Sex when you’re poorly

[NotUmbongoUnchained]

If your partner was ill (not contagiously ill) but just pretty much flipped out in bed for 4 days and asked for sex, would you do it?

Would it make you feel a bit “rapey”?
Or would it be fine because they asked.

Wrong OP, it's about making your husband sound bad. And brigade will do that however they can.

@starwishing - hungover sex is the best because you still have enough alcohol in your system that your inhibitions are lowered, but it's worn if a bit so you can feel things more and are more present.

Me making my husband sound bad?

Sorry, that was unclear. Not you, the vipers nest.

If they can't be happy why should you?

Oh sorry I’m being dim

Nah, it's late and I didn't post clearly at all!

Rapey?? No, how weird.

Does he mean he doesn't feel like doing it if he thinks he's going to have to do all the work and you'll just lie there being kind of unresponsive? That might be fair, even if it's unfounded, but a horrible way to put it!

If he means he thinks he would be taking advantage that would alarm me somewhat considering that it's you who has asked TBH!

CFS paired with insomnia makes for really poor reading comprehension

bertie he just said it would make him uncomfortable while I’m so “fragile”.

Which I respect, I wouldn’t want him to do anything he did want to do.

I don’t think a bloke who refuses requested sex with a woman he perceives as being unwell and states it’s because he would feel rapey, is a bad bloke.

I think he sounds like a very decent one

Rapey how weird

It certainly is @bertiebotts

If you’re offended by the word, you can always leave the thread.

You look like you need a priest not a penis. DD has just shouted at me to shut up I laughed so hard at this!

What's CFS? Unless you're delirious and he has reason to think that you're not mentally able to consent I don't see the problem.

I also don't have a problem with "rapey" and I'm a rape survivor. It's a word that is in the current vernacular.

Without wishing to be cruel OP if you look half dead (i.e. needing a priest rather than a penis) then he just didn't fancy having sex with you irrespective of consent. Necrophilia is quite a niche market.

Nah I will stay right here thanks.

Just coz people don't have a problem with the word RAPEY, that doesn't mean OTHERS are not allowed to be offended by it.

Ok, you do you Hun.

magnetic I look like this, so I can’t say I blame him

'ok you do you hun'

What's that even mean?!

NotUmbongoUnchained - That's how I look when I'm not* ill. Someone would have to be seriously desperate to want to boff me when I'm feeling unwell

Hmm. My first bold fail in 3+ years of posting.

Gutted

magnetic

Oh I've just worked out what CFS is.

Once my DH thought this was a good idea when I was ill. I threw up with the movement. Never again. When I'm sick he stays away now haha.

grooovy I’m sorry I should have posted it in full, I didn’t think!