To think brides often get their dress wrong?

[FreeMantle]

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

When I got married I wanted a dress with straps but actually there really weren’t many in the shops I went to (only 7 years ago). I’m a size 14/16 and not only had a strapless dress, it had a full on tulle skirt. I loved it and felt amazing in it, I couldn’t give care less what anyone else thought.

Most of my friends have had strapless dresses too and I’ve never thought anything other than how beautiful and happy they looked on their wedding day.

I agree that strapless is a horrible style, very few people can look at all good in it and even the nicer/better fitted ones aren't brilliant.

They just split your body just where you want curves to flow - instead you get a harsh horizontal line right across your widest point on your boobs, so even a person with a great figure just looks like they have a big white shelf in front of them - the wrapped in a towel look. In order for them to stay up, they seem to usually be constructed of a hard, quite thick-material-ed corset which is wider than a normal dress and more tube-shaped, and doesn't usually move with you. Just not flattering. And they are the least original and inventive - nothing looks so 'generic wedding dress'. Their popularity is a mystery!

peacheach, no, I regret smoking fags when I was still growing and ending up a borderline midget.

Oh sorry Room that is a very negative cross post there.

I have seen people look good in strapless! - as you say in your post, completely contradicting mine! But it's so much harder to look good - it's a very unforgiving style of dress, I guess that is it.

Mightymucks I can't think of an appropriate answer but that made me laugh which is probably rude of me. I'll leave now.

I honestly think this is a mean thread. If someone chooses a dress and loves it despite whether you think it suits or not then what about it. Some one posted about laughing at a bride and bridesmaids all of round shape stomping up the aisle. Why be mean. If your so self involved to think your opinion counts that's much and you k ow best and can find people's choices that they like and they pay for a source of amusement perhaps stay at home and attend no more weddings. It seems kind of mean spirited this thread to be honest. If you aren't paying for it and you aren't wearing it then I fail to see what business it is of yours or anyone else.

If I were getting married again, I would wear this beautiful dress! It looks like it would be flattering to my body shape (which is no boobs and big bum!).

I've been to two weddings where the dresses were fine but the fit was so way off that the brides looked utterly ridiculous! First where the brides sweetheart neckline stood away from her chest as it was so over padded and rigidly boned and was pulled up way too high!

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I still laugh when I think about my colleague’s wedding. She had a strapless gown and glasses (couldn’t be asked with contacts) and her photos look ridiculous.

Great. So not only will I never find a dress that I like that suits my 5ft1 size 22 frame, but I also can't wear my glasses despite the fact I've worn them for 23 of my 33 years and don't look like me without them.
I'll just have to hope DP doesn't propose ever!

(Mildly tongue in cheek)

I wouldn’t dream of telling a woman my thoughts on her dress if I disliked it

Oh, I would, if she was trying them on, and I have done: it's what I was there for. It's not the action of a friend to abet a woman in a huge and costly and lasting-forever-in-photos mistake.

After someone has bought it, or even more so is wearing it at the actual wedding, honesty is perhaps not such a good idea.

FizzyGreenWater your post at 15.47 is a good analysis of problems with the strapless style

As horrible as this thread is it has actually helped me reachba decision about my wedding dress!

I have yet to see a bride in a strapless dress that looked comfortable/pretty. If you are having a church service, I think it is inappropriate to have strapless/backless/low cleavage dresses in any case. And in a civil ceremony, it looks too over the top.

With strapless dresses you have to have them boned to buggery to keep everything cinched in and strapped down (cheaper dresses won't have the decent corsetry that you need); you still spend half your day worrying about slippage and hoicking the dress up in to place. Have straps/sleeves and then a) you won't look cheap and tacky, and b) you can wear decent undergarments that support you properly, be a lot more comfortable without all the boning and c) look fabulous. And if you are busty, they are to be avoided at all costs!

There are so many beautiful styles of wedding dress that are classy, elegant and stylish. I do not understand this modern obsession with flashing the flesh at the expense of good taste and style.

(Sits down with a glass of wine, puts feet up and gets ready for the flamers )

sailor, what are you getting?

newt, I have seen some lovely pictures with glasses. A friend of mine had a lovely 60s style look with glasses and it was amazing. In the 60s a lot of brides had no choice but to wear glasses if they wanted to see anything so the style goes well with it.

mighty a strapless tulle monstrosity

No, I was torn between two very similar dresses - both bardot necklines, both satin and both quite classic silhouettes (a line without being poofy). One was longer and one was shorter; I felt that the long dress was more expected but the short dress was more 'me'. I was leaning towards the longer dress due to expectation but I knew I'd be uncomfortable and miserable. I'm going short.

These are the two.
The bow strap was ivory on the sample I tried.
On the tea length I've been assured I can get the bow moved to the back, have a sparkly belt sewn on to the waist band and get buttons attached down the back to replicate the longer dress.

Tea length. Both are beautiful imo but our day, and venue, is more relaxed than a full length dress.

I'm short and every dress looked awful so I went for a black embroidered folk style dress for 50£. I married last week on Skye!

Is it national Slag Other Women's Clothes Choices Day today?

It’s just a fashion . I preferred the 60 and 70s bridal wear . Why is not liking a certain fashion as being unflattering ‘tearing down women’ . Can’t we think or express anything negative ever

sailor, they are both lovely but I like your choice best too, it’s beautiful.

Thank you mighty. I've tried over 60 dresses, not had that 'moment' but liked those two the best so we'll go with one of them haha

sailor they are both beautiful. The buttons on the back do set it off, I like buttons What colour are you having for the bow?