AIBU to not want to pay for the kids

[Noregrets25]

So my partner and I don’t have children but my sister has 2 and my brother has 3. We often go out for meals for birthdays etc and the bill is split. When the kids were younger it didn’t bother me because they would have the kids menu drink tap water and was always very cheap.
However now they are older they eat off the main menu, they drink soft drinks and have dessert etc.
So we went out for my sisters birthday(she picked and it was not a cheap place) everyone had 2 courses, including the kids, they had 2 soft drinks each and everyone else shared wine, apart from my partner who had a Coke. So the bills come and it’s automatically split between the adults so my partner and I are paying towards 5 kids aswell.
AIBU to think I shouldn’t have to pay for the kids?! I spend a lot of time with the kids, take them out, pick them up gifts if I see something they will like, always treat them on their birthdays, but I feel like their parents should pay for them. Anyone else been is this situation and if so did you say anything?

[MarthasGinYard]

Yanbu

Entitled behaviour from your siblings

Must cost you a fortune

[Lotuslots]

I am always shocked by people who put up with this crap. Stop it now. If they have any decency they will completely agree with you. Any horror on their behalf will show what cf they are.

[Findingdotty]

If every child is having an adult meal then you split it by 11 (assuming both your siblings have partners) then each family pays for the 'right' number of people in their party. Your sister pays x 4, your brother x 5 and you x 2.

[AlpacaBag]

Ooooh I hate bill splitting! I've been stung once too many times so I'm always prepared now!

I usually say quite loudly to DH when the bill arrives "how much was yours DH?" followed by "and one kids meal, blah blah blah so ours is £30 - super!" and chuck some money into the ring!

Don't be afraid to be blunt about it, if anyone doesn't like my approach they needn't bother eating out with us again! Why anyone expects other people to contribute towards their food/alcohol bill is beyond me.

[Hillarious]

Bill splitting is bad news, unless you're out with one or two other couples and you've all had roughly the same to eat and drink and to do anything other than split the bill would be seen as petty.

Germany is great for dining out in big groups. You're usually asked at the end whether you'd like to pay together or separately, and paying separately isn't a problem. It's the sharing of a bottle of wine that causes problems, but the Germans get over that by serving individual carafes of various sizes.

However, I do accept that going to Germany for a family meal is a bit far and the cost of travel would outstrip any savings made on not splitting the bill.

[boywiththebrokensmile]

''When I go out with family or friends it's you pay for what you've ordered.''

same, i really do not get this whole culture of splitting the bill when there are clearly many ppl here unhappy with it.

[BitchQueen90]

boy me neither. My family all have different levels of wealth, I'm a single mum so I'm not well off and my family wouldn't expect me to pay for their extra wine/desserts etc if I can only really afford to buy a meal and soft drinks for myself and DS.

[MidniteScribbler]

Except for a select group of people I dine with regularly, anytime I go out to dinner I just keep a running tally of what I owe, and before the bill arrives, take that out of my purse, add a tip and put it on the table with a 'here's my share'. If you say it in a very authoritative way, I find no one tends to argue with you.