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about MNetters 'outing' other users?

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fcekinghell · 04/04/2018 09:25

So I've changed my username....again. I do this quite often since I joined MN about 10 years ago to avoid being identified or outed.

I've had to change it again because of a recent thread I wrote that people disagreed with - it's mumsnet, it happens I know.

Two posters searched my username to find other things I'd posted about, to catch me out or to see if I was a troll, I don't know. This seriously bugs me. I don't care if people disagree with me, but to search my previous posts makes me feel a bit vulnerable, especially as some of my posts have been about things that are sensitive to me.

I don't want these concerns to be used against me as some kind of defence or argument against me on other threads. There's also the risk of being outed, or identified if all my posts were put together, which is why I try to name change often.

Why do users do this? Why not just have a normal disagreement without troll hunting or whatever it's called? Is there anything I can do?

As I said I've been on MN for about 10 years and I can see how my frequent username changes can make me appear to be a troll, but I'm not.

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2rebecca · 05/04/2018 23:14

Ive never bothered changing name. I try not to be too identifiable to local folk but if someone did identify me it wouldn't bother me. Depends how and why they do it I suppose. A PM saying "are you X?" Is different to someone coming out with it on a thread. I'll occasionally search posters history, either because I suspect they're lying ( in which case I just ignore the thread) or because other stuff has been mentioned in the thread. Generally life's too short and I don't get too invested in the personal lives of strangers or tell them much about me. I'm lucky in having real people to chat to. I like the debates and discussions on mumsnet. I just try not to take it too seriously.

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