Am I supppsed to beg for forgiveness for something I did in my FUCKING SLEEP

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I would like to know.

DP woke up in a foul mood with me this morning. As normal getting out of the house and on the early train to work on time takes a fair bit of mental gumption, I didn't bother asking why. Then I got to work and I was busy.

He responded to a fairly jolly text from me at lunchtime ('I need Nando's soon, I got a proper craving for it just now. Saturday? Everything alright, you've been quiet')

With: 'WELL I'm over it now but I wanted to kill you last night. Seriously. I was NOT happy this morning'

I was a bit

I'm not in the sort of job where I can bat back and forward in text, so I left it. But I was wracking my brains and felt a bit shit.

It has transpired, since I got in from the hellish commute at 9:30pm, that in the night I unwittingly caused DP to have no bed space by cuddling up to him in my sleep. Apparently he asked me to move and I responded 'but I love being close to you'

This isn't even true, I don't much like being close to anybody

I have no recollection of this event.

DP only got four hours of sleep and therefore had to cancel his five-aside-game

I said I was asleep and didn't know what I was doing and he shouldn't have sent such an aggressive message. He says I'm emotionally manipulating him into being the wronged party.

Do you apologise for things that you have no control over? In fact I might have done if he'd not been such a bloody arse about it.

He reckons KILL YOU is just a common turn of phrase and I'm ridiculous for taking offence.

He's a big boy - fairly sure he could get up and change sides or go sleep on the sofa if it was that much of an issue.

And no I wouldn't be apologising for cuddling him. I did apologise for punching my dh in the face in my sleep (oopsy) - mid nightmare night before major surgery but it is an on going joke now.

He is being immensly childish. Point him to the spare or the sofa tonight.

It’s my DH that keeps me awake (comes to bed v late, elbows me in the face, snores) and I can sometimes be a bit grumpy with him for it. I bet I’ve saud “I could’ve killed you last night” or very similar.

But he’s always been extremely apologetic and remorseful.

If he’d told me to stop being so childish, or told me I should’ve left the bed...

bla bla bla. Really annoys me when people say they're over something then go on like they're not over it at all.

I think you should text him this thought of yours.

Please don't have children with this man until he has got well over himself.

He sounds like a baby

His text isn't aggressive at all - you asked if he was ok, he's told you why he was in a grump and quiet in the morning - understandable if someone hasn't got much sleep whatever the reason - even if it was absolutely nothing to do with you. He hasn't even asked for an apology, and yes it's totally normal to want to kill someone when they've woken you from sleep.

You're being massively unreasonable. You owe him an apology - both for waking him and for being a jerk about his message telling you why he was tired.

Telling someone they overreacted when it is clear that you have been a completely unreasonable jerk is aggressive.

A subsequent apology that includes the phrase 'sorry you feel that way' or words to that effect is not an apology.

And unless a person is doing something on a regular basis like snoring that she or he could get help for, then occasionally waking a bed partner up is not something to apologise for.

wasting did u see the part he said shes ewmotionally manipulating him?

if that isnt aggresive i dont know what is

I apologise to my dp most mornings. I talk, walk, snore, scream, fidget. I wouldn’t sleep with me.
I also had really vivid dreams which involve him leaving or cheating which put me in an awful mood. He needs a trophy.

Send him a ‘sorry for loving you when you were sleeping’ card.

My DH didn't get this butthurt when I hit him in the face causing a massive nosebleed while I was asleep. He sounds like a total tit that is incapable of coping with life.