To think this timing is suspect

[tobeworriedabouthis]

Have promised DW a romantic weekend away after a long period of me working lots. Had a call from ex this morning DC is dreadfully sick and needs taken to hospital. She won't take DC because she has an important day at work. (I also work) Firstly I think DC should go to Dr first, not straight to A&E. She insisted and said I didn't care about DC if I didn't take them.) they are 10. Picked up DC and took them to A&E, waiting to been seen DC is full of cold, nasty cough and a bit wheezy. Obviously I am worried and them but not a case for A&E, have decided just to take them to the GP instead. Ex had already asked if I could have DC this week and I said no, I was away for the weekend. AIBU to think this is a cry for attention, it all seemed a bit dramatic and over the top. If she was so worried why didn't she take them or call the night dr from home. Rather than me driving an hour until I could have taken them or I could have met them at the hospital? I can see the next thing will be - you need to have DC and cancel your weekend, they are sick I'm too busy with work.

Nothing ever is Juells
We ALWAYS go on what the OP says..
We always only have one side of the story.
Just because this is a MAN it's suddenly an issue for you??
Women are bitches as well and many use the DC against their partner.

Regardless of illness, why can't she pick him up until tomorrow? If she has work commitments surely she has arranged child care for this as she was the parent child should be with?

If I thought my child was sick enough for A&E, I'd be taking her there myself.

@tawnyport I think you've got a bee in your bonnet. He has the kids more than EOW and is flexible. He booked the trip on a weekend he wasNOT supposed to be having the children. Why can't he have a trip away. He's not shirking responsibility. He did give up work to take DC to be checked. I haven't got time to say the rest of what I want to say.

OP I hope you get your trip away and your DC gets well soon.

Given the doctor doesn’t think it’s more than a cold really and all the context I think you have to go on the weekend. Whether that’s dropping them somewhere tonight (If it’s ew absolutely not tomorrow morning) or asking your bf I’m not so fussed about. Assumed ex’s parents are loving grandparents I’d be tempted to drop them there saying i took today off work to take them to a&e but this weekend is The only weekend I’m away this year, I’ve seen them most other weekends but can’t step in if ex is at work this weekend, would you mind having them? Otherwise I will have to drop them back at hers but she doesn’t want that.

And do say fizzys message. That’s perfect.

Also, we don't know any of the back-story, we're getting everything from the 'poor' OP's side.

This is only ever an issue when a man thinks a woman is a problem.
I have never seen a thread where the woman is complaining about her ex being a shit dad and someone asks ‘well we don’t know his side of the story’. No one cares about both sides then.

It doesn't sound like suspect timing, it sounds like it happens all the time.

I suspect the problem was that he announced he was going away to ExW.
Next time ask if you can have the kids for a weekend you'd like to go away. If she asks why, just say you thought it'd be nice to do something with them/DW is probably going away (you don't have to mention its with you) and you thought it'd be nice to have extra time with the kids. Of course she won't let them, so you can then book your last minute weekend away.

It’s sounds quite difficult. From experience (not due to DH’s ex being purposely obstructive I think, just very chaotic) I recommend booking weekends/holidays away that you can also take your DCs on if need be. It worked for us, DH would just then say to his exw ‘yes that’s fine but we are all going to x place, we’ll be back Sunday night so will drop DD off at school Monday’. Sometimes we’d take DSD, sometimes we’d get the trip to ourselves, but it changed the dynamic and kept everything calm.

I have never seen a thread where the woman is complaining about her ex being a shit dad and someone asks ‘well we don’t know his side of the story’.

I see OP's versions of events being mistrusted all the time.

The day i lost all respect for my ex was when my eldest had been admitted to hospital and I asked him to be there when she woke up as she wasn't admitted to ward until 3 in the morning then I had a 7 year old to take home. I got there at 9 and she woke up scared and aline.

And that is when they lost trust in their dad.

OP I hope you got to go on your weekend away!