AIBU to ask your views on noise in the cinema

[missbonita]

I have been discussing this with friends today after DS was incredibly angry that 2 young children talked loudly throughout the Avengers last night.

There is also a story in some of the papers today about a woman with Aspergers being 'dragged' out of the cinema for laughing loudly during The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

On the one hand it seems discriminatory to restrict access to people with certain disabilities from the cinema, on the other the people who have paid should be able to enjoy the film.

WIBU the noisy person, even if it is beyond their control, or the intolerant person even if the noise is spoiling their viewing.

I built a theatre room in my house in order to avoid other people. I might have to wait until I get something on release, but I have a whole room to myself with no other people that I can enjoy the movie. I have recliner chairs, a coffee machine, a wine fridge and surround sound. No need to deal with people who don't know how to behave in a cinema.

I'm not allowed to eat anything rustly in the cinema. Saw Avengers yesterday, and it was unbelievably bad. We went in the afternoon (I'm self employed and work strange hrs before anyone starts), but I still managed to sleep through great chunks of it. Better than lol. I woke up at one point thinking I was at home in the evening, made a kind of verbal yawn and was about to get up and put the lamp on before realising I was stuck in a freezing cold cinema, with my jacket hood up, and on screen we'd gone to yet another planet where yet another superhero was whizzing about aerially swatting baddies. Then I discovered some extra strong mints in my pocket and cheered up a bit. My OH was grateful for a mint. I heard her forlorn tone when we realised that the superheroes still had to locate 2 more of the 6 magic stones. Yawn. Brrr.

To be honest, whenever it happened to me that someone was really noisy and annoying in the cinema, it was not a special needs person at all. They were just rude and didn't care about others. One of the reasons I stopped going. I rather watch in peace at home, without flying popcorn, screaming kids and annoying adults who think that it is funny to comment the movie.

@kissthealderman you are my person 👍🏻

I would only expect a racket at kids or screenings for sensory issues. In a general showing, no.

On the issue of spending a fortune just to sit and chat - our nearest cinema is a Cineworld and there seem to be a lot of people with Unlimited cards who just book for whatever is on, and then either chat through it or walk out after twenty minutes to try something else - happily clambering over everyone else in the row in the process. You only need to go two or three times in the month to make it worthwhile so they clearly feel they aren't missing out on anything.

This is why A Quiet Place was amazing to see in the cinema. Absolute silence. At one point, a CHARACTER made a small noise and someone in the audience shhed her in horror.

I used to tell people to shut the fuck up, but DH got worried they might attack me outside. So now I resort to calling security and they are usually pretty good. If you are a parent and you have kids who talk, shame on you. Teach them to shut up and be considerate!

Never understood the whole cinema thing...why pay to sit with a group of strangers to watch a film,when you can watch it in the comfort of your own home,at your own volume level,and pause it when you need a wee...

DailyMailReadersAreThick someone behind us at the beginning had sweets or crisps or something and were trying to do it so quietly or wait for noise but all heard was rustle rustle. .. Woops!!

Been in the cinema where someone has answered their phone. What is the point?!

The cinema is so bloody expensive nowadays it’s annoying when you have potentially spent up to £40 to have someone ruin the film talking loudly. YANBU.

Middle aged talkers worse than kids. We were watching Wild with Reese Witherspoon at local arts cinema. Good film but this group of utter weirdos just talked loudly throughout the entire film . Dh asked them politely then less politely to shut up. After he said this they shut up for say 10 mins or so then started up again. They were 50 somethings middle class types how did they not know how to behave in the cinema?! More understandable if kids or daft teens but absolutely no excuse.

Worst thing I encountered at the cinema was a boy and his mum who turned up late, talked through the film and actually took their shoes off. The smell from their feet made me gag, it was seriously puke worthy. The boy eventually shut up when he talked again and i told him to shut up while glaring at him. I did also make several loud comments about how disgustingly smelly they were so his mum could hear. If you can afford the cinema you can afford a fucking shower, or you know don't treat it like your home and keep your shoes on.

DH and I went to the cinema recently, the first time we had to ourselves in over a year.

The film was busy so we were sat right next to people, anyway the film started and the woman next to me opened her handbag and pulled out a kfc meal for her and her daughters, i had to listen to them chomping away next to me. When finished with the food she kept whispering to them and texting on her phone. Honestly my 5 year old who usually has antsin his oants behaves better at the cinema.

We once went to a special film screening with local schools, the classes of children were brilliant and so well behaved. I was sat with my eldest son (home ed) and we had three teachers behind us who chatted the whole way through. At the end I said to them how brilliant the children were and that they could have taken a few lessons from them.

I was once sitting 2 rows in front of some teenagers having sex during a film at the cinema. They had clearly been drinking beforehand as they kept talking and slurring their words. Luckily someone else went and complained and they got booted out pronto by the staff

It depends on who is making noise.

No one was bothered by the gentleman at our cinema today, who was very vocal which was very noticable in the quieter parts of the Avenger film. It was clear that he was enjoying the film and because he had a carer at the front seats, I am guessing most of the sounds were not under his control.

But when adults are playing on their mobile phones or loudly talking through the main feature...that makes me murdereous !

Tiny kids who speak up don't bother me but noisy teens do.

LegallyBrunet - yes I’m sure you were enchanted by your brothers happy shouting. Never mind everyone else eh? 🙄

I find people talking or making noise at the cinema very selfish and annoying. If I've stumped up the cash to be there it's because I want to watch the film, not listen to them.

Likewise people talking loudly at acoustic gigs so they can be heard over the sound of the music- why buy a ticket if you're not interested?!

Have experienced both of these last weekend hence the rant!

People should be made to decant sweets into fabric bags (reusable so environmentally friendly). Bloody child next to us scoffing down a family bag of peanut m and ms during the avengers. Every time there was a quiet bit she’d be crashing around in the bag. Why her mother didn’t stop her I do not know. Dd is a bit prone to this and I always stop her. Also the over excited nerdy teenagers behind us, ruining every trailer and then the bit at the end (another benign parent sitting beside them). Control your children people. We are not charmed or interested by them, just highly irritated .

I use to love the cinema...but honest to God the talking, the burgers, the general attitude that anything goes and that there is no need to be quiet or considerate is killing it for us.

If cinema's don't get it sorted then they will die a slow death - its not like its a cheap night out!

I wonder what these parents are hoping for? I tell my kids to be quiet for the benefit of the others but also to teach them to be kind and considerate which benefits me. These selfish kids will treat everyone badly, not just strangers, half the reason I make them behave is for my own long term benefit - isn't it obvious?

Sorry, I am full to the brim of indignant outrage

We only go to the local independent cinema. It’s all terribly civilised. There’s a bar at the back and you can order a cheese board. Once or twice, I’ve turned round to glare at noisy people, but it’s generally very good. There are tables, not tiers, so pretty comfortable and most people are well-behaved.

I feel that you might all appreciate the Kermode and Mayo Code of Conduct if you aren’t already familiar with it.

“No eating of anything harder than a soft roll with no filling.”