To be cross at DD’s nursery for covering her dress in paint that has stained?

[MedicinalGin]

My DD is 2 and obvs has had a great time painting something bright red as part of a guided activity- now her dress is completely wrecked, it’s covered in red paint and it looks awful! It’s not an especially special dress and I do want her to muck in and have fun, getting dirty if needs be. However, AIBU to expect that if staff anticipate that their activity involves lots of staining paint, to have put a pinny on her first?

Such a first world problem, I know. It’s just hard to not feel cross when I fork out 60 quid a day and now have to forfeit her clothing too, grr.

I would be happy that my DD was having fun at nursery.

Second hand toddler clothes are easy to buy and very cheap.

Clothes get stained at nursery even if the children wear aprons

YABU, never send a child to nursery in clothes that you care about. We have a separate nursery wardrobe which is full of stained, second hand or very cheap clothes.

yy to "clean dirt" This is also a useful concept when white school polo shirts meet black school whiteboard pens.

Toothpaste, dinner, mud, etc are muck. Stains that are going nowhere and will immediately be covered by almost identical new marks are not!

Most toddlers would need full boiler suits not to cover themselves in paint the second the pots are opened. But you could gently remind DD that "when we paint we wear an apron" (I am pretty sure there is a Peppa Pig on this topic) so she thinks twice before diving in head-first without.

Yabu- both my ds's had clothes just dedicated to nursery as they get so wrecked

Paint is best soaked in cold water first. I use ACE stain remover and swear by it.

Just adding to the chorus, cheap clothes only for nursery. They should have Aprons on but they still wouldn't totally save an outfit from pain when it comes to toddlers.

I do know what you mean as even the ‘rough and ready’ clothes that my son’s possess are not covered in paint. So the times he did come home with staining paint on his clothes, I was pissed off.

CM . When parents join I ask them not to send in special clothes.

My nursery used aprons but ds would put his hand under it to wipe his hands on his trousers

Oh my god. The white board pens. Why. Why. Why.

Our little ones used to come home looking like they'd been digging the foundations in a building site.....

We had seperate nursery clothes for ours, because of the same thing - things coming back with paint/baking/mud etc on them, so I learnt not to be so precious about what I sent them in in, and accepted that there'd be some collateral damage with regards clothing and nursery.

This is my absolute pet peeve with nursery.

Yes, yes, I'm being unreasonable and DD is having fun and getting stuck in but FFS every night I have to wash her and sort her hair and send her off to nursery with neat hair and clean clothes.

Every bastard day without fail her face is sticky, her hands are covered in pen, she's covered in fucking muck, there's glitter or other some such craft material in her fucking hair, her snot has dried into her nose and crusted over like some kind of green fucking biscuit and EVERY DAY I have to clean this shit up.

I'm aware I am MASSIVELY unreasonable but I just fucking HATE mucky kids.

The nursery have sent me pictures of DD painting and she always had an apron on yet when I pick her up she's covered in paint. I only ever send her in cheap clothes, I get loads in sainsburys when its 25% off just for nursery

I recommend a trip to hm and stocking up on their £2.99 dresses.
Added bonus they love having the same dress as all their friends!

YABU. Nursery should be for clothes you're not keen on. Also they might have used an apron. I will say nursery/school paint does seem far more stubborn than any other type I've encountered though.

Aprons move about. Kids have the knack to shove paintbrushes under them, or stain their clothes when wiping their hands on their clothes UNDER the apron because the apron is slippery. Or in their hair.

Or sometimes they put on an apron that has been used by another child, and put the apron on inside out.

I think you're being a bit precious. I love it when my daughter comes home all messy, shows she had a fun and active day. I don't send her in any of her nicer clothes because I expect them to get mucky and stained

I thought you meant the nursery had stained your Dd dress so they put paint on it to hide it 🙈😂

We too have a different set of clothes for nursery, either new ones from Primark or similar, or ones we've been given that are a bit scratty.

It's very unreasonable to think that any child at nursery isn't going to get something on clothes, and some things stain. As 12purplesnails says, when my daughter comes home messy, she's had a fun day.

Nothing useful to contribute, except that I haven't heard the word "pinny" in a thousand years.

Of course they should use aprons. It makes me cross, too.

I understand that clothes will get worn, but wearing an apron when doing messy stuff goes some way to helping them stay clean which is all part of life.

I DO mind when school uniform gets covered in clay or mud (from the sponge foot ball which acts like a missile of wet mud in the winter).

I don't think it's unreasonable to want not ALL clothes to get entirely wrecked.

YABVU.

My DD goes to nursery in her “ammo” clothes.

I fully expect these will be stained and damaged, painting, messy play or not.

Toddlers are grubby. End of.