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AIBU?

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To find these people odd

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 15:52

In Mothercare today I take DD into the baby changing, a mother is there changing her baby, her toddler is standing on the surfaces with the dad supervising and talking to him. The kid asks to go outside and play with the toys, the dad says “no, we have to stay here whilst mum changes sister”...err why?!
Why is this a group activity? There’s not enough room in these changing rooms anyway, they smell- why wouldn’t you rather the toddler go and play with his dad? Also I got into the room after them and finished way before- why do some people take an age to change a baby: expose, wipe, close...what am I missing?

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Ceirrno · 02/04/2018 16:03

Perhaps there's a reason that he can't be alone with the child?

RoryHatesCoffee · 02/04/2018 16:04

You should maybe try using the space in your head to focus on more productive things. Are you after a medal for being the quickest baby changer around?

upsideup · 02/04/2018 16:06

If they were about to go home then why would he go off with the kids to play?
The child needs to learn to be able to wait and not just be allowed go off and play whenever they want to.

NewYearNewMe18 · 02/04/2018 16:06

I suppose you could have asked?

many perhaps'

perhaps mum had a disability?
perhaps the daughter did?
perhaps dad has a wooden leg and couldn't run after the son?
perhaps mum has acute anxiety and doesn't like to be alone

YellowFlipFlops · 02/04/2018 16:07

Maybe the toddler had been a nightmare playing with the toys in the shop and they just wanted to change the baby and leave the shop.

I took an age to change DS, from newborn right up until he was nearly 3 because of his skin. If I didn't change him carefully (it was a faff) he got really awful nappy rash.

In the nicest possible way, why do you care? They weren't hurting anyone or even bothering you were they?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:07

Newsflash it’s an observation, however since you’re offering a medal would be fabulous!

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HolyMountain · 02/04/2018 16:09

I wouldn’t have given this headspace but we’re all different.

Who knows, not necessarily odd though.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:09

I would have thought a less ideal place for a toddler to be is walking on a baby changing unit climbing the walls when there is a play area 2foot from the door and there are two adults with him

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anxious2017 · 02/04/2018 16:09

What a strange thing to judge someone on.

My DH would need to stay next to me as I'm disabled and he's my carer. If I'm not using my wheelchair, my disabilities aren't visible so you'd never know. He'd have to be there to lift the baby down and make sure I'm OK.

Why don't you try not to judge others on ridiculous things that have no impact whatsoever on your life. You'd be a lot happier for it, I'd bet.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:11

In addition the father (pls note I cannot 100% guarantee it was the father, the male figure, oh wait I cannot guarantee he was male), did not actually help the mum but just chatted with the toddler which is why I couldn’t understand why he didn’t just do that in the play area.

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upsideup · 02/04/2018 16:12

If you put a 2 year old in a play area they are not willingly going to come out in a minute when the babies nappies has been changed.
It makes much more sense to make them wait, than dealing with the tantrum as they were only allowed to play for 2 minutes.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:13

Of course we all judge and find things we don’t/ wouldn’t do questionable, there wouldn’t be much of a MN if we didn’t. I’m not safe guarding reporting these people for Christ’s sake.

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Sarsparella · 02/04/2018 16:13

Some people seem to turn everything into a family outing, I often think the same about whole families with two adults and all the kids in supermarkets, how bloody dull it’s a chore not a day out

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:13

Thank you upside I hadn’t thought of that.
See an actual answer!

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 02/04/2018 16:15

I can’t imagine how empty my life would need to be before this would even register on my radar never mind irritate me to the point of having to post a thread on MN about it.

Do you not get out much OP?

Who the hell gets judgy and superior about how long someone takes to change a nappy?

orangesmartieseggs · 02/04/2018 16:17

I would imagine if they let the toddler play, he wouldn't want to stop and it would cause the mother of all tantrums when they had to leave!

NancyDonahue · 02/04/2018 16:17

Maybe they had a bus or train to catch so they wanted to stay together rather than split up and be potentially late.

Or maybe baby is one of those that does explosive poo requiring 2 sets of hands, or is a nightmare getting back into

formerbabe · 02/04/2018 16:18

I can't stand people who faff around taking ages to do anything and turning the simplest task into a lengthy chore..yanbu.

NancyDonahue · 02/04/2018 16:18

Sorry, back into pushchair

Addictedtohavingbabies · 02/04/2018 16:19

Why does it matter/ why do you care/ need to know?

wurlie · 02/04/2018 16:20

Well I would imagine that they were short on time and didn't want the child getting involved in looking at toys / a potential scene trying to drag them away.

I'm guessing your baby is your first OP. You'll understand children soon.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:22

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo yes I get out loads, I went out I saw this scenario and I made a judgement. Are you so busy you have time to comment on something you deem so pathetic?

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EllaLavella · 02/04/2018 16:23

It could be any of the reasons newyearnewme has suggested.

But it's more likely that they were a family of faffing performance parenting displays who thinks the world revolves around them.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:24

wurlie patronising much?! As it happens a previous poster suggested they may not want him to play and I acknowledged that may be true and I hadn’t thought of that.

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piercinggelo · 02/04/2018 16:24

Maybe because the toys in mother care are for sale not to play with?

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