I need quick advice. Am I being a harsh parent?

[JustVent]

Two kids 11 and 6.

The 11 year old goes scooting at the near by skate park most days. He’s developed a bad attitude. Talks to me rudely and abruptly on the phone, comes home moody and entitled.
I’ve asked him if anything is wrong at the SP and he says no.
I’ve warned him that I don’t like it.

He’s been there all day, he’s supposed to sleep over at his friends house.
He’s come home to collect his stuff and he called his little brother a cock.

I’m livid, this isn’t a word my youngest has been exposed to yet, and it was out of order, he’s only 6.

I told my eldest that I’ve reached my limit with his attitude and he isn’t going for a sleep over now.

He is now in full swing of tears and tantrums.

AIBU?

he called his little brother a cock.

Does he watch 'Top Gear'? I'd be surprised if 'cock' is commonly used at the skate park!

The fact that someone's opinion is the minority one doesn't make it wrong.

Reanimated I agree with your above point. However so far you have referred to people who disagree with your opinion as "twats" and "stupid" which I think undermines anything you say. You come across as being the type of person who likes to think of themselves as open minded and different, but the fact that you are so dismissive and belittling of others opinions makes me think you're anything but.

No he doesn’t watch top gear. I was surprised to hear the word ‘cock’ as well. I’ve not been surprised by other language I’ve heard him and his friends use though.

As for drugs and gangs, we live in a cringingly middle class area, so it’s less likely than some places however, I’m not so daft that I believe it doesn’t happen at all.

I am aware that it might not be the healthiest thing for him to be doing which is bloody annoying given that his other hobby is staring at his phone at home.

To the above poster that doesn’t have kids but suffered with their brother being grounded, I totally hear you. When I ground my eldest, he’s an absolute arse to the youngest and generally makes everyone feel pretty miserable. However, I’m very aware of it and hope I manage it quickly and efficiently so it comes to an end. I’m sorry to hear you suffered for your brothers misgivings.

When I ground my eldest, he’s an absolute arse to the youngest Then he can spend his time in his bedroom, with any fun things removed and only come out for the toilet and meal breaks. I would explain to him until he can behave himself and be nice and polite towards ALL family member then he will continue to be treated like this.

OP been wondering how this panned out. Also just skipping back through the thread, how 'untoward' was the stuff on his phone? Was it related?