To dress my child in this way?

[desperatehousewife101]

This is a dress from my early childhood , my mum passed away recently and I came across it in her belongings.
AIBU to dress my baby in this regardless of gender ?

Why what?

Why are flowery dresses only for girl children?

I wouldn’t put that on a 5mo boy or girl. Especially if it’s precious to you. It’s impractical and it’ll get ruined. Comfy babygros or vests until they’re a bit more mobile.

I dressed ds1 pretty much exclusively in pink or flowery hand me downs from my sister. No one cared other than occasionally saying ‘what a lovely girl.’ I’d tell them it was a boy and they’d say ‘what a lovely boy’ instead. Ds is nearly 6 now and seems to have survived relatively unscathed.

Go for it Op.

I don't care what you dress your baby in and your baby won't care either as long as he is comfortable.

However, it's the sentiment behind it that bugs me.

You miss your Mum. Your Mum chose it for you to wear when you were a baby - these are your memories and her's.
I'm all for making new ones with your DS. Choose nice things yourself for him to wear and make these his memories in years to come.

It is a girly dress. I don't like to stick to general gender assumptions for clothes but this would be a no. I would consider turning it into a little dungarees romper and lose the flowers.

I am so heartened by most of the responses in this thread. Put a boy in a dress...why? Life is confusing and overloaded with pressure and choices for children as it is without actively confusing them further.

If we weren't going out or he was going to bed I used to put DS in some of him older sister's old pink babygrows (he looked very fetching in a hello kitty one), but i would never put him in a dress and then go out in it.

Personally no i would not put my boy in a dress, he can dress in whatever way he wants when he is older.

Your son might not thank you when he looks over old baby photos but then again he might not give a jot.

Put a boy in a dress...why? Life is confusing and overloaded with pressure and choices for children as it is without actively confusing them further.

The child is 5 months old. I'm sure life is confusing at that age, but not because he's grappling with gender expectations.

Never expected this level or type of reply , wonder what Grayson Perry might think?!

This affects no one but you, the kid's too young to have a clue what's going on. What do you want to get out of it? Is this a way of remembering your Mum and your childhood? I do understand the ways that it is hard to process the loss of a parent when you have such a young child.

(My mum died when my little ones were babies too - she was very crafty, and had knitted jumpers for my babies. In my case, we wore and wore them, and then passed them to friends' babies, as this would have been Mum's wish - but my friends will pass them back.)

, I come from the land of the "gender neutral child) so maybe that has normalised it for me.

So if its normal for you, why do you need to question it?

Personally I think all really young babies look like Yoda if they're wearing a dress, regardless of sex. (my dd certainly did)

Dress him in girls clothes for some cute photos if you want, but don’t take him out in them. People will think you are peculiar. DS won’t give a monkeys

Grayson Perry decided as an adult what he would wear. Not his parents. So it’s a meaningless comparison.

I wouldn't put a dress on a 5mo baby end of, regardless of sex. And no, I wouldn't put a dress on my son. He has been mistaken for a girl since he was born and still does now at 2.6.

But I'm not into all this gender fluid craze either so maybe I'm just an old fashioned bigot. 🤷‍♀️

If some random stranger assumes your baby is a girl, so what?
I presume you wouldn't put him in a dress if it bothered you, so...
'Let clothes be clothes' and all that.
(if that's him in the pic, he looks fine. )

so you just happened to find a dress that would conveniently fit your boy child. Very good. If you come from gender neutral land what is the point of a question about dressing your imaginary boy child in your imaginary childhood girl dress? Surely you are confident enough in your beliefs to just dress him or her in whatever you want. Such a stupid thread.

I live in a very alternative area (Totnes) and so many of the little boys round here wear dresses and fairy wings everywhere. None of the little girls do though which I always find amusing.

Life is confusing and overloaded with pressure and choices for children as it is without actively confusing them further.

How do you feel a 5 month old baby is going to be confused by this?

Your baby is baldy. Put him in a dress, people will assume he is a girl. Put him in blue dungarees, people will assume he is a boy. Same baby. Still baldy. Unless he goes around naked, nobody knows if he's a boy or a girl. Wear whatever you like on him.

yes but 2018 5 month old boys dont wear dresses.

This ^ with bells on.

You are doing it to get a reaction or else why would you post on here if it's so 'normalised' for you, in the 'land of the cloud cuckoo gender neutral child'

yes but 2018 5 month old boys dont wear dresses.
This ^ with bells on.

Um??

but if this 5 month old boy does wear a dress then clearly they do.

Condolences on the loss of your mum Desperate and how lovely to find a dress of yours she cherished.

Can any poster who thinks putting a baby boy in a dress is wrong explain it to me? Really don’t understand the reasoning.

Personally never put baby DC in dresses as found them impractical. But it’s your call to enjoy the lovely dress as you wish. I wouldn’t judge.