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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

OP posts:
MyFriendFlickaWasAHorse · 29/04/2018 22:24

whose husband is so uninvolved that he doesn't even know what nursery the child goes to and insulted her for having HG - that she had "seven days free to do as you please".

Haaaaaaaa! Oh yes, because a women suffering from HG and caring for a toddler with additional needs does “as she pleases”. So long as what she pleases involves vomiting to the point of dehydration every day for months while trying to care for a very young child.

Her poor dh can’t possibly be expected to remember pesky details like where his toddler goes to nursery. Diddums Hmm.

The thing people forget is that most sahms used to work. I remember it and it really is not torture. Neither is being a sahm btw, but saying, “oh poor men don’t get the choice”, is laying it on a bit thick, to say the least.

I’ll just give my dh the choice again... “would you like to give up working full time and we’ll share the childcare”? No? Thought so.

immortalmarble · 29/04/2018 22:24

You would, rose Hmm

drivingmebananas · 29/04/2018 22:27

Think I'll
Have an hour long coffee with my cake and a trash mag at 1030 tomorrow just for you op. 1039-1100 am Monday morning BearBearyou can have a rushed half chewed bitter Biscuitas you're so busy.

RoundaboutSnail · 29/04/2018 22:28

Zoflora brilliant post Thanks

I think when a lot of people put every tiny personal detail on social media and don't feel a need for privacy, they forget that others may be suffering but never complaining.

You really can't judge a book by its cover. We can never be sure of someone else's situation unless we've walked a mile in their shoes.

crunchymint · 29/04/2018 22:29

I am on JSA. Yes I hate Mondays because I have to get out of bed early to do the school run. Sure I just sling on my dressing gown and slippers, but having to get out of bed before lunch should be against my human rights. Still daytime TV is good sometimes, and I have a 60 inch TV to watch it on.

tillytoodles1 · 29/04/2018 22:30

My H is disabled and I'm his carer, weekend's are the only time we see other people.

LaContessaDiPlump · 29/04/2018 22:32

I've not read the thread, but when I was unemployed I was desperate for the weekend to end. I wanted the world to come back to life, so I could hopefully make some progress towards finding a new job. The weekend felt like a horrible waste of days. So I can't really empathise with moaning that it's over! I suppose other people are happier with their lot than I was and prefer to have family around them at the w/e. I heaved a sigh of relief when everyone fucked off at 8am frankly Grin

FishFingerInjury · 29/04/2018 22:33

ODFOD- for you OP.

Hazandduck · 29/04/2018 22:34

@pooryorick completely agree with everything you’ve said. Hate reading all these SAHPs trying to justify themselves to the OP. Who is the OP to decide what people moan about, or who has the right to moan about certain things?

Raven88 · 29/04/2018 22:35

No because getting up early and chasing children about 5 days a week must be tiring. I have no children so I don't know what it's like.

TheHonSaucyJane · 29/04/2018 22:39

Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit

bringincrazyback · 29/04/2018 22:41

You don't know what might be going on in these people's lives, so yes, YAB a tad U.

OfficerVanHalen · 29/04/2018 22:54

There’s always someone better off than you, more money, easier job, nicer holidays, bigger house. Always. There just is. And you can do everything right and work your arse off and still end up feeling hard done to. The universe is random, karma does not exist. This life is all there is. Envying others is a waste of time and energy. We could all come on and say oh yes op poor you how right you are those awful lazy scrubbers, and then what? Would you be less tired tomorrow at 6am, at after school club pick up, at bedtime? No of course you wouldn’t. It wouldn’t make a joy of difference to anything. If you don’t like your life then all you can do is change it. Moaning and groaning about who ‘deserves’ what and hoping it’ll make a difference is just being a great big baby crying for the moon. Grow up.

arethereanyleftatall · 29/04/2018 22:56

I'm one of these dastardly people to whom you refer op. 'Cept ive got nothing to complain about. Love week days, love weekends.
Regardless of that, people are allowed to complain, just because your life is worse, doesn't render them not allowed.

