To ask how many of you are truly happy?

[Jojojingle]

I went out with 3 friends for dinner tonight and all they did was moan about how unhappy they are with their life, they seemed genuinely shocked when I told them I loved my life and seemed to take that as an insult?
I’m 35, two dd’s aged 3 &7, no husband, average job.
My life is by no means perfect but I’m happier than I’ve ever been, I earn an average wage and have no spare money, dh left us 2 years ago so I had to move to a smaller house next door to my parents but I like that because we’re close and my dd’s get to see them everyday and dh was a waste of space anyway. My friends have always got trouble with their boyfriends/husbands which I’m so glad I don’t have (I’m staying single for the foreseeable) but they still try and get me to start dating again, they moan about how their children behave and one even keeps telling us she wishes she had never had her ds. They are the only friends I have really and I spend all my time at work or with my kids but I’m genuinely loving life right now.
I guess what I’m asking is are you truly happy in life? Are my friends just moaning for the sake of it?

I can honestly say I'm truly happy in my life. I have a husband who loves me, wonderfully close family and good true friends.

I am happy but I’m generally a happy person. I brightside as a general rule. I don’t really understand people who moan all the time, it’s incredibly draining. I had years of depression in my 20’s so know what the darkside is like, i’m on the other side of that particular tunnel and have very little intention of going back. Sometimes, I can feel the creep so I work bloody hard at not giving it any purchase.

I was always a miserable cow when I was younger (although I'm starting to understand why now ) but over the last few years I've made a conscious effort to look for the best in things and people and to try to make smiling my default face and amazingly it's kind of worked :)

I do agree that some people seem to take some kind of perverse joy in moaning. I know that some people do have real tragedies in their lives but for others, they just seem to get stuck in the misery for no good reason.

I was thinking just yesterday about how much better my life is than I could ever have expected. I struggled with fertility, so I am so appreciative yo have my two dds. And dp is a really good partner. And my job is not bad, and I have friends there. I enjoy my hobbies.

But I also feel tinged with sadness, because I suspect this period of my life might be the best period - the kids are old enough to sleep through but young enough to want to spend time with me, I'm old enough to have a reasonable income but young enough not to have health problems.

I’m very happy.

I have anxiety which is rubbish but when it’s bad I focus on the positives.

Apart from anxiety, I’ve got good health. My husband is wonderful and my kids are ace (if exhausting). I’ve got great friends and a best friend who is like a sister. My family are close and we all love each other and get along well. I’m really involved with my Church and I absolutely love it there and it’s genuinely a family of people accepting and loving each other. I’ve got my faith which is fundamental to everything I am and do.

I’m very happy. There’s stresses and strains and money is tight but I love my life.

I’m very happy! I have lots of reasons to be happy (lovely DH, great kids, good job), but as others have said I’m also lucky to have a positive mindset - I’m definitely a “glass half full” person.

for BillyWilliam 🎂

Life could be easier, but I'm definitely happy nearly every day. I wake up with a smile on my face and fall asleep the same way. I have a lot to be grateful for, and I'd rather focus on that than on the negatives. It's not always that easy for everyone, of course.

I'm pretty happy. I live in a lovely area and have a great dh and two dc who are lovely and actually very little trouble! I think I've had a very easy ride (so far!) parenting-wise. They are 10 and nearly 13 though, so the teenage years might be tricky. I'm still working part time until youngest starts secondary and will look for a 'proper job' after that, which may well make me less happy!

Right now I think I'm the unhappiest I've ever been as an adult. I've felt that way for about two years. People have told me before that I seem like a really happy person and things like that but I don't think anyone would say that about be now. I really am a misery guts tbh.

About me*

I am happy with my lot. I think being positive helps me with being happy.

Life is too short to grumble, we could all do with more money, feeling more attractive, losing weight etc etc.

@BeyondFear2020

"I think some people assume happiness is a destination, that most of them are yet to reach. I think it would help if more people realised that happiness is transient, just like other states that we all experience (such as sadness). And to focus on the happy times as they happen. As a pp said, it’s a state of mind. If you focus the positives, they become much easier to spot."

This.

I have a pleasant life. I enjoy most of the things I do, with most of the people I do them with, most of the time, and, generally speaking, nobody tries to kill me. That'll do.

Happiness is transient - this idea that we all HAVE to be 100% smiley, ALL THE TIME OR OMG WE HAVE FAILED MISERABLY is one of the reasons people are unhappy, ironically.

If you didn't know what sadness was, then you wouldn't know what it was to be happy.

I keep a little diary by my bed and every night I jot down something that day which has made me happy... it really works as each day I go to sleep thanking my lucky stars for my life.

I'm coming to terms with my life not going the way I wanted it to when I was younger. But all things considered I am happy, when I stop comparing myself to others. There's one thing I would do to be truly happy right now and it's in my power to change it. After that, anything else is a bonus.

And happiness comes in cycles anyway. If we didn't experience lies every now and then we'd have nothing to compare to, and the shine would cone off our happiness if that was all we experienced.

*lows, not lies!

Yes, but I took me until my 30's to be really happy. Simple life, not we'll off but not skint, healthy family and a job I love. I never take it for granted though, thinns can change so quickly.

I'm a terribly happy person. I feel very lucky to have such a great life.

I'm sorry for those who are struggling.

You have a great attitude

I'm really, really, really happy. That's all I'm going to say as I don't want to brag or tempt fate.

I've just realised that my problem at the moment is that I feel like I have no control over my own life. I keep wanting to just spend my life alone in a room and never leave the house. I can't really do that and I'm sure it wouldn't make me feel any better. I don't know why I can't snap out of it.

I'm not happy with myself (my weight, the fact I'm ugly, my general lack of get up and go..), but I am extremely happy with my life..if that makes any sense.

Gosh, could you ask for more then contentment and happiness? Such simple pleasures? I'm so pleased for you 💕

*than

Yes on paper I have it all. I’m not going to list it on here as there are people struggling, and I’ve no desire to make them feel crapper, however I will admit that I also struggle with low self esteem and an inate sense of inner melancholy. I never talk about it though, because I don’t think people would understand... I’d hate to be considered ungrateful for my very blessed life.