To be so irritated with people swearing in front of small children?

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This seems to be getting worse. I was in a cafe yesterday with my daughter (4) and a young guy (nicely spoken) was on the phone to his mum, telling her about a flat he was going to move into... “Yeah, it’s got a fuck off gym, a garage...”.

I’m in the park and we’ve just moved to a different part because a giant teenager (about 14 years old) keeps running past us shouting “Ahhh, fuckin’ ‘ell!!!”

Part of me wants to politely ask them to stop swearing in front of my children but I remember my Mum doing this and finding it completely mortifying.

I’m sure that I’ve always made an effort not to swear in front of little kids. I do see that in adult spaces it is different but in parks and cafes packed with children, it seems really crass to say fuck.

You'd be surprised how many people see children but don't SEE children iyswim. It doesn't register to some people to change there language

Yabu.

I have no kids. I work with kids and would never swear in front of them, but I never swear at work anyway.
But if I'm out and about talking to friends or on the phone then I will swear if I want to.
How ridiculous.

I was a bit shocked today to hear a child ask his mother "where are the fucking toys"

In the sex-shop

Oh gosh, I’ve just come back to this thread and found lots of responses. I will come back in a bit (am on a bus with the children).

You're on the fucking bus?!

Ha, ha, I was!

I do see that there is a place for swearing. Someone swearing loudly in an adult space (a pub after 8pm) isn’t the end of the world. However, I’m sure that even before I had children I made the effort not to shriek FUCK in the middle of a cafe / playground / outside a school.

I have asked (told) my children that they are not to swear and Told them that they’ll probably get into trouble if they swear at school.

But why does it matter so much? Why do we find certain words offensive when they are not directed at others/meant to offend? Why does it matter if someone says fuck at every other word? I don't know, I can't make too big a deal of it and I certainly wouldn't try to police what others do or say around my kids.

I think it’s because people swear for an impact. Hearing fuck every other word is just so miserable. Plus hearing children swear is awful.

Oh grow up all of you

Oh bore off love. You are obviously one of those people that can’t string a sentence together without swearing.

@Tobythecat What about if I, a childless adult, doesn’t like you swearing. Am I allowed to tell you to moderate your language just because I don’t see the need for you to use it like confetti? A good swear word should shock and be used for effect!

@LemonysSnicket How disrespectful and entitled you sound. You're a disgrace

IT'S CALLED HAVING RESPECT FOR OTHERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To be fair to LemonysSnicket, he or she has said that they have been trying to filter their language but it hasn’t come automatically.

I just don't think there's any need for it in front of little ones.

I work at a primary school & I shouldn't be but I'm still surprised when a child in reception says the f-word...most likely copying what they've heard at home.

Swearing at children and in front of children is different and I hugely think this is class and cultural

My dh is Irish and swearing in very normal I was actually took a back

Also it’s the context q

YANBU if I see small children around I will watch my language, not that I'm a huge swearer anyway. Unfortunately a lot of people just don't consider it.

Where we used to live our neighbours were terrible at it. They would swear all the time very loudly in their garden, no consideration for the families either side whose kids were obviously in the garden. It would be things like, wife shouting from the back door 'want a cup of tea Bert?'
And Bert loudly replies 'love a fucking cup of tea. As if you need to fucking ask, stupid cow'. Now I know it was their garden so nothing could be said but fuck was used every other word and they had no consideration of their neighbours having to listen to it. It's the reason we moved as I was really uncomfortable with my then young children hearing that amount of swearing nearly every time they played outside.

That was Bert and his fucking stupid cow of a wife's cunning way of getting the neighbours' annoying, shrieking kids back indoors, presumably.

Got to find some way to get a cunting bit of peace and fucking quiet!