Beerwench · 29/04/2018 22:57

isseywithcats

i hate the thank god its friday brigade some of us have to work weekends so they are just reminding me that while they are enjoying thier weekends of leisure im blooming working

^this^
My lifestyle, my choice, but I do get privately pissed off about it. As well as the day workers and non workers (for whatever reason) who complain they're tired at lunch time. I work nights and just want to respond with well at least you went to bed last night, I'm awake, same as you (child commitments or just the general noise of the world sometimes) and worked the hours you were sleeping, as I will be again tonight. But then I don't moan about it on Facebook, so not everyone knows the intimate details of my sleep pattern, or lack of. The annoyance is brief though, I've got too much else to keep me occupied to worry about it.

Giraffey1 · 29/04/2018 23:00

Muses ... I don’t know any unemployed people who moan about the weekend being over ....

spudlet7 · 29/04/2018 23:05

Has it occurred to you that perhaps these unemployed people (code for stay at home mums?) would love to be able to work but can't for health reasons, or perhaps because they can't fit work around childcare? Or they may have a smaller child that they care for all day? There may be many who see you in your office clothes and feel envious of you. Just food for thought.

whatsmynametoday · 29/04/2018 23:05

I can be heard in the playground often telling friends I'll be going back to bed after the school run if I'm on a day off - I've got a crohnic illness ... I'd be happy to swap you for being well enough to work full time. Funnily enough I don't advertise it though so dick heads will make judgements on things they know fuck all about.

Incidentally even when I'm working my uniform involves jeans and a hoody - maybe a tshirt if I'm in a meeting! So obviously again some people like to think I don't go to work!

The moral of that is it's ok to be pissed off about having to go to work, but you have absolutely know idea about other people's situations so you really can't judge them or why they say the things they do unless you actually know their story. (Or even if they go to work or not, in my profession you wouldn't see anyone in office wear ever)

flowerslemonade · 29/04/2018 23:05

I actually agree. As harsh as it is. I didn't use to think like this at all. But over time I've grown more and more resentful. There are jobs around here, jobs where they will take anyone on, people just don't want to take them. I slog myself beyond the point of tiredness with multiple medical issues and chronic pain, working in a job that physically hurts me, that I find difficult, that is a genuine struggle. Whereas I have a friend who has been unemployed for 20 years and will not consider taking a wide range of jobs. It is aggravating when they do it and you don't. Or when they won't consider eg cleaning, care work and view it as beneath them. A lot of people have to push through things they find difficult, take jobs where they are treated badly, humiliated, that is life.

Donotbequotingmeinbold · 29/04/2018 23:08

Do you not get paid for working? You seem to think you are doing everybody a favour by working.

flowerslemonade · 29/04/2018 23:09

Me personally? Or are you referring to the OP? It's hard to tell whether that's a follow on question or one aimed to the OP, sorry.

Elusiveone · 29/04/2018 23:17

Just remember op one day you may be unemployed. So before you get all thinking your better then unemployed people. Well sorry to burst your bubble you could lose your job at any moment. No job is safe nowadays. Good luck Wink

Original poster
Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 23:27

Actually if you read the thread I said I have been unemployed. It's awful.
I'm talking about people who dont bother working because they have kids at school.
People who don't work because it's their choice not to.
I'm just saying they have a lot more time than someone who works full time yet they are always the ones complaining about school runs, shopping and cleaning to people who are about to do a long shift then have to do those things after their shift.

OP posts:
Mumtothelittlefella · 29/04/2018 23:30

I hear you, OP. I’m a SAHM but up until 18 months ago had senior position in a career I loved and worked hard for. Doing 50 hrs a week was tough, never mine the ‘part time’ parent stuff. It’s exhausting. Hence I’m now a SAHM - I did it to make our lives easier and they are. I fill my days usefully trying to be a better parent, daughter, sister, friend etc. But yeah, it’s nice to spend two hours on a Monday morning chatting with friends over coffee. I miss my family and the wonderful chaos weekends bring but I don’t suffer with the same Sunday evening blues I used to get when I worked. That’s my experience, others will be different.

Topsyntimsmumdrivesmetogin · 29/04/2018 23:32

I am unemployed, and weekends it's the only time I enjoy. It's the only time we get to relax as a family, have no hospital appointments, school runs, after school activities.
Husband is off work and I can chill.
Weekdays I never sleep in past 5.30 am after being up hourly during the night. Never get to jump back in to pyjamas.
My friends all work and I am desperate to one day have my career back just to see other people !

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