Page 5 | 3 year old going to see the new avengers film.

Goshitshighuphere · 26/04/2018 03:06

I have just seen it- midnight screening. Not suitable for a 3 year old at all. No spoilers but violent deaths from the start (as a poster above said in quoted review) . Potentially stuff of nightmares. Very adult- lots of in jokes linked to past films. Guardians of the Galaxy provide some humour but very much the minority of the film- don't go to watch thinking it will be like Guardians- it isn't.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/04/2018 03:19

If you've taken her to see Ragnarock then I don't really see why you need a mass consensus on this one. You're happy for her to watch a violent action movie, she has sufficient screen time to sit largely still and silent for three hours, so what's the question?

Personally I wouldn't, mine's a year younger but I can't imagine taking him to anything beyond Peter Rabbit etc for a while but then in also mindful of what he's exposed to at home and see no reason to desensitise him to violence at this age

toboldlygo · 26/04/2018 03:28

I just saw the midnight screening - without spoiling it, it is NOT suitable for a three year old.

Ginandplatonic · 26/04/2018 03:55

Between the ages of 3 and 5 children are still constructing their world view and are not always clear about which figures are fantasy and which reality. It’s not as clear cut as the old-fashioned view that they mis-attribute reality to fantasy figures, but there is definitely some confusion in their minds, particularly with figures which “look” real eg Santa or Superheroes portrayed by actors.

So at this developmental stage you are exposing your toddler to images of frequent graphic unpleasant violence between characters whose fantasy nature may not be entirely clear in her mind, and the concept that this violence is a perfectly normal, indeed expected, way to resolve conflict. This is very different than say a 9 or 10 year old who will be extremely clear that this is fantasy violence between made-up characters and bears no relation to the real world.

Do what you like with your own child - sounds like you are going to anyway. But I would think you foolish and irresponsible to take a child that age to see a movie like this.

PeonyTruffle · 26/04/2018 06:02

I wouldn’t. But I have a very nearly 4yr old avengers obsessed DS (he has elder step siblings and got it from them)

Sleephead1 · 26/04/2018 06:27

no way would I do it i really don't think it's suitable for young children. They are also unpredictable so you can't be sure that just because something didn't upset her last time it won't this time.But I've got a 5 year old and he hasn't seen any even though we love the marvel films I just don't think they are suitable. People who have seen it are saying it's not suitable but it's really your call and it seems like you really want to take her.

Believeitornot · 26/04/2018 06:37

Watching horror films as a kid has made you think it is normal for a 3 year old to watch violent films. She won’t understand that it isn’t real.

Their brains are still developing at that age, so why would you expose them to things that you wouldn’t want them to see in real life?

Why would you want a three year old to sit still for nearly three hours when they should be running about, exploring the world?

OP you’ve heard most people on here and in RL (I assume) judge you for this. Because it isn’t the norm.

But hey, good luck with it. You’ve made your choice.

PasstheStarmix · 26/04/2018 06:40

I wouldn’t judge because only you know you’re child and what will and will not scare her.

PasstheStarmix · 26/04/2018 06:40

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stayathomer · 26/04/2018 06:40

From a big fan of the Avengers I know where you're coming from but to be honest we watch the Avenger's movies (as in one of us goes to see it with friend/ relative or whatever or we rent it out first when on dvd if we didn't have the money to get to the cinema) before we bring our 9 and 11 year old to it. We have four kids and the younger two are 3 and 6. You have to see it first. Do you remember the scene where a bad guy hung someone upside down and drowned them? Or the scenes where they turned Bucky? Marvel unfortunately do not aim these films at young children, which is such a pity as I think it should be who they're for. Saying that I've talked to my bro about it and he said he likes that they say true to the comics and don't have it all nicey nice all the time-plus Dr Strange is in this one and the film was beyond not suitable for young kids. When you have older kids it's easy that they're more desensitised than the others, and so I agree that some of the reactions on this thread are a little ott, but then on the other hand just because a kid doesn't scream or cry at a film doesn't mean they need to see it. At that age kids should be all about Peppa and being nice and having plain old fun playing with bubbles and balloons type of fun. You can wait for the dvd, fast forwarding anything that a 3 yo shouldn't have to know about. They don't need to see it and actually I think cinema workers shouldn't allow younger kids in

PasstheStarmix · 26/04/2018 06:44

I have heard that the new one is very scary with a lot of war in and personally I think 3 is too young as they understand more and are more aware.

