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To think that the bride's been cheeky here!

488 replies

whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/04/2018 15:51

Alright, so there's a girl I met at uni who's now getting married. We're not close at all, but she's been very kind and invited me to her wedding. Evening only.

As the wedding is hours away, there's only one hotel close by with ridiculous rates, and I'd only be invited from 8:30pm anyway, I'm planning on not going. I went to go and click the 'sorry, can't make it' option on her RSPV website when I saw the ride share list on there.

I've been put down to drive (what appears to be) one of her elderly relatives from my hometown. Never offered this, have never met the elderly relative in question, haven't really spoken to the bride about the wedding at all Confused Messaged another friend who's been invited to evening early and is down on the list to rideshare with someone elderly, same thing with her!

I've never declined an invitation so fast. Not sure if I've been invited as a friend or because I've got a car and happen to be from the same place as her relative!

OP posts:
PinkCalluna · 15/04/2018 18:14

So would it have made a difference had the name been a 'fit young bloke' type name?

Tammy the difference would be that the OP would be less likely to feel guilt in declining to transport a “young fit guy”. Much much harder to say you don’t want to be responsible for someone’s elderly aunt or uncle.

DairyisClosed · 15/04/2018 18:16

The thing that really gets to me is that if she had just asked you nicely you very well may have said yes to male her wedding less stressful.

MrsEricBana · 15/04/2018 18:20

Shock Cheekyfuckery indeed.

overnightangel · 15/04/2018 18:27

Watching this with interest, wedding me make people do weird stuff but I’ve never heard anything as bizarre and as brazen as this!!

MadMags · 15/04/2018 18:27

I think asking your guests to lift share is rude, anyway.

Maybe some doesn’t want to make forced, stilted chit-chat with a stranger.

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 15/04/2018 18:33

That is epic level cf-ing

Tubelight2016 · 15/04/2018 18:34

Wow just Wow.
I don't understand how someone can think so selfishly .

TheJoyOfSox · 15/04/2018 18:35

How did I not think of this for our wedding?

If only I’d known that I only had to invite my Old next door neighbours hairdressers nieces fiancés football coach best friends brother and I could have got my Nan and granddad a free ride.

LeighaJ · 15/04/2018 18:36

whywhywhywhywhyyy

"she's more of a 'vaguely tweet my feelings' kind of girl."

That's reason enough on its own to have declined the invite. Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 15/04/2018 18:36

Wow that is very cheeky, that would really piss me off. I think she only invited you, so you could give that elderly relative a lift. I would decline as if my keyboard was made of hot coal, noway. How rude, without contacting you beforehand to ask if its ok first.

TicketyBoo83 · 15/04/2018 18:39

Cheeky cow! Presumably she’s also expecting you to take elderly relative home after the reception too? What day is your friend meeting with her? Please come back and update us!

LaContessaDiPlump · 15/04/2018 18:39

Ooof. That is some mega cheeky fuckery right there

restingbemusedface · 15/04/2018 18:40

So did she expect you to go to an evening do but not drink?!

MissKummerspeck · 15/04/2018 18:43

Massive CF!

SenecaFalls · 15/04/2018 19:02

And l don't think elderly like to be invited to evening do as usually only a bit of a knees up.

I left a party last night at 11:30 or so. My 91 year old aunt was still on the dance floor. Quite a few Enids, Elsies, and Mildreds still have a lot of life left in them.

AmericanBiscuits · 15/04/2018 19:07

This level of cheeky fuckery is the main reason I love MN. It's truly breathtaking! Grin

PlumsGalore · 15/04/2018 19:11

I also love a CF, but this is sooo funnny too. Can't believe it, I would have been tempted to accept and email her asking what time Auntie Enid would be collecting you.

Queenio24 · 15/04/2018 19:11

So had she condemned you to a night of sobriety at her wedding due to volunteering you to drive dear aunt Enid home! The brass neck of some folk!

Minniemountain · 15/04/2018 19:15

expat DH's cousin has a website for her wedding. We got emailed a link. However they are a lovely couple, ceremony and reception are in the same town and they've even invited DCs.

fc301 · 15/04/2018 19:19

Lakielady I think I love you!

Jannilost · 15/04/2018 19:24

Oh dear,

Springtrolls · 15/04/2018 19:28

That is awesome.
And don't be daft, the op won't be driving aunt Ethel home that night. They will be sharing the hotel room, seeing as op would have to get one anyway so she can have a drink. Grin

GeminiWarrior · 15/04/2018 19:30

Omg how cheeky

MardalaRhyme · 15/04/2018 19:32

Mardalaplease tell me you declined?

We only got told we were acting as chauffeurs very close to the wedding, after accepting the invite. It became pretty apparent during the course of the wedding that the entire group of school friends were expected to 'work' at the wedding. It was quite bemusing.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 15/04/2018 19:34

So did she expect you to go to an evening do but not drink?!

Yes this! So much presumptions on her part.

Agree there with you ExpatInScotland re: cash gifts - I bet guests will be emailed a link to their wedding website (wtf Hmm ) poem page... Grin