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Still love Disney, unicorns and rainbows and all that crap. I don’t get it. Aibu

I’m going to drop this in a minute because I’m finding it too upsetting, but just to say that when I say my mother likes childern’s books I’m not talking children let alone young adult fiction, I’m talking books aimed at toddlers. And the sort of films and TV she’s into is In the Night Garden and other stuff aimed at the under-5s, not Moana and Disney films.

I agree that it’s fine to like this stuff, it’s when you use it to create a persona of cute helplessness and want everyone to treat you as an adorable child that it gets problematic.

I also take the point about paedophiles only pretending to like childish things - I hadn’t thought about it in that way.

Oh and I too hate the ‘porn-star’ over-made-up caterpillar eyebrows looks that seems so unfortunately prominent among young women these days too. Its a personal opinion. So shoot me.

I'm autistic and I love Disney, and I go to Disneyland/world with my mum. I'm hoping to go there for my 30th birthday. I get that other people think it's sad and creepy, but I love it. Plus, i'm autistic and i've never fitted in and I don't want to, so I really don't care what others think. My life isn't great due to the autism but Disney makes me really happy.

A lot of people who are into things like Disney, Lego and Star wars obsessively are also highly likely to be autistic, as we usually have obsessive, childlike interests and we don't care about social norms. This thread is quite horrible actually

Oh and I too hate the ‘porn-star’ over-made-up caterpillar eyebrows looks that seems so unfortunately prominent among young women these days too. Its a personal opinion. So shoot me.

Just don’t wear it then.

I'm sorry but April won this thread with the let it go comment - still laughing!

Nah I don't get disney sh*t but I like a unicorn and totes respect people's freedom to live how they want in a harmless way. I think having a completely pink and fluffy house shows a bit of imagination, something different to neutral tones from IKEA!

YANBU - especially the Disney thing and people that go without kids. Its bloody hell - why go if you don't need to.

I really don't like Disney!

YABU
I hate disney but I love rainbows, unicorns and glitter.
Flowers and the colour pink.

Ive always thought that its slightly worrying that people turn against these things as 'silly'.... is it indicative of thinking anything that is traditionally associated with women or girls is silly?
Fair enough not to personally like them. But the venom with which some people approach anything 'girly' makes me a bit worried about society to be honest.

namechange18 - sorry you feel that way, there were plenty of us sticking up for you!

My hobby is taxidermy; you wana see the reactions to THAT for people thinking you're creepy ;) they key to it all is not giving a shiny shyte

I find this weird? Why do you care what other people like?

I think liking it is ok, nostalgia and all that. It's when they collect all the crappy plastic knock off merchandise that I find creepy! Putting it on Facebook that after searching 30 different Primark stores, they finally have their new chip cup which completes the set ect. What to they do with it? Do their friends/partners not tell them how odd it looks that their house is filled with plastic toys? It's along the same lines as collecting china dolls or gnomes and giving them names in my book.

Life can be hard, some people like to take refuge in cute stuff, but if you don't get it that's your prerogative, you just might not want to come and visit my flat

I like Disney - I'm not obsessed, I just like it a normal amount. I took my dd to the cinema to see Ferdinand and loved it, it was a really funny and sweet movie. We are taking our dd to Disneyland florida next year and we can't wait, we saved hard for 7 years in order to afford to go, we know she will love it. I like that I can relate to (some of) the things that my dd likes, it's a good thing. I can take or leave unicorns and rainbows (except real rainbows which are lovely) but I wouldn't dream of looking down on somebody who liked them - why not. If somebody wants to wear a t-shirt with Cookie Monster on it or something then I don't see why they shouldn't. There is so much horrible depressing stuff going on in the world and in people's lives, sometimes people just want something frilly to escape into for a while - nothing wrong with that, we can't all be cynical fun police.

A lot of people who are into things like Disney, Lego and Star wars obsessively are also highly likely to be autistic, as we usually have obsessive, childlike interests and we don't care about social norms.
Yup. Waves awkwardly.
Though from a thread about Lego on here just after Christmas it seems that there are a fair few non-autists who enjoy Lego building too (which was rather reassuring)

I used to turn my nose up at Disney too - not for me.

And then they started making films like Brave, Frozen and Moana, and I love love love the films. Not Disney mad though by all means.

But the world is a big enough place for adults to like what they like. No biggie.

I find "hate" a very strong word and there is a huge difference between not being interested in something, actively disliking it and then actually hating it. The latter would give me pause for thought.

There is also a huge difference between liking Disney or whatever and clinging to a childlike persona, the two can be linked, but they can also be very separate. You can act like a grown up and still like those things. It's not right to assume everyone who likes Disney or whatever also clings to a childish persona.

I think op if that was your point, then your opening post should have been phrased differently. As in "I cannot understand women who behave like little girls and have a constant child like persona" that would have got very different responses.

i love disney but im not overly twee with it

Having a childish persona is completely separate. Morphing Disney characters / hello kitty etc into adult sexual beings is the part I have a problem with. This is playing into the hands of paedophiles, which makes me think of Japan, where this is definitely and issue. Sexualising these characters is entirely different from women liking things aimed predominantly at children. I wonder how many of the women, who like these things were in some way deprived of them as children.

Life is serious enough, why can't we have some 'childish' pleasures. I love bears myself (hence username). I own several, including a giant one (as in toy bears, not real!)

I don't get a lot of things people do. Most things actually. The relevant question being though: so fucking what?

I also like Hello Kitty and some Disney films (though there are some legitimate criticisms you could make about Disney in general) and I own Paddington pajamas. Oh and just to add, I have a job and pay my rent so am able to act like an adult when required

I like Disney - the old classics remind me of my childhood and I get all nostalgic. I've started singing Disney songs to my baby boy as well - he seems to enjoy it and I think they're good songs!
Don't get the unicorn thing though.

I do like bright objects against white backgrounds and sometimes Disney stuff 'does it' for me.

However, the obvious branding and visible logos turn me off.

Looking at Pylones coat hooks and hangers for my house

why is it childish to enjoy something? (something that isnt traditionally associated with men)

Well, my desk currently has two unicorn mugs on it with lots of garishy bright coloured pens in... and I have a unicorn notebook with my (real) name on, plus a load of other 'cute' stuff. (see pic) Oh, and there's a duplicate LOL doll that my DD gave me so I'm even into 'cute' childish things like that too...

Am I ashamed by it or think it is silly? No, why should I be? I agree with namechange18 - people who find these things comforting or enjoyable should be left to enjoy them. I'm certain that I have autistic traits too (not officially diagnosed but not severe enough to warrant the very overstretched NHS treatment after I took the autism test), and I find these things give me joy and pleasure. I've also had a pretty traumatic few years health-wise and with a family bereavement. so having my likes and hobbies as an outlet is a great comfort.

I'm sure my DH is autistic too, and he loves Star Wars, Doctor Who, Forumula One, Lego etc and there is nothing wrong with any of these things.

Being young at heart and having a variety of interests is what makes the world go round a bit better. YABVU.