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AIBU to ask your views on noise in the cinema

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missbonita · 30/04/2018 15:39

I have been discussing this with friends today after DS was incredibly angry that 2 young children talked loudly throughout the Avengers last night.

There is also a story in some of the papers today about a woman with Aspergers being 'dragged' out of the cinema for laughing loudly during The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

On the one hand it seems discriminatory to restrict access to people with certain disabilities from the cinema, on the other the people who have paid should be able to enjoy the film.

WIBU the noisy person, even if it is beyond their control, or the intolerant person even if the noise is spoiling their viewing.

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Merryoldgoat · 30/04/2018 15:47

Personally I would only expect obtrusive noise at a Sat AM kids movie showing or one of the special showings they do for people with sensory needs.

I would be annoyed by loud noise at a general showing.

Merryoldgoat · 30/04/2018 15:49

To add, I would not take children who couldn’t keep reasonably quiet to the cinema. My son is 5, has some extra needs currently being assessed and he can remain reasonably quiet for the right film but I would only take him to a Sat AM showing.

ThisIsNotARealAvo · 30/04/2018 15:51

There are so many different screenings, including autism friendly ones, that it should be easy enough to go to one which suits you. I think kids talking is annoying, and I'd find an adult laughing loudly really annoying too. I'd never say anything though!

I took my kids to see Isle of Dogs yesterday and found the entitled behaviour astonishing. A woman arrived 20 minutes late, loudly complained to her 2 kids about there being no seats left together, then turned the torch on her phone on and flashed it around looking for 3 seats together!

Frosty66612 · 30/04/2018 15:52

I get really pissed off by people talking at the cinema. There was once someone sitting near me who was clearly unwell with some sort of fluey thing and he was constantly coughing loudly and sneezing, it totally ruined the experience for me and I ended up getting ill myself two days later.

kissthealderman · 30/04/2018 15:53

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IHeartMaryLennox · 30/04/2018 15:53

And this is why I gave up my Cineworld card this year.

Too many people don't give a shit about anyone else.

DannyConcannon · 30/04/2018 15:55

It can depend on the film - sometimes watching a comedy or a musical can really be enhanced by a raucous, lively audience reaction.

Most of the time, though, follow The Code.

AllyMcBeagle · 30/04/2018 15:56

I only watch films at home now because there are too many irritating people talking/making noise at the cinema.

I wouldn't take a child to the cinema if they couldn't be expected to be quiet (except maybe a special kids' screening) and wouldn't go myself if I had a condition such as Tourette's which I knew would distract others.

But pretty much every time I have been distracted at the cinema it has just been stupid adults with no obvious impairments who should know better but can't seem to deal with the idea of being quiet for a couple of hours and act as if they are watching the film in their living room.

systemlakeland · 30/04/2018 15:57

I hate disruption during films. I don't ever confront people though.

So I just wait until it's available on streaming.

I can't see cinemas lasting, quite honestly.

amusedbush · 30/04/2018 15:58

I rarely go to the cinema (maybe once a year) because there are so few films I'm desperate enough to see that I'd pay a tenner to put up with people talking/rustle sweetie wrappers/people texting next to me/kids kicking my seat.

libertywoo · 30/04/2018 16:00

We went to see the Avengers at the weekend and a child aged roughly 5, behind us shouted the whole time. The child then started leaning over the back of my sons chair, shouting boo.
It was incredibly annoying particularly as the Mum wasn’t doing anything to quieten the child. The child was clearly too young to sit through the whole film

AmazingPostVoices · 30/04/2018 16:03

Cinema tickets are expensive now. It wouldn’t be acceptable for anyone to make noise at the theatre, the opera or an orchestral concert.

I think the cinema is the same.

kissthealderman · 30/04/2018 16:04

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Oysterbabe · 30/04/2018 16:08

I think every cinema should have a sniper ready to take out anyone who talks, looks at their phone or makes any kind of noise above a certain level.

Cliveybaby · 30/04/2018 16:09

I think if they can't be quiet, they shouldn't be at the main adult showing (children and special needs).
I used to be in a university orchestra that did 3 concerts a year, there was always a severe SN girl that came, and used to groan loudly throuhgout. I appreciate she liked the music but it always felt very unfair for the 100 or so people that had spent all term working on it, and another 100 audience members who had paid to see it.

minionsrule · 30/04/2018 16:13

Same here, i went to see Avengers yesterday and quite a few under 5's in there.
That said they were quiet, the fucking couplebehind pissed me off tho, talked thru first half hour Angry.
Before the movie started one was on the phone but managed to come off just as movie started

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missbonita · 30/04/2018 16:15

When I complained at the Vue they did come and ask the kids (4/5ish) behind us to be quiet but they were too young to understand the plot so endless "What's going on?" "Who is that" "What is he doing" etc was inevitable. After we complained the parents were angry and started kicking DS chair and dropping sweet wrappers on him. Then the kids started getting very very upset and had to be loudly comforted and told a load of nonsense.

At a different cinema to see Kingsman 2 (which was terrible tbf) the family behind us actually started watching a different film on an ipad. When I complained they refunded the tickets immediately and told me that they wouldn't be speaking to them :( - they didn't have the 'manpower'

I can't find a quiet cinema for my film obsessed DS, but keep trying.

Glad to hear others feel the same, I thought we were being intolerant.

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ILikeMyChickenFried · 30/04/2018 16:18

I don't agree with talking in the cinema but I've never actually been that bothered by it either. It doesn't overly affect my enjoyment of the film

MotherOfBeagles · 30/04/2018 16:22

How old is your ds? Vue have special screenings for adults/quiet showings for most films. I only know because my film obsessed husband will it go to any others.

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missbonita · 30/04/2018 16:30

I agree - talking at a low volume doesn't effect me. Sniffing and coughing is more annoying to me. DS can't stand it thou. He's 14 almost 15.

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Spikeyball · 30/04/2018 16:32

Autism friendly screenings aren't for NT children who are too young to sit through a film. I wish people wouldn't lump them together with kid's screenings.

LakieLady · 30/04/2018 16:35

After we complained the parents were angry and started kicking DS chair and dropping sweet wrappers on him.

Whaaat? The kids were out of order, and their parents took it out on YOUR child when you complained?

How utterly fucking pathetic. I don't know how you didn't smack them one, OP.

I stopped going to the cinema because so many people seemed to treat it as an extension of their living room, faff about, chat, offer each other food and drink and so on. And I don't enjoy films half as much on tv, and I've pretty much given up on it.

Shutupanddance1 · 30/04/2018 16:35

Christ try living in the Middle East - kids everywhere, people answering phones having full on conversations, taking babies into regular showings etc.

We also went to see the avengers, some mum planted her 3 under 10s beside us and left. Like left and she wasn’t waiting outside when we got out. Awful

Sirzy · 30/04/2018 16:37

Ds is autistic and I would only take him to one of the relaxed showings because people go to them expecting there to potentially be some level of disruption.

At “normal” showings there really shouldn’t be any need to disrupt the viewing for others

funmummy48 · 30/04/2018 16:38

I'm fairly tolerant of noise, up to a point but last week my husband told off two elderly ladies in Cineworld who were noisily chatting away through the film. 😂

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