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To not think I should pay half the fine?

78 replies

Givenup43 · 05/04/2018 07:39

So last year, myself and partner went to a race and because it was so busy were directed by marshalls onto a grassy area a long way from a car park.
Last month my partner received a £50 parking ticket. He appealed as we weren't even in a car park and at every other race we always park on grass and it's never a problem and the marshall directed us there.

He is saying I have to pay half the fine as I was a passenger in his car.
AIBU is th think that is an unreasonable request??

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Original poster
Givenup43 · 05/04/2018 07:40

AIBU to think that is an unreasonable request?

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missmapp · 05/04/2018 07:42

Officially any fine is solely the drivers responsibility, but I think paying half would be a nice thing to do and I think I would.

Having said that, I don't th ink he should have asked you. But I would have offered

SillyMoomin · 05/04/2018 07:42

A passenger in his car?!

You’re partners??? He should pay and you should contest it together. Is he always this pernickity about costs with you?

CheesecakeAddict · 05/04/2018 07:42

Yes he is BU but can you no contest the fine? I also thought there was a time limit on when they can fine?

GirlInTheDirtyShirt · 05/04/2018 07:42

Of course you don’t have to pay half of it. You could offer, but you’re not obliged to.

AlonsoTigerHeart · 05/04/2018 07:44

This is the man you want to settle down with?

arethereanyleftatall · 05/04/2018 07:44

Firstly I don't think the fine should stand, that's unfair if you were sent there.

But, yes, I would offer half if I was the passenger, as it wasn't his fault at all.

CoffeeOrSleep · 05/04/2018 07:46

Assuming you don't share finances - it's rude of him to ask, but would be nice of you to offer.

However, I would refuse to pay it at all unless it's the council who have fined you. The marshells should be asked to explain why they directed you to park there, the race organisers should be able to track down the details of who was working.

Sparkletastic · 05/04/2018 07:47

Better plan would be neither of you pay and either ignore fine (if not statutory) or challenge as unfair.

Wdigin2this · 05/04/2018 08:03

Are you sure you're with the right person?

Original poster
Givenup43 · 05/04/2018 08:20

Yes he is this picky about costs normally...

It just diesnt sit right that he said "you will have to pay half"

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Byebyebye · 05/04/2018 08:23

Well I wouldn’t let my partner get stung for the full £50 as you know I love him. Especially since it wasn’t even his fault.

Yes legally it’s his fine to pay however I wouldn’t want to be with someone who pulls out the rule book when I ask for help you know.

VianneRocher · 05/04/2018 08:29

Last year? never known a parking ticket take that long to be sent out.

Are you sure its for that occasion?

LagunaBubbles · 05/04/2018 08:31

Seriously how can people share beds, homes, children, Im not saying this is you though OP but you did say Yes he is this picky about costs normally and yet can seem so separate when it comes to finances!

Shoxfordian · 05/04/2018 08:33

He's unreasonable to ask you to pay half
How long have you been together? Does he usually want you to pay for half of everything?

catkind · 05/04/2018 08:36

Whyever is he thinking of paying at all given you parked where you were told to by the marshalls on the day? Never mind charging you. But charging you boxes badly for him as a partner as a separate issue.

catkind · 05/04/2018 08:37

bodes!

Tinkobell · 05/04/2018 08:41

Sounds like you haven't been an item for too long... ?

Bluntness100 · 05/04/2018 08:45

I'd immediately offer to pay half, because uou know we are partners and were there together. My approach would not be " thanks for the lift and it's your car so fuck you".

However that is your approach. Legally yes it's his fine, so you can indeed take the fuck you approach with him.

00100001 · 05/04/2018 08:47

I call bollocks - there's no way he is being fined £50 for parking in a field... ask to see the fine and who it was issued by, when it was issued etc.

LovingLola · 05/04/2018 08:47

I'd immediately offer to pay half, because uou know we are partners and were there together. My approach would not be " thanks for the lift and it's your car so fuck you".

I agree with this.

00100001 · 05/04/2018 08:47

do it under the guise of wanting to contest the fine.

Bluntness100 · 05/04/2018 08:48

Does he usually want you to pay for half of everything

Yeah, how unreasonable. To expect a woman to pay half of everything. She should be paid for because you know, she's just a little woman and there to be decorative.

Isn't the question "do you usually expect him to pay for everything"

WineAndTiramisu · 05/04/2018 08:49

If it was last year, it's probably not enforceable now, do some reading around private parking fines (MSE website is quite useful), there's specific time limits on these things, so you likely won't have to pay it at all

gamerchick · 05/04/2018 08:51

It’s from last year? Bit of a funny time to get a parking ticket if it was last year. Is it council issued?