To ask what's an adult problem that nobody prepared you for?

[Midge1978]

For me it's keeping the bathroom clean. I don't think I ever saw my mother clean hers but it was always immaculate and rosey smelling. I can't seem to keep on top of the mould monster in mine!

Friends/acquaintances of a similar age to me, or not much older, passing away. It terrifies me.

Disability. The pain and misery of it is bad enough, but it's knowing that I'll be stuck in the house for most of the rest of my life, some of that time bedbound, that makes me feel down. I'm in my mid 40s and hope I have lots of years left, but nothing can prepare you for increasing limitations on what you can do and where you can go.

Reading peoples comments, I realise that I have a blessed life.

That my mother would become terminally ill at the age of 50 and that I would be the only family member trying to find alternative treatments to prolong her life.

That you have to work so hard at relationships and will forever doubt yourself and if you are doing the right thing

That people don't keep their promises

And with the rest of you that you spend the rest of your spare time cleaning, gardening, meal planning etc. My parents always had a cleaner so i totally underestimated that one.

That everyone has an agenda. Everyone. No one is completely altruistic. Men want to sleep with you or women want to fuck you over /get that promotion or whatever.

How many regrets I have. My spoilt & pampered childhood did not prepare me for adult life. I wasted what could have been an excellent education. I was still so childish in my twenties. Now mid forties & I often ponder how differently my life could have been.

As I get older I can help but think money is so much more important. When I was younger I thought as long as I have enough to live a bit etc it'd be fine.

But no. At 36 I regret not having a high paying job to make things easier.

I either wish I'd had a high paying job or married a very rich bloke to soften the blow!

Bramble71

life itself.being alive.living.breathing.keeping chest moving in.and.out

All the paperwork involved! It's relentless.

I'm pretty resilient and cope with stress, sickness and death on a daily basis at work as well as caring for a family, including an adult child with SN and elderly parents.

But I spend all day at work documenting everything I do, signing correspondence etc, then come home to a letter box full of bills and administrative crap that needs sorting. It's so time-consuming and just so boring!

It really is the bane of my life and drives me crazy! Sometimes I dream of getting myself a secretary to handle it all for me.

So much work & not enough down time together. There HAS to be more to life....hasn't there?

FranklinDelano. Education may also be experience for a job. Training may be better experience. Doing work for family or friends may give better feedback and references. Domestic work is also experience for project scheduling, buying, managing, etc.

i wish some politicians would read this thread and see the reality of life for so many

that's another thing - i always thought "those in charge" were generally "good" people, who were very clever and knew what they were doing / had a plan.

oh how naive. everyone is just self serving, even (especially) at the higher levels of society

Sometimes taking up a job costs you money and leaves you poorer to start with.

Found it with my first graduate job to extent I had to take a further loan out so I could move down there, pay deposit and first month’s rent, clothes and transport costs. Had it since as well but that was a big shock at the time.

That men in workplaces can be sexists shits - again worse first proper job, ie graduate job not summer and p/t, where I started in open plan office of 90 + with only five women and found it was considered acceptable behaviour to discuss how fucakable I was. I also found I was denied training because I was female and they had no issue saying that to my face and paid less, which they were less up front about, – had it since but never so overt.

I’d worked so hard to get there and it was such a bitter disappointment and so many people round me shrugged and said that was what world of work was.

It was very depressing and couldn’t just leave took ages to find a better job and lots of trying to get last minute time off for interviews to get out the place.

I heard something this morning about getting more girls into SETM jobs – thinking I did and left – I wonder if they look at retention issues.

Bereavement, and sorting out estates when greedy unscrupilous nasty vermin are involved. Death in general, illness, dying, fear. It's too much to bear. And coat-hangers...fucking coat-hangers, the bane of my life, a necessary evil. Why do they have to tangle together and around clothes and ARGGHHH!

I was totally unprepared for the sickening realisation that those in charge of the country do not have the interests of the majority at heart. And that those who want to be in power really should not be. I grew up thinking the government knew best, that leaders were wise and considerate, when really, most of them are self-serving, greedy people, who are so far removed from the reality of life for most of us, and they will always do what's best for themselves and theirs, and to hell with anyone else.

Trying to find a way to mop my white tiled kitchen floor (not my choice they were here when we bought the place) without it drying streaky! 2 months in and I'm finally getting round to trying a steam mop 🤞🏻🤞🏻

SugarMiceInTheRain, montenotte. If you disagree with politicians, why not try it yourself and try to change them. You may find you have little influence or power. Politicians may change legislation slowly. If they are in charge, they have to obey rules and regulations previously agreed until they can change them, slowly. Most of government is run by civil servants as above.

ADarkandStormyKnight, Little. Fiction films and other entertainment's are just that not reality. As most scientists, engineers, philosophers and lawyers know, you may only rely on verified evidence, tests, practices and theories. Anything else may be unreliable, fictional or even lies.

Being a single working parent! I admire all the single parents so much and still don’t know how they do it! After 6 years!

Yes I know, Genius! But I think the messages still kind of filter through.

Onesmallstepforaman try digestive enzymes.

That one day I wouldn’t be needed by anyone anymore.

shockers that's so sad and why I think pets are important