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Annoying things other posters do

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user1485342611 · 27/04/2018 10:24

Just wondering what things other posters do that really annoy you?

For me it's the deliberate misconstruing of an opening post and then flaming the OP for something they never actually said or implied.

Also the posters who conjure up wild scenarios to try and prove the OP is BU - "How do you know the woman who pushed you out of the way at the bus stop wasn't rushing home to her seriously ill child and has only 2p in her purse so couldn't afford a taxi. Try to be kinder and less self absorbed in future".

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Mightymucks · 30/04/2018 09:30

Go on every thread and sickly sweet agree with the OP even when they’re clearly in the wrong.

‘Just stabbed your MIL in the face and burned her body because she commented your nets were a bit grubby? You poor love, you’re clearly just stressed and at the end of your tether. This would never have happened if DH helped you more with the housework. Get him to pull his finger out now starting by cleaning up all the evidence.’

Lucie8881 · 30/04/2018 10:49

Advising an OP to move house on any neighbour dispute/disagreement thread. It's a little bit drastic and not really practical advice, if it was doable I'm fairly sure the OP wouldn't have needed it suggested before it entered their mind as an option.

thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 30/04/2018 15:14

On the Baby Names threads, I get hugely annoyed when people talk about "matchy-matchy" names. Why not just say "matching"? Or "similar"?

It's like toddlers saying "moo-moo" instead of cow, or worse, like adults warning a child something is "burny-burny" instead of hot.

Grow up!

EveningHare · 30/04/2018 23:34

Starting yet another bloody "how often do you.....?" thread...

We don't care that you change your pyjamas daily/once a year...

POPholditdown · 01/05/2018 01:45

When posters ask ‘do we think Op is a troll now’ or ‘do we now think this of X’ etc.
Make up your own mind you sheep!

k567 · 01/05/2018 02:03

People that give (bad) medical advice and they haven't got a clue what they are talking about but decided they are an expert because they have broken (not fractured) 17357 bones before.

FluffyPineapple · 01/05/2018 02:17

Posters who do not read the links posted but continue to fight all the way through posts, against all other posters, because....Well.... because they are right and no amount of proof otherwise is going to change their mind

Also posters who become overly invested in total strangers dramas because they think that makes them "a nice, sympathetic person who is a much better human than anyone else" Get a fucking grip....

TrumpTrump · 01/05/2018 02:24

Posters who trawl through all of the op's previous posts.

Op: I'm skirt this month. How can I save some cash?
GF: well, if you didn't buy that dress from Topshop in 2009, you wouldn't be so broke!

Want2bSupermum · 01/05/2018 02:27

As a LL I've jumped on threads when a tenant is given wrong information. I'm then told I'm wrong and an evil LL.

Fine for another poster to think that but meanwhile the OP hasn't realized their actions have somewhat serious repercussions for the LL because they have 3+ posters spouting rubbish with myself and 1 possibly 2 posters who post the correct information.

Threads where they say 'tell me what your car is?' You say and some troll comes along and says it's a stealth boast. It's a fact.

WetsTheVet · 01/05/2018 03:02

QR...

The whole 'fuck off DailyMail!' In the middle of posts things gets right in my tits. Do they really think this will make any difference to the DM using their tweet or the thread? Ugh it makes me genuinely pissed off whenever I see it. Grow the fuck up.

End rant!

faithinthesound · 01/05/2018 04:16

I get fed up with being told to "grow up" every time my opinion differs from others' opinions, ie in cases where something has actually vexed me and it apparently doesn't vex the other posters.

I think you'll find that grownups are actually allowed to be vexed about things even if you in all your mature glory are not.

And I wonder how many people in your real life you tell to "grow up" in situations like this. I suspect it's not many, for fear of being given a fat lip for being a condescending twat.

LoopOnTheRollercoaster · 01/05/2018 06:36

You'd hit someone for telling you to 'grow up'? Hmm.

FreudianSlurp · 01/05/2018 08:02

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qazxc · 01/05/2018 08:10

Very long op's without paragraphs.

