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To think that the bride's been cheeky here!

488 replies

whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/04/2018 15:51

Alright, so there's a girl I met at uni who's now getting married. We're not close at all, but she's been very kind and invited me to her wedding. Evening only.

As the wedding is hours away, there's only one hotel close by with ridiculous rates, and I'd only be invited from 8:30pm anyway, I'm planning on not going. I went to go and click the 'sorry, can't make it' option on her RSPV website when I saw the ride share list on there.

I've been put down to drive (what appears to be) one of her elderly relatives from my hometown. Never offered this, have never met the elderly relative in question, haven't really spoken to the bride about the wedding at all Confused Messaged another friend who's been invited to evening early and is down on the list to rideshare with someone elderly, same thing with her!

I've never declined an invitation so fast. Not sure if I've been invited as a friend or because I've got a car and happen to be from the same place as her relative!

OP posts:
OVienna · 22/04/2018 14:16

Don't say you've declined because it's too far to drive for just the evening unless you're happy to commit to the whole shebang. It sounds like places are freeing up! A space could well be found for you during the day...to enable you to carry out the limo duties (and pick up any other tasks others have declined????)

Invent another engagement and shut this thing down.

lynzpynz · 22/04/2018 14:17

The DREAM response in fact would be to send her a link to the daily mail article 😂! Can you actually imagine Wink

SimonBridges · 22/04/2018 14:21

Tell her you are booked on for an operation on your arse or fanjo and then go into great detail about it and explain that this means there will be no way you can sit still for that long.

Ginger1982 · 22/04/2018 14:24

I think it depends on how concerned you are at keeping a friendship. If you are, just say you already had plans. If not, tell the truth about the car share!

Weezol · 22/04/2018 14:24

Now she wants to know why you're not going? I have never, ever come across this from a bride. WTAF?

I wouldn't reply. Why waste the time/headspace on a wedding you were never going to go to in the first place?

bonnyshide · 22/04/2018 14:27

'I declined your invitation because it was too far for me to travel for just the evening, I also wasn't prepared to give a lift to one if your family members I'd never met as stated on the website, without being asked first. I hope you have a lovely day.'

fcekinghell · 22/04/2018 14:35

go with Flirty's reply. Nice and vague and see what happens.

Or just send her the link to the daily fail?

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 22/04/2018 14:38

This is one of the best things I've seen. Who the hell does she think she is? Carshare but doesn't ask the actual drivers, then has the balls to complain? So much nope!

ohfourfoxache · 22/04/2018 14:39

Oh the Fail link as a reply would be sublime! Grin

But nice and vague without saying “it’s too far for an evening” is probably the best way to go

FeckinCrunchiesInTheCar · 22/04/2018 14:48

Warp speed cheeky fuckery here.
mother of god.

SenoritaViva · 22/04/2018 15:01

So rude to ask why you've declined!

eddielizzard · 22/04/2018 15:15

i like flirty's response too.

sarcasmisnotthelowestformofwit · 22/04/2018 15:23

OP PLEASE be honest and tell her why. This kind of CFery needs to be taken down.

StellaHeyStella · 22/04/2018 15:29

I think you'd be doing a favour for the other taxi drivers wedding guests who drive if you call her out on the group message for this nonsense.

And also I'm a bit bored this afternoon op so crack on please.

Weezol · 22/04/2018 15:38

Just realised - a group message?! So she can't spare the time to create four seperate emails but thinks it's absolutley fine to use you as a driver for a relative without even asking? I'd bet good money the relative hasn't been consulted as to whethet they even want a lift from a stranger.

She's a wall to wall winner this one.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 22/04/2018 15:43

“Hi, would love to come but no transport. If you can arrange a lift for me that would be great!”

Weezol · 22/04/2018 15:47

Today 15:43 Myimaginarycathasfleas

“Hi, would love to come but no transport. If you can arrange a lift for me that would be great!"

If you must reply please, please use this!

LikeASitcom · 22/04/2018 15:47

Hi, would love to come but no transport. If you can arrange a lift for me that would be great

Absolutely brilliant

mustbetimeforacreamtea · 22/04/2018 15:52

Can you tell her you're not Uber excited by her special day?

LegendOfTomorrow · 22/04/2018 15:54

@mustbetimeforacreamtea Ooh ooh I see what you did there! 😂😂😂Grin

Weezol · 22/04/2018 15:55

And that you will be at a hearing with HMRC as you were late with your taxi return?

LegendOfTomorrow · 22/04/2018 16:00

No way would I be driving for hours (assuming it's two hours there and two back that's 4 bloody hours!) just to spend what's likely to be what? 3 hours maximum sipping on a cola? Thats more time driving than attending the event. Just tell her that unfortunately it's too far away but you send her your best wishes for the day.

mustbetimeforacreamtea · 22/04/2018 16:02

Legend thank you (bows)

toldmywrath · 22/04/2018 16:13

creamtea lift tastic response Uber GrinGrinStar

Weezol · 22/04/2018 16:42

Bows to Creamtea's superior wit

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