

Ditch the loser!

What was your response op? Have you now left cafe?

Haha thanks everyone. I am heading home but not before I get another gorgeous slice of cake to take home!

I bet if you'd have said

'No problem, see you soon! '

He'd have shit himself

@Mollie85 I texted him saying, and I quote "Fuck off" so hopefully thats the end of it

God I don't get why people do things like that to other people don't block him I'd be interested to see how this pans out. Let him think you've given him another chance

haha fucking hell just went down the escalator (cake in hand) and guess who was coming up going the other way! I really hope he didnt see me! there was another guy with him as well!!!! apologies for typos im on my phone!!!

Well done. Perfect reply. What a dick.

OMG can't believe you went past him!

I am wondering 2 things:

1. What does "catfished" mean?
2. Name changed for this one, but penis beaker etc! What does this mean?

I need to know where this delicious cake is from please? This is very important

Sorry I see you have answered my first question already

Who stops to natter to their mate on their way to a date and doesn't care its making them late? And then brings them along?? I reckon they were hoping to get free drinks out of you for the pair of them!

Excellent response!

Go back!
I hate unfinished stories lol.

Penis beaker proves the OP is a long time mumsnetter.

Good grief, even if he is genuine, he’d be bloody hard work. You’re best off out of it.

At least you know what an unreliable waste of space he is before anything has really begun...and at least you got to eat chocolate cake which is always a bonus in my book.

Sooo tempted to message and say yeah sorry just popped to the loo wait in the coffee shop for me and u me and Rob can have a lovely time together! Whilst driving home... and see how long it takes the pair of them to cotton on haha!

@MrsOrmond penis beaker is a phrase long-standing posters use to indicate they have been on Mumsnet a long time. It comes from an old thread in Classics. Maybe someone who isnt on their phone could link to it?

Mmmm cake!

You should follow him and see if he goes to the cafe.