Lizzie48 · 01/05/2018 08:18

I also get fed up with posters being told to 'grow up'. What makes you think you're so grown up yourself? I'm sure there are things that you find difficult to cope with that others don't. I doubt you'd appreciate being told to grow up, would you? Hmm

faithinthesound · 01/05/2018 09:16

Well, I wouldn't hit anyone. But there are plenty out there who wouldn't stand for being condescended to that way.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 01/05/2018 09:29

Extreme hyperbole

"I occasionally watch porn with my DH"

"So you support rape, child abuse and human trafficking do you, DO YOU"

or

"If I found out that my otherwise perfect DH had watched porn I would throw him out, change the locks, file for divorce and split up the family because that is one of my 'red lines'"

SapphireSeptember · 01/05/2018 09:32

I'm noticing this more and more, someone will start a thread about something that interests them (lipstick, Harry Potter, YouTube videos are examples off the top of my head because I posted in them,) and someone will pop on to say they never wear makeup, hate Harry Potter and think adults who like it need to grow up, or say everyone who watches YouTube is weird, they don't, and nothing on the thread has convinced them to watch it. (Well good for those people!) Hmm
Argh!
Why do people feel the need to do that? Many people start threads about things I don't like or do, I don't feel the need to go on those threads and start making snotty comments. It's not making any meaningful contribution and just makes people feel they have to defend themselves because of what they like.

Lizzie48 · 01/05/2018 09:47

I agree, @SapphireSeptember whenever there's a thread about dogs or cats, there has to be a nasty comment from someone who hates both dogs and cats, and the thread is derailed as an argument starts. Just why??!

TheFifthKey · 01/05/2018 09:54

"You sound lovely, OP". Well yeah, nobody tries to make themselves sound like a twat on their own thread!

Also, threads that predict "doses of karma" and a lonely, sad future in a bedsit, filled with regret for any man who leaves a woman, ever. "He'll regret it when he realises what he's missing out on". Funny how none of the women who are supposed to LTB have these futures predicted for themselves...because it very rarely happens! There's no such thing as karma and people are allowed to leave relationships if they want to - every man who does it isn't a bastard and every woman who does it isn't going to end up single and lonely. Mostly people just get on with their lives afterwards.

TheFifthKey · 01/05/2018 09:56

Also, on dating threads - "goodness, if DH and I ever split up, I don't think I'd date at all! It sounds awful out there!" - smuggery of the highest order.

And "you're looking in the wrong place, OP, everyone knows Tinder is only for hookups" - from someone who's been married 20 years and only knows about Tinder from Daily Mail articles.

Storminateapot · 01/05/2018 11:08

Posters who confidently give legal/financial advice as if it's a matter of fact when they actually know sod all about it and are wrong.

Posters who can never admit they are wrong even when they blatantly are.

This one is my pet peeve - women who, in advance of the birth of their first child, declare that they intend to be 'incredibly vulnerable' for the first month so nobody may see the new baby until day 7 and only thereafter 'close' (ie their own) family for the next fortnight. Why 'vulnerable'? What do they think visitors are going to do to them? In-laws are not ever considered as close family and the child's paternal grandparents may not come within a 20 mile radius of the new baby until she says so. I do wonder at these women - do they really expect to lie listlessly pale and wan, being 'vulnerable' on satin cushions like a Victorian consumptive while their partner loyally guards the front door?

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 01/05/2018 12:04

Many people start threads about things I don't like or do, I don't feel the need to go on those threads and start making snotty comments

exactly the same kind of people who moan because the subject has already come up in another thread. Just scroll past, most questions have probably been asked at some point, if the OP wants to ask about colic, laundry, going dutch for diner, better start a new thread than going back ona zombie one.

The thread police is so boring.

derxa · 01/05/2018 12:07

I do wonder at these women - do they really expect to lie listlessly pale and wan, being 'vulnerable' on satin cushions like a Victorian consumptive while their partner loyally guards the front door?
Grin

Damnthatonestaken · 01/05/2018 14:53

The word bunfight

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