To get angry with DH for interrupting me

[interuptus]

When Im talking.
This morning was an example, we were going through new work pattern child care options before he went to work.
As I'm replying to him with my thoughts he starts saying to our 2 year old; "Are you going to the farm park today? That will be fun won't it"

I stop talking and he gets annoyed and says "keep going I am listening"

This happens ALL the fucking time. I shouted "YOU'RE NOT LISTENING IF YOURE TALKING!"

This happens several times a day and it pisses me off. It was worse when we had a cat because he'd suddenly start talking to the cat.

Im not talking to someone who is simultaneously talking.

He left for work saying "I would really like to hear your thoughts on this though" and I said well you'll have to listen then won't you.

ARGGGH SO ANNOYING!!!

My mother in law does this. She will interrupt me and start talking to my son.

I stop the conversation dead and stare at her until she stops.

He sounds a bit scatter brained.

Breathe In. Hold.... Breathe out Slowly................. Chill OP

Basically what Daphne said. I used to have a colleague who did that. I'd just stop and stare.

Unless this is a 'Lighthearted' Post............ Then go ahead and whack him back of the head "Jethro Gibbs' Style

My grown up dd kills conversation when she's looking at her mobile while i'm speaking. I also stop the conversation dead till she has the manners to look up whilst i'm speaking.

This drives MAD OP! My DP does this all the time too. But then gets annoyed if I interject his monologues with a relevant point

It just makes me feel like the boring one all the time. I was trying to discuss something to do with nursery with our 4yo this morning. DP literally put zip-a-dee-do-dah on his phone between me and 4yo and started singing. It's always me having to say, sorry could we just finish this boring but necessary thing before you come in all jazz hands?!

Honestly, YANBU.

YANBU. You need to point it out calmly every single time.

My DH did the same. I started to get upset when he talked over DD and got tough with him.

Same here. So disrespectful, it feels like why I’m saying doesn’t matter.
Stop taking and walk away.

My DP is exactly the same!
I just stop talking and when he says "I'm listening blah blah"
I just go "I'm going to go call my Mum and talk to her about ..." - and I do to make a point.
And then usually we will have a week of listening because he doesn't like not being in 'the know' 😂
(Also we have 2 cats so if he talks to one I talk to the other so we look like a right pair!!) 😂😂

Mine does this too, it's very fucking irritating and rude.

Just keep pulling him up on it, try and stay calm (but firm) if you can. Easier said than done.....

Biscuitraider my adult dd does this too. She'll start looking at her phone mid sentence so I stop talking. Without looking up she says " go on, I'm listening". Err no you're not. Gives me the 🤬🤬

My teens do the phone thing too. Drives me mad and i stop talking till they put it down or i lose the plot

A "Gibbs slap" is a regular thing in our house 😀

If you are discussing a practical matter get to the point rapidly. His brain will not tolerate flannel. Specially when it comes to important issues like shift patterns and child care.
If it's just general chit chat then his mind will handle the extra.

Mine does this too! So annoying! I just stop talking and then he asks me why I've gone quiet and claims he was listening (even though he was talking to toddler at the same time!)

This is actually a big thing. It's not a question of 'chilling' or being 'scatterbrained'. It's incredibly rude and disrespectful. It's also indicative of an arrogance and refusal to believe anyone else has anything worthwhile to say.

My exH did this (how did you guess?!). He was also picked up for it at work. He did admit to it and I think tried every now and then to NOT do it - didn't work.

You need to pick him up on it EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. OP. It's incredibly wearing but maybe he'll change...

Buster72 If you are discussing a practical matter get to the point rapidly. His brain will not tolerate flannel. Specially when it comes to important issues like shift patterns and child care.
If it's just general chit chat then his mind will handle the extra.

Huh?! You're serious?!

DH’s family do this, including DH. They also ask a question, don’t listen to your reply, then say “Whaa?” It drives me crazy and makes it impossible to have a normal conversation. It’s even worse when any of the children are around

Buster
You are joking right?

Otherwise what you are saying is;
A mans brain cannot handle important stuff for more than a minute (how the freak do they cope at work?) but its the woman's fault anyway for "flanneling" and not being able to explain important stuff properly?
But unimportant stuff is ok to chat about cos his poor wee brain can handle this type of non responsibility stuff bless him!

Jeezus wept simultaneously insulting both men and women in one post😀

My DP does this - except he also does it when i'm talking to someone else! I will be in the middle of a conversation wtih DSS and he will just start talking over the top of us! I do completely ignore him when he does it but when he keeps saying my name for attention i can't help but say you are being RUDE and i am having a conversation with someone else wait your turn!

He STILL doesn't get it and he still does it to this day despite every single time I tell him not to ffs.

My DH walks into the next room ALL THE TIME when i am telling hi something fascinating. it drives me mad so i simply stop talking then he pops his had back in and says 'I am listening.'

NO YOU'RE NOT YOU DICK

Rude and full male entitlement.
Noth8ng to do everyone th being scatter brain and needing to chill out.

Could be worse. You could be talking to the top of his head while he reads his phone.

Mine does this too, although usually zones out or walks away rather than talking to someone else, and it really annoys me!

I know talking about arrangements is fucking boring but fgs we have to do it or noone knows who's doing what! And he equally chose to have 3dc so it's not like I should be responsible for everything...

Oh god this is my pet peeve! I used to get compared to the “Gilmore girls” because I talk so fast and it’s because I learnt I had to speak fast before my brothers interrupted me ALL the god damn time!

DH is the same, I’ll be talking about something and he’ll have a brain fart of a thought and go off on a tangent and I’m just like “I give up” and he gets cranky because apparently he was “listening” while simultaneously talking over the top of me. Drives me insane!

My mother does this when I'm on the phone to her and it infuriates me. We'll be having a conversation about something and then she'll suddenly start talking to someone else who is in the room at home with her so the call gets very confusing allot of "wait are u talking to me" "is there someone else there" then she'll just hand the phone to one of the grandkids...it drives me crazy like if your too busy to talk just say.