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To think SIL is acting up

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jnfrrss · 03/05/2018 09:14

She's coming to stay for a night this weekend. She always makes a big deal over she's addicted to coffee. Every morning she'll act as if she can't function, think, drive or do anything without a coffee.

Aibu to think it's just an act?

She will refuse alright instant or French press stuff but yet a Costa machine from a garage 15 mins walk away is fine. She always makes me feel guilty about not having a coffee machine and says ridiculous things like "I'll need to get a taxi to the garage".

She's not an addict right? I've worked in a and e and acaholics used to eat the hand wash so I don't see a real dependency with her as she refuses any coffee I have in the house.

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IHeartMaryLennox · 03/05/2018 09:17

Well I need a coffee to get going and instant doesn't cut it but strong ground stuff in a French press is perfect.

And stronger than she'd get at Costa, their coffee is truly shite.

So no, she's not a true addict if she drinks Costs imo.

SoyDora · 03/05/2018 09:20

Sounds really annoying.

DingDongDenny · 03/05/2018 09:22

Sounds like a drama lama - is she like that about other things?

letsdolunch321 · 03/05/2018 09:22

Message her before she arrives, don’t forget I don’t have a coffee machine & bring your preferred coffee with 😁

That way you have forewarned her

Jaxinthebox · 03/05/2018 09:22

yuk to costa coffee - she isnt a true coffee snob at all. Grin

French press is so much nicer. Just tell her that you have researched coffee and the best is what you are offering. Im not keen on instant coffee, Im a 'real' coffee drinker, but if I was staying at yours I wouldnt complain.

DevilsDoorbell · 03/05/2018 09:23

Remind her to bring her preferred coffee with her

NobodysChild · 03/05/2018 09:23

Send her a text saying she should pre book a taxi to take her to the garage for her coffee, as it's bank holiday weekend and taxi's will be hard to get.

GymBot · 03/05/2018 09:24

Attention seeking

Storm4star · 03/05/2018 09:24

I have a bit of a psychological addiction to cappuccinos. Always get one on the way to work and feel crap if I don’t get my fix! However, she’s being totally ridiculous to say she can’t manage one morning without.

CalpolOnToast · 03/05/2018 09:25

Tell her to get an aeropress and bring it. Better than any machine I've had.

WomanEqualsAdultHumanFemale · 03/05/2018 09:26

Sounds like an opportunity for a bit of fun. You could either join in on the act with her and every time she mentions coffee you could go all amdram and enthusiastically agree “oh I know!! I’m exactly the same! Grab me a coffee while you’re at the garage” and send her out on random coffee errands.

Or just completely ignore every reference to coffee and see how long it takes for her to take the hint and shut up. Completely ignore. Pretend she hasn’t said a thing at all.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 03/05/2018 09:27

She is trying to imply her life is sooooo important she needs better than anything mere you can provide....

onalongsabbatical · 03/05/2018 09:28

Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Costa coffee is vile! French-press coffee is as good as the coffee you use, i.e. if you use Lavazza, it's the bee's knees. She is just making stuff up for attention, honestly. Makes you feel guilty for not having a coffee machine? No, don't feel guilty, just laugh at her as you sip your very good coffee and she faffs about actually leaving the house to buy rubbish coffee. She's ridiculous.

Roussette · 03/05/2018 09:29

So you have a cafetiere and she thinks costa coffee is better? What on earth is she expecting you to have???

missbonita · 03/05/2018 09:38

Costa machines make really shit coffee.......

GnotherGnu · 03/05/2018 09:44

Tell her to bring her own coffee machine, it's got to be cheaper than taxis and Costa coffee.

Trethew · 03/05/2018 09:45

I’d be tempted to replace all the coffee in your house with decaf and see if she realises

pigmcpigface · 03/05/2018 09:45

Yes, this sounds like a really silly act. She needs to grow up.

I suggest that you present her with a couple of ProPlus, and tell her that they contain as much caffeine as a Costa, and that if she is really addicted then they will do the job.

QueenOfAccidentalDeathStares · 03/05/2018 09:50

if she is happy to walk 15 min to coffee shop then let her.

Birdsgottafly · 03/05/2018 09:52

As said, shed be happy with the French Press, if she was a Caffeine Addict.

I'd start looking at her pityingly and asking her if she's ever thought of getting help for her addiction. I'd be meaning her addiction to drama, but she would be free to draw her own conclusions.

Either way, I don't enable addictions.

MrsDilber · 03/05/2018 09:52

A cafetière is fine. She's being a knob.

Singlebutmarried · 03/05/2018 09:52

Do you have a birthday or similar soon?

Send her a link for a coffee machine and suggest she buys it for you and then she can use it at yours.

Think of all the money she’ll save on taxis.

Aridane · 03/05/2018 09:53

Sorry - but I can't function without caffeine. I get a headache - and if I go completely cold turkey I get flu like symptoms. This is well-acknowledged medically - indeed, it's now thought that one of the reasons people can feel a bit crap after a general anaesthetic is caffeine withdrawal.

However, I do think your SIL is being a bit of a prat!

hellsbellsmelons · 03/05/2018 09:54

She always makes me feel guilty about not having a coffee machine
Well she can't MAKE you feel guilty.
You allow her to.
Stop allowing it.
You don't have a coffee machine.
So what???
Tough shit on her.
She can bring her own.
No need to feel guilty.

SoyDora · 03/05/2018 09:54

Sorry - but I can't function without caffeine

Then you’d be happy with a French press coffee, wouldn’t you?

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