As for this Nigel Huddleston MP and his comments that grandparents have been accused of harassment for sending birthday cards or Christmas presents, he really needs to understand that this can be another way of forcing contact and continuing abuse.
We have told PILs in no uncertain terms that we will not accept cards or gifts.
It feels morally wrong to accept cards and gifts from someone we do not wish to see in person.
PIL's have used cards and gifts as an excuse to come to our house when we don't want them here.
PIL's have involved other people by asking them to pass on unwanted cards and gifts on their behalf, even after we've repeatedly asked them not to, and caused significant upset in our relationships with those other people when we've refused the gifts again and asked them not to bring them.
Two of our children have died. PIL's have been particularly cruel about these losses, asking me if it still hurts to give birth if your baby is dead, asking if our daughter was born with all of her face or with bits missing, and used our dead daughter's birthday and anniversary of the day she died to come to our house with unwanted Christmas cards and money and caused us a lot of stress and upset.
That's just a tiny snapshot of what they have done to us so if this Nigel person cant see that sometimes cards and gifts are unwanted and are harassment, then he needs to listen to people like us.
Not all cards and gifts are wanted or welcome. And while most normal people can take no for an answer, my PILs can't and won't and they use things like cards and gifts as weapons to hurt us. They used their dead grandchild's birthday as a weapon to hurt us, more than once.
And I absolutely will call the police if they do this again, because PIL's have no respect for us or our wishes. They won't listen to us. So legal steps may be our only option in the future and this grandparents rights nonsense is pandering to them harassing us.