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Deshasafraisy · 20/04/2018 07:42

Still love Disney, unicorns and rainbows and all that crap. I don’t get it. Aibu

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GrouchyKiwi · 20/04/2018 09:36

No one tell OP about Scotland's national animal.

NotACleverName · 20/04/2018 09:39

Oh for fuck's sake, cannot we not go a day without judging what women like?

I'd like to submit my interests for the approval of the OP: Pokémon (I have two Pokémon tattoos and collect the plushies), Pusheen, other video games, photography. I'm 32 with a full-time job.

Lotuslots · 20/04/2018 09:42

I'm always slightly disturbed. But then I go....could be worse. Forget about it.

ICantCopeAnymore · 20/04/2018 09:43

@Neverender

Why though? Why would you judge someone on what pyjamas they wear or what mug they drink from? How are they related to the age of the person?

I can't imagine living in a world where I would care what recepticle someone ingests their fluid from.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 20/04/2018 09:44

I don’t get the Disney love but it’s harmless. Am I a big kid for still loving Dr Who? If so, I don’t care.

fleshmarketclose · 20/04/2018 09:44

I don't know, my daughter 25 loves sharks, cacti and mermaids which means at least I have plenty of options for stocking fillers when it comes to Christmas. My adult son has no loves and so gets socks and underwear and chocolate which isn't anywhere near as interesting to buy or unwrap.I tend to think its pretty harmless really.

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blackteasplease · 20/04/2018 09:44

Personally I can't relate to still loving Disney, although I'm happy to watch it with the kids.

Rainbows and unicorns are neither there nor there tho ugh- I'm not sure the6 are solely for kids!

Potplant2 · 20/04/2018 09:44

My mother’s like this and always has been. Reads small children’s books in preference to adult novels. Has pics of children’s book characters all over her walls. Likes making crafts with them. Wears children’s plastic jewellery. And lots more.

Yes, it can seem harmless and certainly for years me and my siblings played along with it and bought her presents of that kind. But at some point we all just stopped doing so, I think when it because increasingly clear that she was using this little girl persona, and had done all her life, as a way of avoiding growing up and taking responsibility. She behaves like a child and expects everyone else to look after her in ways that are very manipulative and damaging.

I now see her ‘little girl’ interests as actually rather sinister and don’t indulge them. So I can see where the OP is coming from. I’m not into Disney and cutesy stuff for reasons of personal taste, but I don’t begrudge other women enjoying it if that’s their bag. However, when such interests become a way of manipulating others into seeing you as cute and small and needing looking after it becomes problematic, I think.

To be REALLY contentious for a moment, how would we feel about men who were only into children’s toys and stuff in the same way? I think we would feel uncomfortable and suspect an unhealthy arresting of their development, possible even as far as paedophilic interests.

My mother isn’t a paedophile. But she does enjoy the company of under-5s more than anyone else and she does have this interest in children’s toys, books and games that makes me uncomfortable, for all the reasons I gave above - it manifests as deep immaturity and selfishness.

blackteasplease · 20/04/2018 09:45

I still like all the dinosaur stuff you get for kids and enjoy taking them to the museum etc. I don't think that is weird either!

Peartree17 · 20/04/2018 09:48

Comtesse, I did NOT know that is what unicorn signified! Thank you for the enlightening post. Who knew I was going to learn something from Mumsnet this morning while dawdling over coffee?

OP, if the Disney-fanciers of whom you speak go around loudly demanding your approval, you might have a point. If they don't, you haven't. I used to go to an exercise studio that ran a ballet fitness class: participants turned up in the full Noel Streatfield - pink tights, little wrap cardies, leg warmers, Alice bands - once I even saw a tiara! None of them were going to grace the stage of Sadlers Wells, but they were having fun in a peaceful way, adopting a particular form of feminine aspiration while getting some excellent exercise. Seemed harmless to me.

OTOH - I suppose if you thought marketing infantilising tastes were part of a wider strategy to infantilise women and make out they (we) ought not to , you know, have equal pay and civil liberties, and by buying into it, those women were somehow narrowing horizons for all of us, you might have a point. But since you say you 'don't get it', maybe that wasn't your point?

