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Original poster

To find these people odd

54 replies

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 15:52

In Mothercare today I take DD into the baby changing, a mother is there changing her baby, her toddler is standing on the surfaces with the dad supervising and talking to him. The kid asks to go outside and play with the toys, the dad says “no, we have to stay here whilst mum changes sister”...err why?!
Why is this a group activity? There’s not enough room in these changing rooms anyway, they smell- why wouldn’t you rather the toddler go and play with his dad? Also I got into the room after them and finished way before- why do some people take an age to change a baby: expose, wipe, close...what am I missing?

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 02/04/2018 16:25

Are you so busy you have time to comment on something you deem so pathetic?

It’s a bank holiday. I’m on the sofa watching the chase in my pyjamas. Grin

Are you having a particularly bad day? I just can’t imagine why this would upset you.

MumofBoysx2 · 02/04/2018 16:27

It could be anything! There's usually a simple explanation for things that look odd. Like the baby cries when the Dad goes out of the room and it makes the nappy changing more difficult? Or maybe the mum has a bad back or had an operation and couldn't lift the baby? You have too much time on your hands to worry about such things, haha!

Pennywhistle · 02/04/2018 16:28

The simplest reason is because by the time the Mum changes the baby and then wander round locating the toddler and Dad it all takes much more time than necessary. Past experience might also have told the Dad that getting the toddler out of the play area is a nightmare.

However as loads of other posters have said there could be a whole pile of other reasons, including potentially the toddler’s separation anxiety.

Imsosceptical · 02/04/2018 16:33

Cannot believe you have wasted so much time thinking about this, possibly THE most pointless thread I’ve read recently ( and gawd there’s a few like you posting regularly).

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:35

As stated in the name of the thread I found it odd not upsetting.
Also stated the kid asked to go outside and play (unlikely separation anxiety issues but didn’t ask to speak to see his HV notes) agree maybe they didn’t want him getting caught up with the toys though.

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Ohyesiam · 02/04/2018 16:36

Yanbu for finding them odd, yabu for judging them
Yabvu for bothering to post about it

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:37

Imsosceptical to be fair it’s a wet bank hol, ...this could have ended ages ago but I’m finding the tirade of abuse from MNs quite amusing.

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NathusiusPip · 02/04/2018 16:38

You sound far more odd than those people, to be honest. Confused

Grilledaubergines · 02/04/2018 16:38

The child was climbing the walls? Amazing, that’s a real skill. Probably safer to climb walls within the confines of a nappy changing room than outside so they did the right thing really.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:39

Ohyesiam fair enough

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pilates · 02/04/2018 16:39

There could be a whole number of reasons.

Has Mothercare changed in that it has a play area now. It used to be just a shop which sold baby things in my day.

Pennywhistle · 02/04/2018 16:39

OnlyFools you’ve never seen a small child ask Daddy to go somewhere and then go spare because Mummy isn’t coming too?
Hmm

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:42

pilates a new one near me opened last month and it has a play area.

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EllenRipley · 02/04/2018 16:43
Hmm
Imsosceptical · 02/04/2018 16:45

Onlyfoolsandmothers - so sorry you’re having wet bank hols...can understand now why you’re posting such tripe, you’re clearly bored!! Was very hot here today down under, lovely day a time the beach and just doing my bed time yawn reading MN, best substitute for sleeping tablets ever xxx

pigsDOfly · 02/04/2018 16:46

Goodness, if AIBU was restricted to subject that were world shattering and needed a deeply considered response there'd be nothing on here.

Op didn't say she was upset by it, she was just musing as far as I could see, like 90% of the other threads on here.

Not sure why you're being pulled up so sharply OP.

Original poster
OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/04/2018 16:51

Me neither pigsDOfly, such a innocently bemused post and I’ve managed to offend as far away as Down Under.

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Imsosceptical · 02/04/2018 16:52

Pennywhistle - 🤔 err no, DD tends to love daddy time, doesn’t need Mummy there all the time too....I would be a little worried if she did, however that’s not what this post was about...

sockunicorn · 02/04/2018 16:54

my DB is a fantastic dad. Loves his kids, spends time with them, works hard to provide for them etc etc. However has zero idea how to take care of them. His DW has done everything for them (and him). She is a SAHM and does all the cooking, cleaning, baby stuff, organising family things, sending gifts. I doubt he even remembers when my birthday is now and the (very lovely well thought out) gifts are always clearly chose and bought by her. She breastfed for the first 18months (couldn't express) so he has never even bottle fed his babies. She was happy to do everything and he is happy to let her.

However, downside...he doesnt have a clue. Hes okay with my DC (both aged above 7) because they tell him when they are hungry/bored/tired and he can just throw a ball around with them or play board games etc. She wouldnt leave him alone in a shop with their toddler! The toddler would run rings around him. However he comes into his own when they reach around 6 and is like the pied piper. Hes the parent outside playing football with 30 local kids on a sunday, the one on the bouncy castle at events and happy to dress up as spiderman for whoever needs it.

So perhaps the dad is just useless and cant be trusted :)

Imsosceptical · 02/04/2018 16:54

Onlyfoolsandmothers.....just finding it all as amusing as you are 😂😂

BrownEyedGirlv2point0 · 02/04/2018 17:02

My daughter is a 16 month old busy body and it takes me ages to change her in changing rooms if other people are present. She wants to know and watch very closely what others are doing and will not lay still for me to change her. I cannot even distract her with toys or other items as she only wants to see what others are doing. I feel awful as I don't want to take up so much time if others need the changing table. Then I look like a terrible person if I force her to lay there while changing her as she's screaming her head off wanting to get up. The struggle is real. I get the curiosity but don't be so judgemental. Be thankful you can just take a nappy off, wipe and put the next one on so easily.

pigsDOfly · 02/04/2018 17:04

Down under eh? OnlyFools. Isn't all bad then. Bet you never thought this would go global when you posted it.

lattewith3shotsplease · 02/04/2018 17:06

OP,
Maybe Dad was following Mums orders

And yes, I get what you're saying......I'd be like Confused

Pennywhistle · 02/04/2018 17:08

Imsosceptical my D.C. love time with their Dad too, but I’m not foolish enough to believe that all children behave the same way.

This post is about a family with a two yo and a baby. It’s hardly unusual or “worrying” for older siblings to display jealously over Mum’s time spent with new baby and not them.

Which of course may not be the case with this family at all, but it’s not an unreasonable scenario.

Oddcat · 02/04/2018 17:09

Maybe the dad has form for wandering off and his wife has told him not to disappear again.

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