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Parents who don't dance at childrens birthday disco partys

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Ripeberry · 13/05/2007 19:08

Just got back from a 6yr old's birthday party and it had a DJ who spent ages trying to encourage the parents to drag themselves away from the bar and actually join in some games with their kids.
You could see some of the kids pleading with their mums and dads for them to join in but they just sat there with their pint and fag.
Me and about 5 other mums seemed to be the only ones actually joining in and there were about 30 children there.
One little kid was actually sobbing because their dad did not want to join in so we said he could join in with us.
Is it unreasonable for me to expect that if you go to a kids party you at least join in? or was it silly of the host to have a bar open?
This was all at 3pm this afternoon.

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Nbg · 13/05/2007 19:10

Not exactly a kids party if the bars open is it.

sallyheartshapedstrawberry · 13/05/2007 19:10

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Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:11

Er, I think you are being unreasonable. I would expect parents to be free to EAVE their six-year old children at a party and bugger off home if they want. It is a CHILDREN'S party fgs. I don't expect to be forced onto the bouncy castle or to do the birdy dance or whatever particular horror was involved. If I do stay then I expect to do nothing more than drink a glass of wine or have a coffee and gossip with other parents. The DJ sounds awful! Mind you, where was it held? It does sound rather squalid.

JetPeanut · 13/05/2007 19:11

Probably a mistake to have a bar. Shame for the kids when their parents can't be arsed to join in with them. makes me and

Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:12

What? You expect to join in pass the parcel and go on the bouncy castle? This is all very bizarre.

Saturn74 · 13/05/2007 19:13

I always used to be one of the ones dragged onto the dance floor, smiling politely whilst being humiliated by 'DJ Funky' or 'Mr Magik' or some other mullet-haired saddo of an entertainer.
I did it out of pure maternal guilt though - hated every minute of it.
Now if there had been a bar.....I'd have been at the front of the conga line!

newgirl · 13/05/2007 19:15

i think 'when in rome' so if the parents led the way with the dancing, i think the guests should join in too

Ripeberry · 13/05/2007 19:18

This was held at a members only bar at an open prison- would you believe it.
Next year i think i'll just be lazy like all the other parents.
It just upset me to see those kids crying because their parents thought drink was more important, than just making a fool of themselves and having fun with their kid just for a couple of minutes.

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Blandmum · 13/05/2007 19:20

I loath having to get up to dance, and would rather have my head nailed to the floor than do it.



For anyone.

tortoiseSHELL · 13/05/2007 19:22

No way will I ever be getting up to dance at a child's birthday party. And at 6 I'd be really surprised if parents were expected to stay tbh, unless the host had specifically asked me to (this was the case at one recently, but she is v good friend and needed help!).

Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:23

I think the DJ sounds like a twat on an ego trip. It is ridiculous to try to force parents to join in at a CHILDREN'S party.

theUrbanDryad · 13/05/2007 19:24

an open prison??? wtf?

Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:24

Well, it sounds like the party from hell! God, like something out of Nighty Night.
I'd rather go to a real prison. It is not lazy not to participate in children's activities at a children's party. It is normal. It is, actually, why those of us who hire entertainers, do so. I'd be incandescent with rage if I hired someone and they started haranguing the parents.

theUrbanDryad · 13/05/2007 19:26

did the children go and look at the prisoners as amusement instead of playing musical chairs? like Bedlam in Victorian times....

JodieG1 · 13/05/2007 19:28

I'm lost as to how there was a party at a prison?

Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:28

Or were all the parents inmates? It does sound grimmer than grim.

lulumama · 13/05/2007 19:33

i think that expecting anyone to go to a kids party in a members only bar at an open prison is unreasonable, never mind dancing at the behest of a mulleted DJ

colditz · 13/05/2007 19:36

A bar? At 3pm? At a kid's party?


theUrbanDryad · 13/05/2007 19:37

lol lulumama!!

did he have a mullet? sis he talk like Smashy & Nicey?


Aloha · 13/05/2007 19:38

I have always offered wine at parties at home....but a pay bar? Um, I would say 'chavtastic' but I'm not sure it is allowed

MaloryTowers · 13/05/2007 19:38

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WigWamBam · 13/05/2007 19:38

The members bar at an open prison?? Bloody hell. What a classy place for a kid's party

I'm amazed so many parents stayed. Although if it was at a prison, maybe that's why they did.

Children's parties and party games are for children, not for adults.

fireflyfairy2 · 13/05/2007 19:38

I take it the non smoking ban hasn't started there then?

I wouldn't have went to a children's party that included a bar, where drunken adults hang out, but then I'm odd

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