To give dh yesterday's tea because of his nasty drunkenness.

[littlesprocker]

If he'd phoned me to let me know he was going out drinking straight after work i wouldn't have bothered cooking it. But oblivious to his drinking plan because the ignorant sod didn't ring to let me know, i'd put him a pork chop, mushrooms, peas and new potatoes on low.

He eventually turned up about 11pm absolutely steaming drunk, nasty and argumentative, couldn't even undress himself. He's gone to work today, not even an apology for all the upset, the chop, mushrooms etc still in pans. That's it, he'll have to sort it all out himself when he comes in. There's nothing else in for him.

It was referring to the OP's situation speakout; I'm perfectly aware that many people are happily married. I'm also aware that many put up with miserable marriages through fear of being alone, which is sad.

No one has a nasty streak because of drink. They have a nastry streak end of. Leave him.

Nasty when drunk
Rude and aggressive when sober

He’s making it easy for you surely

I think the pork chop thing, is just a small irritant for bigger things that are pissing you off in this marriage.

Any update op?

Maybe you could get your ducks in a row. Then once you've done that have the conversation. Giving him a final chance.
Start by speaking to a solicitor and working out what your finances would look like.

Can I ask, what do you mean by ‘nasty’?

Op I feel for you. I had 30 years of mostly good times but eventually I despised my occasionally drunk and abusive husband despite the fact we are still a good team when needed. Mine asked for a divorce last year, nearly over, its horrible. Yours senses you don't love him now I think. But try marriage guidance, unless you really have made up your mind already. Im not relishing being on my own but have heard and know of so many good outcomes for women our age. Good luck