To think my neighbours are either creepy or have no sense of personal space?

[Hidingtheworld]

I live in a ground floor flat of a converted house. I think there’s about 7 flats in total and we all share the freehold.

There’s a patio area outside my bedroom (owned by everyone) but I don’t use it. Two of my neighbours use it a lot in the nice weather.

Fine. Except they have a table and chairs right outside of my bedroom window to the point that he could turn his head slightly and just be staring straight at me, (I’m currently in bed getting over an infection)

It freaks me the hell out. I don’t want a stranger staring at me in my own flipping bedroom

I'd go for a Japanese maple or other small tree in a large tub weighed down with bricks. They are not too heavy looking as a plant so you'd still get the light, but it would be too inconvenient for them to move it. Even if you get a deciduous one, I guess the other people won't be sitting outside in winter anyway.

If you're in bed ill I don't understand why you don't just shut the curtains?

1)Talk to them, - tell them you find it awkward having them right outside your window.They may just be a bit unaware.

2. Are they sitting on their own, personal, table and chairs, which nobody else uses? If so, move theirs, and get your own set, put it outside your window, and stake you claim.

I know it sounds childish, but I have been in this situation, and this was the only thing that worked. People are still quite simple creatures at heart;

• my stuff = my area = keep away!!

Found last years.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2936151-Neighbours-sitting-outside-my-window

Get naked and lie spread-eagled on the bed playing with whatever you fancy.

See if it puts them off their Chianti

Like any neighbour thread: just talk to them. Ask them if they'd mind moving it. If they won't, go from there.

THIS!!

I would never buy a ground floor flat with a shared garden for this reason! Private garden or a higher floor flat every time.

@adaline

Someone found the link to last year's thread, and posted it on page 4.

Thanks anyway.

busted lol

So you have your plan now. When you are well, get some window film, and get some nice decorative plants to go outside your window. (Ideally scented ones so if anyone moans about moving the table say you want the scent to come in through your window.)

@Furano

I would never buy a ground floor flat with a shared garden for this reason! Private garden or a higher floor flat every time.

Not very helpful.

What?! So has the OP had this same problem for a year, or is the world's most boring troll thread?

Sell up or move, and make sure viewings are on a day when CF neighbour's table and chairs are there (but not them also), pretend they are yours, and what wonderful times you have sitting out there on a sunny evening.

There is no other solution really. GO.

@BrendasUmbrella

What it is (probably,) is that the neighbours haven't been sitting outside since October, (coz we have had a 6-7 month winter remember!) and they have suddenly started going out again, and so the old problem has resurfaced.

Seems daft that the OP has still not done anything about it though, in the YEAR since the last thread.

Sorry @hidingtheworld , I still feel for you, but with this new information, that you posted about this a year ago, I am struggling to fathom why you still haven't talked to them about it. I do agree with you that them sitting under your window is odd! but do talk to them about it.

Or shall we see you next May with an identical thread? May as well just copy and paste!

Well you're going to have to move flat then. You can't keep posting a similar thread every single year when it's approaching around Summer time.

Oh right UserV I get it now! Well try and do something about it this year OP!

Agree with @BrendasUmbrella!

FFS, I can think of nothing worse than having to share a patio or garden, with a bunch of pane peering pissants. Next time they sit outside your bedroom, go out and clean the windows, flicking the duster in their direction. Tab hanging twats.

OP just ask them to move their table over...

So what are you going to do? You seem to be ignoring everyone’s advice.
I agree though it is v annoying and weird of them.

Where has the OP gone?

We haven't heard a PEEP out of her, since someone posted a link to her (identical) thread from last May (on page 4.)

Where ARE you @hidingtheworld ???

Any response about why you posted this issue last May and still have done nothing about it?

love these throwback threads

Hmm, so the OP in last year's thread said this:
(practically have their heads resting on it!)

and in this year's thread:
I care that they decide to place themselves with their heads practically resting on my window sill.

But in last year's thread, the patio was owned by the neighbours, whereas this year, it's also owned by the OP.

Net curtains, voiles, window film, are all options for privacy. Why hasn't OP addressed this problem by now?

Is it the OP on the other thread or just a similar thread with a similar diagram?

I'd say it's the same poster, because the same language was used in both threads about the head resting on the windowsill. Also, both OP's have the same style of answers. Neither acknowledged all the sensible suggestions.