to think that my boss should be ok with my antenatal appointments?

[NumberNina]

Keeping this as short as possible. Boss isn't happy with how many ante natal appointments I have booked in. I've had miscarriages in the past, had a loop procedure due to my smear test, and have been bleeding a fair bit during this pregnancy. Due to this I am being seen more often for monitoring by the hospital.

My boss has made it very clear that 'she didn't remember having so many appointments' and that it would be useful if I tried to book them on the same day (really difficult to try and do this). Is it normal to have so many appointments? And AIBU to think my boss is out of order to judge me for how many appointments I'm having?

It's hard when you're being made to feel bad for being out of the office but that's surely just part of it pregnancy (p.s. I work in a very big office that can cover me easily when I'm not in).

"Our local midwives had one clinic a week on the same afternoon every week. Not much leeway there"

And due to the cuts this type of thin will become more prevalent.

I sure my company only give you time for the actual appointment. Any time taken to get to the appointment and back etc needs to be made up at a later date.

I feel lucky that my employer was so good. I had appointments twice a week in work time for the last few months and would spend at least half a day each time (growth scans, heart rate monitoring, bloods, consultants review, plus more). Sometimes they decided that they wanted to keep me in until the blood results came back, so I'd be there all day. Sometimes several other women were in for emergency heart traces, and I needed to wait a while to be seen. Once my temperature was high, so they made me lie on a bed and eat biscuits while they blew a fan at me for an hour (not sure that one was strictly necessary).

No one at my work was anything but supportive, and if they had been I would have told them to fuck right off. The above monitoring levels brought the risk of stillbirth down from 28% to near normal, so there was no way I was doing anything except exactly what the consultants and midwives told me to.

Document everything. Every appt you have, email to boss and cc HR with ‘I will be having an antenatal appt on Monday 10am which will last x time plus x travel’ if they ask, send a copy of the appt letter (with anything confidential blocked out if needed.)

I always take my phone and zip through emails and stuff while travelling and waiting and I always try to book for 8am where I can, but obviously this isn’t always possible. My work have been horrendous about it all, trying to make me take paid vacation for appointments, insisting on written documentation for appointments I only have a slip or a text for. It’s caused a lot of stress. I was seriously ill and in hospital during the first trimester and they are refusing to pay me sick pay as they say pregnancy related sickness isn’t covered. They are utter bastards.
Documenting it gives you a paper trail. Be professional, be flexible where you can and get as much as you can in writing. Your boss’s pregnancy has zero bearing on yours.

My then boss refused to let me go to ANY. Medical appointments in work time
I was to take them on my off days only
Wish I’d known this then

Pinkhorse if they are doing that, that's illegal. They have to allow you travel time too.

For all those treated badly I am so sorry.

Plus it goes to show how poorly our rights are advertised. So many women don't know what their rights are.