For being bitterly disappointed at the language and attitudes of people on MN lately?

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I started using MN for support when I was going through hard times, hopefully supporting people when they were going through their hard times, learn new things, catch up with news etc. Lately however every thread I go on seems to be one big fight session. People are either being purposefully nasty or having a go at anyone who disagrees with their opinion - foul language included in the bundle. Is this really what this site is turning in to? Surely everyone is entitled to an opinion and surely if you don't agree and can't be mature about you should follow my mother's advice 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'.

eh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[thick emoticon]

like calling someone thick that not on

pmsl

NO.....

I am thick.... I am thick..... I am thick..

Your not thick, I am sure, although I really have no idea tbh.... but was calling myself thick, not you.....

[thick emoticon]

lets change topic lol

{{{wee hug}}}

lol

so , how you barryscott

I am mellowma btw nice to chat with you.....

I am good thanks... I really need to go do something better but.....[sigh]

nice chat wit u too i new here today

Thats nice

My Top Tips For New Starts:

There are some much nicer threads.. although this is okay...

Be warned you shall soon become hooked...

Try to limit your time to 5 minutes each time you come on...

Buy a laptop...its easier to shut and walk away from...

If anyone is nasty, don't take it too personally (some right nutter here )

If you have children...remember them... (can sometimes forget themif you stay on here)

Don't come on at mealtimes - you will burn your food.

No text speak.

Swearing is permitted but, be nice

Oh and some people hate emoticons too but thats a whole new subject....

I've only recently come across Mumsnet and my first impression was that it was edgy and it would be wise to steer clear if you were emotionally vulnerable. Can't say that impression has changed.

One of the first threads I read involved the original poster being accused of making their story up (some problem they were having with their partner) and I was pretty horrified by that since it seemed needlessly cruel. I felt it would be better just to ignore the post if you thought that rather than risk being wrong.

Disagreeing on opinions is one thing but personal attacks is another.

Yes.. That can happen too.

which thread do you recomend !!!!!!!!!!!! and ta for the advice

I think there is this problem where older members have seen the same threads arguing over the same topics time and time again. But to the new members, every thread and topic is new to them. I hate it when a thread is made and you get older members posting in it to say things like 'oh no not this again' and 'move on', 'yawn' etc etc. I think if you have seen the same topic/thread time and time again then egnore it. Its not hard to do, but remember although you may have seen the thread loads of times and feel the need to post 'yawn' etc, new members haven't and probably want to talk about the subject again.

Some cliques

some trolls

some bitchiness

some empathy

lots of fun & great advice.. We all have bad days & pmt, but stick with it ..

It gets better,(addictive) honest!!

press the button marked active conversations, ktmoomoo, and kiss your real life goodbye...

already missed breakfast lol

I do like a good bitch now and again but it can all blow way out of control at times. Especially the Contolled Crying threads!! The same names on all of them saying the same stuff! Im on a thread at the mo abou tdogs jumping up at kids in parks. It then went on to how people are scared of black dogs because their racist! and about savage dogs and how people shouldnt have dogs bla bla bla. It can get so ridiculous at times!

I remember that thread Scoobyc. It was awful wasnt it. Poor woman, I believed she was going through hell at the time. She was attacked by MNetters for no reason.

controversial point of view:

I think some of us spend
too
much
time
on
here

we wouldn't be annoyed if we logged off more often and got on with something more productive!
I include myself in this too!
(runs and hides under desk)

madamez, it is possible to speak your mind, as many people have done on this thread, without being nasty, name calling or making personal attacks though.

Nightynight: it's also possible to survive being called a name now and again. People are responsible, pretty much, for their own feelings and if you know you're a bit delicate, or it's PMT time or something, it's probably a good idea to stay off heated threads. Bearing in mind that there are people who will take "you're wrong because..." as a wicked hurtful vicious attack.