To ask what's an adult problem that nobody prepared you for?

[Midge1978]

For me it's keeping the bathroom clean. I don't think I ever saw my mother clean hers but it was always immaculate and rosey smelling. I can't seem to keep on top of the mould monster in mine!

@safariboot if you're relative gave you a car you know you ha e to have it insured Yeh? Your comment makes it look like you haven't.
Just go to a comparison website, fill in the details on the best offer and you're set. And you need road tax too.

the oven, can anyone help? I have bought the Mr. Muscle, leave it in overnight etc., but am seriously considering using the power washer. Is there anything that dissolves the lot? The deep fat fryer another issue.

Agree with those saying caring for one's parents, particularly where you are in a situation where you have the same powers of guardianship over them that they once had over you (in effect) and need to make decisions that they are distressed about, but which are in their best interests.

My Mum told me that giving birth was like shitting a football. I wasn't prepared for just how big the football would feel!

how expensive toilet paper is.
what a relentless string of decisions adults have to make day to day.

Having to clear a parent's house and get rid of a mass of stuff when they're not even dead - just in a care home with dementia.

I've cleared a dead person's house, too, or helped too - it's worse when they're still alive. You feel as if you're throwing their life away.

BTW re turds that won't flush - a nice big bucket of water, and flush at the same time, should do it.

How to keep a house clean or even tidy. No idea how my mum managed it with 3 kids, I only have one and my house is a constant mess. She must have been tidying non stop bless her!

Hemeroids
Childbirth started them off

That I would regret not paying attention in my foreign language class at school, that I would regret not learning languages in general, that I would regret not continuing my music lessons. Nobody ever prepared me for the regret I would feel at having wasted opportunities to learn things when I was young and fresh.

I always thought that I could pick up experiences I had when younger again at any point. In fact I thought I could do them more and better as an adult and enjoy them more. Things like horse riding, holidays, hobbies, playing instruments, singing, going on crazy adventures with friends etc. But looking at my life now, with three young DC, a full time job which eats my evenings and weekends, parents with fragile health - those things are never going to happen again in the way I envision them or with the people I envision them with. That door is shut. And coming to terms with that is very hard.

Also growing up I was raring to leave things behind. I never lost or missed anything because I had already moved on to the next thing and then the next. I’ve started to have things taken away from me now and clung to them, yet they are gone forever ( for eg we quite recently lost our home due to money problems.)

The quantity of men that are disloyal 😕

How to cope with the sense of loss when a parent has dementia

But on a lighter note. How did I actually learn to clean a toilet? I also don't remember seeing it done

My adult problem is that I am 34, have an almost 6 yr old an a 20mnth old and sometimes still think 'what the hell am I doing, I am not grown up enough for this' haha.

That parenting changes as your DC grows but that it can still be beyond tough at times and sometimes it can be utterly heartbreaking. My DD had a stillbirth. It was agonising seeing her and my DSIL so heartbroken and being utterly powerless to make everything alright. As a parent your instinct is to make everything better and I wasnt prepared for how devastating that can feel when you can’t.

@Ansumpasty - pour warm/hot water from a height repeatedly on said giant poo and it will go. My mum DID teach me this and I'm always weirdly grateful when I need to do it

Big hugs to those having to deal with the loss of parents, health issues and loss of relatives. I feel like a proper snow flake now writing this but i struggle with my car!

I have a VW golf. I’m almost 40 and this is my third car. All of which I’ve bought off my parents. This one I’ve had 2.5 years and I’ve still no idea how to get the bonnet up. I darent tell my dad I’ve lost the Manual and I’ve had no screenwash In for 5 weeks!

Hitting the perimenopause and discovering that instead of become accomplished and quietly confident in my 50s I would lose so much self-confidence that I want to hide away and spend lots of time procrastinating over work related things I could once do standing on my head. Everyone talks about hot flushes, but no one mentioned anxiety.

Skirting boards.
Pensions.
Being an adult all the time.
Another one with living with regrets. I should have just married a really rich bloke instead.

Odd socks! What the f*ck happens to them all! I’ve currntly got 27 odd ones tied up with a football sock awaiting pairing with their partners. I don’t ever recall my mum having this problem!

What to do when your child does gigantic turds in your toilet that don’t flush

Please don't ask me how I know but...if you purchase the correct one for your style of lavatory - these are good for breaking things up, clearing blockages, and even cleaning (< £6):

www.aliexpress.com/item/HOT-Toilet-Plunger-2nd-Gen-Powerful-Toilet-Dredge-Tools-Clears-Blockages-With-Flexible-Silicone-Rubber-Head/32858232438.html?spm=a2g0s.9042311.0.0.6c634c4dMFSdGl

For anyone who hasn't seen it, or not read it again recently, this is the splendid Hyperbole and a Half and This is why I'll never be an adult complete with the crazed illustrations:

hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/06/this-is-why-ill-never-be-adult.html

How unfair life really is.
You're told to work hard, be kind, be honest, etc. and things will be nice for you.

Nobody mentions office politics and the way you have to sell your soul every day to keep a job.
How dysfunctional the workplace is
That there are truly evil people in this world
How much cleaning that needs to be done (mysteries of how people keep corners and crevices spotless)
How much junk we accumulate

Making a decent living. I worked it out on my own.

Youokhun just articulated my problem

The impossible conundrum of how to work like you're not a mother, and parent like you don't have a career.

The loneliness of motherhood.