Compassionate leave for loss of baby at 17 +6

[Aloneandscared25]

Yesterday morning I lost my baby girl, at home we have another daughter who requires around the clock care and is scheduled to go to surgery on Friday.
My partner who quite frankly right now is a broken man has been refused compassionate leave and apparently by law
Our little girl was under 24 weeks gestation so doesn’t count as a “ loss of child “
Requiring compassionate leave.
They have said he can’t have the next few days off due to staffing however next week can take a few days holiday as he wish.
AIBU to be angry, I just want him at home with us.

Get him to call in sick with stress and get a doctors app for him asap so he can get a letter signing him off for a few days for stress. Any reasonable gp would surely do this given the circumstances.
So sorry for your loss and you are totally not being unreasonable

So sorry for your loss
I'd have thought the best option would be to get the doctor to sign your dp off with stress for a couple of weeks. If he can't cope with work emotionally.

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your little girl, and that ur other daughter is poorly, I’ve nothing to add to other posters but wanted to offer some words of support, your partners work are twats, the dr will sign him off sick for as long as you need I would think, his work can think what they like, they’ve forced your hand by being so unreasonable, and it’s not like being signed off with stress is untrue anyway, u must both be suffering terribly

I am so sorry for your loss. That is so very very shit.

GP definitely. I wouldnt be inclined towards any kind of company loyalty after this and would look for somewhere new as soon as i felt able.

When my Dad died, my minty multi-billion pound company told me I could have three days. (That included the day he died at 2am, when I was with him. I went to my GP and asked for a certificate. He signed me off for 3 weeks, cause : bereavement reaction. He also told me to come back if I wanted it extended. Please ask your GP to do the same, to cover all the time he is off.

‘Mingy’ Company. I am sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength for your DD operation. Xx

Bereavement leave is shit in this country I know a lady who had to take leave when her DGS died of SIDS as she was only entitled to one day for the funeral. I am so sorry for your loss I am with those saying for him to call in sick, but I know if it was me I just wouldn't be able to (ridiculous I know).

My company wouldn't give compassionate leave, and I agree with that stance.

They would advise obtaining a sick note though.