To dress my child in this way?

[desperatehousewife101]

This is a dress from my early childhood , my mum passed away recently and I came across it in her belongings.
AIBU to dress my baby in this regardless of gender ?

Of course you can - nothing wrong with it at all. I think it's a lovely idea to use something vintage, and meaningful to you, for your baby.

I can't believe some people think it's strange or it even matters in any way at all.

Personally I would alter the bottoms to make it into a little romper. I make all my dds clothes and have always found dresses a bit impractical for both boys and girls, especially when they start to crawl. If you know anyone who can do a simple alteration it might be an idea, then you can use it for whichever sex child you may have in the future. It’s very cute!

I would be too concerned about it getting ruined, beautiful baby though, he can pull it off

Interesting, I come from the land of the "gender neutral child) so maybe that has normalised it for me.
He looks funny I think, I've been asked if both of my boys are girls even when dressed in very "boy" outfits (if there is such a thing).

Beautiful dress but for a girl.
I wouldn’t care a less what others dress their children in but I wouldn’t put my 5mth old DS in a dress.

If you don't mind people thinking he's a girl then go for it.

Where is "the land of the gender neutral child"?

If the dress is sentimental, why not make something out of the material, like one of those keep sake teddy bears.

Putting your son is a dress is just strange, sorry

I probably wouldn't, because it's a pain for babies to try to move in dresses.

However, I think the 'ooh, it's not right' line of thinking is, frankly, bizarre.

In the past week I have been told my toddler is a boy because:

• he's holding a ball.
• he's wearing a blue top (under bright pink dungarees ...).
• he's having a tantrum (only boys shout ).
• he's strong (girls are nesh and weak).
• he can walk (?!)
• he is wearing striped socks ('boy' socks, apparently).

My toddler's other mum is a butch lesbian and dresses her DD basically like her. I dress her in aforementioned pink dungarees etc. What is interesting is that there is no noticeable reduction in the assumption she's a boy, whether she's wearing tiny check shirts and trousers or bright pink dungarees.

Equally, my friend whose baby has gorgeous blond curls told me he's often taken for a girl, no matter how boyishly dressed.

You cannot change this, because there are absolutely no visible distinctions between fully-dressed boys and girls at this age.

Dress the child in whatever the heck you like, but perhaps get used to smiling and nodding and not correcting people who use the wrong pronouns.

Put your baby in whatever you want as long as it doesn't bother you when he is mistaken for a girl

I wouldn't put a boy in a dress. Both my boys had 'girls' babygros at some point but a dress is weird

Way back in the dim distant past my Nana had a school photo taken not long after she started school.

There were several boys in dresses. Once upon a time it was the norm.

Do what you want.

These threads are really just the OP sayING “oh look at me, I’m so liberal, I’m putting my son in a dress!”

His penis will fall off. Truefact.

Honestly OP it doesn't matter at all. It's a baby, they give 0 shits about their outfit.

These threads are really just the OP sayING “oh look at me, I’m so liberal, I’m putting my son in a dress!

Is it it though?

I think if that were the case she'd be buying him loads of girly and gender neutral stuff and not just one cherished outfit that might not be used otherwise.

@jellycat1

Are flowers only for girls? Do you have to look at them and enjoy them with your genitals?

Putting your son is a dress is just strange, sorry

Strange? Dresses have previously been in fashion for boys, it isn't currently but so what. If the OP put him in a retro style top would that also be strange as it's old fashioned?

The dress is fine but no I wouldn't dress a boy in it ....unless I was trying to prove some point

Do you have to look at them and enjoy them with your genitals?

I can barely walk through my local park without rubbing my fanny on the forgetmeknots.

They've got a sign now.

I'm confused by all the people asking if the OP will "mind" if people think he's a girl - even if they pay a passing moment's attention to him, and think "oh, a baby girl", why on earth does that matter? Is it such a humiliating demotion for a boy to be momentarily mistaken for a girl?

A "No fairies on the flowers" sign? I like it.

again Once upon a time it was the norm.
but not in 2018

A century ago girls and women didn't wear trousers because of their gender. That changed. Why can't boys/men have the same choices? If they did I think there'd be far less of the current kerfuffle around gender issues.

but the op is the mother in this situation; leave it for him to decide when he is old enough

I wouldn't put any baby in a dress before they started walking, they get all rucked up underneath them. I think putting a baby boy in a dress before he can make the choice is a bit unfair. DS2 went through the fairy dress stage at 2/3, and DS1, now an adult, happily wears women's tops and flowery hairslides. But it was/is their choice.