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Original poster

To think my neighbours are either creepy or have no sense of personal space?

145 replies

Hidingtheworld · 04/05/2018 15:57

I live in a ground floor flat of a converted house. I think there’s about 7 flats in total and we all share the freehold.

There’s a patio area outside my bedroom (owned by everyone) but I don’t use it. Two of my neighbours use it a lot in the nice weather.

Fine. Except they have a table and chairs right outside of my bedroom window Confused to the point that he could turn his head slightly and just be staring straight at me, (I’m currently in bed getting over an infection)

It freaks me the hell out. I don’t want a stranger staring at me in my own flipping bedroom

OP posts:
AngelsSins · 04/05/2018 16:16

Well I agree with you OP, course they have a right to use the patio, you haven’t suggested otherwise, but to push the table right up to your window, that’s weird, and pretty rude. Could you just ask them to move it as they’re disturbing you? Maybe some pot plants outside your window could help? Or a bike, if you have one, left outside your window instead? Or, if it would work, briskly open your window and then when it almost hits him, act horrified that he’s sitting so close!

Cakeorchocolate · 04/05/2018 16:16

YANBU. I would not be happy with their placement but also would never have taken a flat like that. You'll have to speak to them or get some of that mirror film stuff put on the window.

UserV · 04/05/2018 16:16

@DougFargo

nice dripping there.

No mention of size of "patio" which are generally much smaller than you are now saying

I am sure NO patio is only the length of someone's bedroom window! Hmm There are obviously other places to sit on it. It's fucking weird to plop your arse RIGHT outside someone's BEDROOM window!

And why are people always accused of 'drip-feeding' just coz they don't mention every bleedin' last detail in the first post. Jeeeeeeeeeeez! Confused

FrancisUnderwood · 04/05/2018 16:16

Go outside and move the furniture away. I doubt theyre purposefuklly perving on you, is it that this is the area which gets the sun most?

How about a nice voile? there are no nice voiles-

Halfpastfreckle · 04/05/2018 16:18

Is it the case that that particular spot is it the sunny spot on the patio? Maybe there is a reason they have chosen it for the table and chairs?

DougFargo · 04/05/2018 16:19

Its drip feeding because its literally the ONLY relevant point to the post Hmm

UserV · 04/05/2018 16:20

I think putting something outside your window (like planters for example) is a good idea.

AngelsSins · 04/05/2018 16:20

Go outside and move the furniture away. I doubt theyre purposefuklly perving on you

Yeah because that’s such rare behaviour from men....

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 04/05/2018 16:20

I would get out there one day before them, move their table and chairs and settle yourself down there. They can’t just ‘bagsy’ the spot right under your window because it suits them, it’s available to all of you equally.

UserV · 04/05/2018 16:21

@DougFargo

Its drip feeding because its literally the ONLY relevant point to the post

No it's not. And even if it is - so what?!

PoisonousSmurf · 04/05/2018 16:21

Reflective film is your answer. You can see out and all they see is...Themselves Grin

DougFargo · 04/05/2018 16:21

It is. And what do you mean so what? If you miss out literally the actual point of the thread, so what?
Are you on glue?

PuppyMonkey · 04/05/2018 16:22

No offence OP, but that’s a rubbish diagram. Grin

Ask them to move away.

Or...

If you’re not too poorly, go and move the table away when they’ve gone back inside and put your own table against your own window instead.

ImPreCis · 04/05/2018 16:22

Move their furniture, and get your own which you can then put outside your own window.

You could just get a smallish table, on which you put a large planter and flowers so they can’t use your table for coffee/papers.

LakieLady · 04/05/2018 16:23

Get a chamber pot. Use it.

Then empty it out of your bedroom window while they're sitting there.

That'll learn 'em.

SmashedMug · 04/05/2018 16:24

Like any neighbour thread: just talk to them. Ask them if they'd mind moving it. If they won't, go from there.

TeddyIsaHe · 04/05/2018 16:25

oh I would hate that! Go outside and move the table and chairs to outside their window. And then get a nice planter the width of your window and put it out there with some bamboo or some such in it.

TeddyIsaHe · 04/05/2018 16:25

No, Lakie’s idea is perfect 😂😂

Efferlunt · 04/05/2018 16:25

Could you just ask them to move it?

DougFargo · 04/05/2018 16:27

Actually speak to them, having a reasonable and adult conversation? Are you mad? Who does that when you can moan on aibu instead?

VladmirsPoutine · 04/05/2018 16:28

I can't believe you've been accused of drip-feeding over a window and a patio Grin. Only on MN!!

Original poster
Hidingtheworld · 04/05/2018 16:28

YANBU. I would not be happy with their placement but also would never have taken a flat like that

It wasn’t like I went to a viewing walked into the bedroom and the estate agent said “and there’s Roger and Karen give us a wave”

It was in winter and there was no furniture placed outside.

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DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 04/05/2018 16:28

I’d knock and ask if they would move it as it’s right by your bedroom and a bit unnerving.

If they say no, or you chicken out of talking to them, buy some reflective film for your window and maybe a wall mounted rotary dryer on which you constantly have your small drying Smile

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 04/05/2018 16:29

*smalls not small!

problembottom · 04/05/2018 16:30

When they're next sitting there open the window, lean out and join in the conversation.