To be surprised at his fetish?

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I've been with DP over 10 years. Instagram offered up 'recommended posts' or something so I thought I'd have a nose last night. One pervy bum / feet shot caught my eye. Why has this been recommended to me? I wondered. I clicked on it and OH had liked it. Bit icky that he's liking bum pics on social media I thought, but then my curiosity had been tickled. Turns out it's not so much the bum, but the feet! He's liked other similar posts and follows 'foot' models.

Now, the foot fetish thing doesn't bother me so much, everyone has a thing they like. But AIBU to worry how this hasn't come out in over 10 years? I feel like I don't know him all of a sudden. I'm also disappointed he's apparently the type to like seedy things on social media... At least watch private porn like normal normal people without having mutual friends see him liking this stuff.

For a bit of background (in anticipation of 'is he not getting it from you?' responses), I had a traumatic birth 9 months ago and my labido and confidence is still pretty low and our baby won't sleep in his cot so is in with us. Plus we have a toddler who waltzes in through the night so sexy time has been almost non-existent for a long time

Sorry to derail but that's news to me so I googled it. Surely you have to scroll forever to wade through everyone you follow (unless you're following 10 people). Also. Weird! Why do I care what The Body Coach has liked?

As you can tell so new to SM game, not even sure why I'm bothering at nearly 50 😂

Anyway, sorry again for the derail.

OMG just remembered something from my 20s. A work colleague (yes I know) told me that his girlfriend wanked him off with her feet and that it was 'the best thing ever'. GOD KNOWS how that conversation came up or why I even allowed it.

Just a thought for you

MCSpammer so I had no idea either, the way I found out was something popped up like 'posts recommended for you' and the 1st offending picture was in there. I didn't know who had liked it until I clicked on it. Makes me worry what I may have 'liked' previously that's then been recommended to my friends!

I actually have a 'thing' for DH's and nice men's feet. They need to be large, nobly, well used and clean ....with slightly hairy toes, a bit Barney Rubble....phoarrr!

So I've asked him about it. Well, it actually came out quite bluntly as "do you have a foot fetish?" - not my finest hour! He quickly said no... Then I asked about Instagram and and then he said, it's not a fetish. I said do you like feet? He said yes, but not in a creepy way... Then he completely changed the subject pretty bloody quickly. I completely forgot to mention about the fact that the public can see everything he likes. I'll mention that later as I do feel embarrassed as his OH!

I can't stop thinking about it. You think you know someone through and through for 10+ years!

I think he will have got the message and will be furiously deleting all his social media.

I love how people are always so quick to classify fetishes as harmful and harmless - I mean, feet! How harmless and almost funny, just getting aroused by feet!

I take it none of you have seen foot fetish porn? Very unfortunately I have. Do you think it’s just videos of feet?

It’s all fun and games until they’re wanking into your favourite shoes.

@fancynewbeesly wanking into your favourite shoes🤢

BrownTurkey That is exactly what he did! Well, he sat at the dinner table 'unliking' everything from the past 6 months

OP How exactly might you think your DH's enjoyment of the female foot might be a threat to your relationship? Couldn't you, when life's less fraught, look at having a bit of fun with it? We can never really know all of the fantasy secrets of our OH's minds, sex is loving but also quite primal....you are being naive and unrealistic to suppose that you do.

@FancyNewBeesly I haven't seen foot fetish porn I have however seen online a foot sex toy which was basically a fake severed foot with a "vagina" in the top of the ankle

Kirbs Two would be lovely, one either side of the mantelpiece.

Id honestly just give him a foot job in bed and then ask him kindly not to like seedy stuff on social media as it’s embarrassing. If you feel like it that is, I understand you might not due to birth and toddler and that’s nothing to feel bad about

Aww I hope he wasn’t embarrassed!

It’s quite common to like feet, really. I wouldn’t call it a ‘fetish’ per se, it’s just like finding eyes, smiles, breasts etc, aesthetically pleasing.

My DP follows and ‘likes’ alternative models on FB and Instagram, doesn’t bother me as they’re not ‘real’ (they haven’t a clue he exists) and anything he’s doing that can be seen by me, my family, his family, any of our friends etc, isn’t a threat imo.

Why not use it to your advantage and get him to give you pedicures and foot massages?

I'm an amputee i get lot's of devotees messaging me trying to get pictures of my stump it's disgusting they try to trick you as well pretending to be amputees themselves sending you pictures I'm hardly going to send them that 🤣. Nothing surprises me now.

....why don't you suggest a career move to Russell & Bromley?! 😀

Fucking hell, they send you pictures of someone else’s stump?