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Dog poo incident

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gwenlar · 07/04/2018 14:17

I've just drove past a girl about 12 that let her dog poo outside someone's house and walked off. So I stopped further up the road and wound my window down and just said are you not picking that up? She said oh sorry and went back and I drove off. That was it.
10 minutes later a huge man knocked on my door and when I answered he said oh sorry I've got the wrong house, I asked who he was after, he said a name and said they've got the same car as you sorry and got in his car and drove off.
We never get people knocking on and I'm assuming this is to do with the dog poo thing.
I was in no way rude to the girl that is literally all I said to her and she was fine when I drove off not in tears or anything like that but I can only assume that she's gone home and told her dad/grandad and they have gone out looking for my car.
Now what? If he had anything to say he would have said it then so now I'm thinking he's going to come back.
If asked my neighbours to let me know if they see anyone hanging round and have also logged it with 101. I wish I hadn't of said anything now.

OP posts:
Pikehau · 07/04/2018 19:44

WeAllHaveWings no he didn’t look like burglar bill ... it was 2.50pm and he was out of place / context!! No reason to be there... now my point is the policeman reported it due to feeling uneasy (no broken windows/ lugging a tv etc) so op can too if she feels uneasy.

Bunnyfuller · 07/04/2018 19:46

Burglar Bill - very funny cartoon, it's on YouTube

Pikehau · 07/04/2018 19:46

Fine whatever maybe his intelligence was not to be reported to a fellow school parent and he lied to me. All cool.

He works about 30miles away so that is one crazy coincidence to appear so close and him to remember. Again point taken

And I’m out..... totally derailed thread - apologies op!

Gottagetmoving · 07/04/2018 19:49

I didn’t witness this man but my point is the police will see plenty of dodgy people but the policeman called 101 due to his instincts and something not feeling right / fitting in

The police have experience and develop a white reliable instinct. They agree trained. I know lots of people who are paranoid enough to see something dodgy every bloody day. I'm glad they don't call 101 on daft 'instincts'

Gottagetmoving · 07/04/2018 19:49

Not white....dunno where that came from...

Pikehau · 07/04/2018 19:52

THere is now another 101 thread... I’m off to google when and why I should call since clearly I am missing something ...

clothcollector · 07/04/2018 20:14

think you were being 100% OTT calling police - really not a police matter.

however with nasty, selfish entitled arseholes being so prevalent, i wouldnt be surprised if he was checking it was you based on his daughter's description and that you might find shit on your drive within the next few days. hope that wont be the case for you.

Tika77 · 07/04/2018 20:57

WEAllHaveThings Maybe in your town centre everyone looks dodgy and that’s the norm but in this particular neighbourhood it wasn’t.

Fuckingitupforfree · 08/04/2018 07:13

Yes you did the right thing, tape up your letterbox in case they put shit through your door. And move house. And change your name. And have plastic surgery Confused

'Trust your instincts' really doesn't apply to a lot of people because their instincts are ridiculous.

Vicky1990 · 08/04/2018 14:37

On two occasions recently I have had items stolen from an empty property that I look after but didn't report it as I didn't think it important enough.
My son who works with the police convinced me that I should report anything as incidents like this could help build up a picture of what is happening in the area.
As a result of me reporting to 101 And other people in my area doing the same about other small incidents Three men were questioned, Two owned up and paid me compensation under the restorative justice scheme, and one was warned he would be monitored by the local police.
You did the right thing and the police want you to do this as it helps build up intelligence of what goes on in your area, you are not wasting any ones time, well done.

Failingat40 · 08/04/2018 16:53

Ignore the nasty MN vipers @gwenlar
Many on this thread appear to lead feral lives themselves and don't like people who abide by rules and report things to the police.

Some people simply are lacking in any ability to see things from anyone else's view point and would rather ridicule someone than attempt to think outside the box.

I do think it's most likely the man at the door came ready for a confrontation in response to you correcting the girl with the dog.

You did the right thing in being alert and reporting it. At least if the police later receive a spurious complaint from the girls family the two things can be married up and you'll have a log already that you simply prompted her to pick up the poo.

People call 101 for a wide variety of reasons, your call today has not 'wasted police resources' as a pp wrongly stated. 101 is operated by civilian call handlers, it didn't even get passed to a single police officer.

Gottagetmoving · 08/04/2018 16:57

On two occasions recently I have had items stolen from an empty property that I look after but didn't report it as I didn't think it important enough

Not really the same thing as OPs situation , is it?

Gottagetmoving · 08/04/2018 17:00

I do think it's most likely the man at the door came ready for a confrontation in response to you correcting the girl with the dog
But there was no confrontation and you there is no way to know if he even knew the girl or anything about the poo

SavReeWil · 08/04/2018 18:40

I think you did the right thing OP. That's what 101 is for. And it's a document everything or it never happened if it was to go any further type world we live in. Either to do with the incident or something else. It's logged a random man came with no reasonable excuse. It's weird either way. Don't listen to those who are saying you've wasted police time. :)

SavReeWil · 08/04/2018 18:42

And those saying he would have just said something there and then. They clearly haven't seen how some people are, how messed up some people can be!

VerbenaGirl · 08/04/2018 18:49

It would have bothered me too, and I think calling 101 is entirely reasonable and sensible.

Allaboutalex · 08/04/2018 18:50

As this is MN I’d say her family probably didn’t send someone on the hunt when they heard that a strange older woman was curb crawling and harassing their child and they called 101 to report this aggressive activity that they’re not comfortable with,

meanwhile a man is driving around who can’t find his mates house and is now on the phone to 101 wondering if the shifty woman who answered the door claiming to live there actually a thief who has his mate tied up in the kitchen? She did seem very nervous.....

Shockers · 08/04/2018 18:51

I wonder whether the girl was in the car to identify whether you were the person who confronted her.

Gottagetmoving · 08/04/2018 19:18

Some of you live in a bizarre world of paranoia. Hmm

Gottagetmoving · 08/04/2018 19:40

They clearly haven't seen how some people are, how messed up some people can be!

Oh, the irony....Grin

Rach5l · 08/04/2018 20:59

I don’t understand why you assume her parent would be so upset about you asking her to pick up dog poo as to come round & threaten/assault you Confused If that was the sort of thing a parent would get upset about (on what planet?) surely they would be mildly affronted rather than so angry as to hurt you??
The two things don’t match, be rational op

MountIronSolo01 · 08/04/2018 22:19

I’m sure it’s very easy to pass judgement when you weren’t there yourself. I wonder how many of us would feel differently if we answered the door that day. Easy to be brave and blasé from the safety of your own home.

Tunaandbobby · 08/04/2018 22:39

I think your right to be wary. I would be too.
It could just be that he saw you stop and speak to a young girl. He could’ve been checking up on you making sure you weren’t some perv pulling over speaking to young girls.
Did you get his reg plate?
Call the local dog warden/complete an online form. Ask them to come and do some stensils on the pavements/put posters up. They do that in our area.

ObiJuanKenobi · 08/04/2018 22:45

Any update Op? Has any thing more happened?

My dad was fed up with someone letting their dog crap outside his house and not picking it up so stuck a notice up on the lamp post asking them to stop and the next day the neighbours car (the lamp post was in between dads and theirs) was absolutely smothered in dog mess, pushed right up in to the key holes and everywhere!! Disgusting. They obviously thought the note had come from them Blush

WeAllHaveWings · 08/04/2018 22:55

Trust your instincts' really doesn't apply to a lot of people because their instincts are ridiculous.

^this. I cannot believe how many people say they would call the police for this. No wonder they are struggling.

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