EventNotInData · 26/04/2018 06:47

The OP’s question was “will people judge?” And the answer was yes, lots of people will.

Ohmydayslove · 26/04/2018 06:53

Yes I would judge you as a bad parent. Taking care of you child’s mental well being is as equally if not arguable more important than all the physical stuff.

Don’t you worry that she wouldnt be upset? De sensitising kids to horror is a vile thing to do and in my book abusive.

Ohmydayslove · 26/04/2018 06:57

And at our local cinema you and your child would be turned away. Maybe you are not UK but here it’s pretty strict and staff turn you away for age restricted films.

They hsve to act as the parent to protect the child if the parent is incapable of acting like one. I expect the nursery or Cm would love to see a 3 year old acting out violent scenes.

EventNotInData · 26/04/2018 07:01

It’s a 12A Ohmydays - there’s nothing in the certificate to prevent her taking a 3 year old although the BBFC recommended lower age limit is 8.

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 26/04/2018 07:04

'Really? I’d find it odd if a 3 year old couldn’t make it through a film. They’re not babies.'

Tbh, a 3yo who could 'make it' (routinely) through a feature-length film one with age-inappropriate content (in terms of complexity or otherwise) would suggest a child who has already spent far too much time in front of screens. It isn't natural for such a young child's attention span to be so artificially overextended, particularly with something so passive and non-interactive. I do find it a bit eyebrow-raising that this one has apparently 'seen all the other films'. And I'm not anti-screens - my 2yo is perfectly capable of watching two episodes of In the Night Garden back to back. But I wouldn't expect something not pitched at her developmental level to engage her.

And actually, 3yos are not that far off being 'babies'. Why on earth do we think tiny children apparently 'following' complex, inappropriate storylines with content that will go over their head at best is somehow a sign of advancement?

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 26/04/2018 07:04

Sorry, random 'one' there.

LearnFromThePast · 26/04/2018 07:10

I am someone who grew up reading and watching horror, so I am not precious about children being exposed to things, but I wouldn’t in this case. It is a very dark movie and very depressing. Especially if she loves certain characters.

Believeitornot · 26/04/2018 07:18

I grew up reading a lot of horror and I am precious about these things. I found horror films terrifying as my mum was “absent” and left us to it.I couldn’t watch them now and don’t understand why people take pleasure in watching other people get hurt.

Quartz2208 · 26/04/2018 07:19

I ummed about my 5.5 year old who loves Avengers so did some digging and decide this one was too dark for him at the cinema mainly cos there are bits that he would want to talk through

It’s a two parter, it ends as such

Skinnyboneylittlepony · 26/04/2018 07:30

Some parents are selfish (I want to see this film but not arrange childcare so I will take a 3 year old). Some parents are irresponsible (I’ll take a gamble that my child’s mental health won’t be affected). Some parents seem to be hard of thinking. The movie industry would love all their films to be open to all. More money for them. The restrictions are to protect the minds of young people.

You asked how we would see you. I would think you are selfish, irresponsible and a bit dim.

Ohmydayslove · 26/04/2018 07:31

Event right. Still think it’s bad parenting though

Ohmydayslove · 26/04/2018 07:31

And what Skinny said.

dayswithaY · 26/04/2018 07:35

It's selfish to take a 3 year old who might disrupt the film for others who are old enough to be there. But you already know that, don't you.

KirstenRaymonde · 26/04/2018 07:42

A 12A isn’t appropriate for a 3 year old. It’s probably not appropriate for an under 12 year old, unless they’re mature. That’s what it’s 12A, not 7A... the school my DM works at recently had to send a message out to the school reminding them was 12A meant after lots of 5/6 year olds were playing fighting games in the playground and saying they were ‘playing Black Panther’ after being to see it, a film not suitable for their ages. I totally get that a 3 year old would be into super heroes, but that doesn’t mean these films are suitable veiwing for 3/4/5 year olds who are too young to be exposed to that sort of violence on screen.