What was your point, OP? Use your words!

holiday101 · 20/04/2018 09:48

A colleague of mine loves Disney and goes to Disney World every year. Her now teen dc are begging to go somewhere else on holiday Grin

Gwenhwyfar · 20/04/2018 09:48

"I think the whole 'I'm so cute!' Is a psychological issue...."

Is it to get attention? Something to do with the youngest in the family being spoilt? There must be a psychological reason for it.

ICantCopeAnymore · 20/04/2018 09:48

Well my DH loves Star Wars, Batman, comic books, Lego, Harry Potter and Pixar. Is he a paedophile, then?

Boulty · 20/04/2018 09:50

We are all different we all like and dislike similar things...

some think unicorns are dreadful in grown women and others cannot understand the need for tattoos, smoking, drinking whenever stressed... having nails done, waxing everything.... the list is endless of what different people like and don't like

For me, I don't understand the need for constant swearing in posts.. yes we are all different

Potplant2 · 20/04/2018 09:50

In my mother’s case the ‘I’m so cute!’ is part of abusive parentifying - making her children responsible for looking after her and her happiness.

amusedbush · 20/04/2018 09:51

I love Disney and DH didn't even react when I put a rainbow and unicorn print duvet cover on our bed. I also love dinosaurs and glitter and mermaids and Pokemon.

I really don't like judgmental cows though.

IAmMatty · 20/04/2018 09:51

I don't really understand it either OP.

I ended up in a bit of an argument with someone at work who was literally running about the building to catch Pokemon. She's also obsessed with Harry Potter, etc, and we had a discussion about why I don't like that stuff. She got really annoyed when I said it's because I'm 42, and my tastes have evolved since I was 11.

It ended with me saying 'no, please don't lend me your Harry Potter books, I don't want to read about A FUCKING ORPHAN WIZARD' [GRIN]

I feel like it does isolate me a bit though. I work in an office full of adults, but because I don't collect sticker albums, read Harry Potter, play Pokemon Go, I feel like quite an outsider. But my face does not fake it well.

Boulty · 20/04/2018 09:52

Hakuna Matata

Love it

Sallystyle · 20/04/2018 09:53

I love unicorns and I even have a My Little Pony tattoo!

I have no fear of growing up and I face the realities of adult life very well.

Potplant2 · 20/04/2018 09:53

Well my DH loves Star Wars, Batman, comic books, Lego, Harry Potter and Pixar. Is he a paedophile, then?

I was careful to say grown men who are ONLY into those things, meaning at the expense of any adult interests. No, I don’t think that men who are into children’s stuff are automatically paedophiles, just highlighting that arrested development and an unhealthy degree of interest in children’s toys, games and topics is one of the signs of a paedophile, yet when we see women with that same unhealthy degree of interest and apparent arrested development we think it’s cute.

BlindAssassin1 · 20/04/2018 09:53

Yes Potplant I have met a woman like this but in a professional setting. It was all very cute, though she had no actual desk space because it was full of soft toys but whatevs her business. But the stuff was like an extension of her childishness, and when she didn't get her own way she would strop and sulk like an actual child, and it was totally indulged. It was all very odd.

I've seen women who take a punk approach to this trend and embellish drawings, soft toys and bags with their own designs and that looks kind of cool. However, when a woman yesterday at work wanted to make a complaint at customer services it was difficult to take her seriously because she was wearing cat ears. Confused

runsmidgeOMG · 20/04/2018 09:53

Are you bibbity bobbity coming back OP?

Couldn't resist ! Grin

Deshasafraisy · 20/04/2018 09:54

Peartree
My point is that I don’t understand the psychology of an adult clinging to a childish persona.
Of course I don’t lose sleep over it and I understand that we all like different things.
But a woman dressed as a little girl or vocalising her obsession with Disney princesses creeps me out.

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amusedbush · 20/04/2018 09:54

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