To think this is an april fools joke gone too far!

[Gabbyleo]

I've had enough really. out of any day not Easter. My DCs 8, 5 and 3 have been waiting patiently all month for their chocolate eggs. I wake up this morning to find the Easter eggs all eaten with the the boxing left in the cupboard , the wrappers inside with one smarty, button or malteser left . I put it on the top of the cupboard so only DH and the DS 1&2 (18 and 15) could reach them. I go up to DS room and they were pretending to sleep. I wake them up and they admitted to eating all the Easter eggs. there was 8 of them! I cant actually believe it! They said they were planning to go to shop and buy some replacements but it was closed. They claimed it was an 'April Fool joke but went wrong'. The worst thing was they both found it funny I've told them they have to apologise to younger DCs. That there consoles and phones will be confiscated for all Easter break and that they are grounded and won't be going to any of their friends house. April Fools jokes are supposed to be funny! DH told me in going too far but I don't care sick of them treating the younger ones like shit. Rant over.

I think the younger should be told but the behaviour is because the older boys are selfish, self indulgent and inconsiderate.

I think you need to override your dh , it takes a strong woman to raise good men and letting them off is such a poor life lesson.

I think you might need to a longterm discipline plan to get their values back on track, rather than a one off incident.

I think it's really funny. Seems I'm alone...

UPDATE

Managed to take the console and also removed the plugs from the TV in their room. However they then both got in a fit claiming it was all a mistake. Ended up arguing with ds 18 which led to us shouting at each other and me wanting him out of the house. DH came back with chocolate eggs but brought DSs some which led to another argument with him. He said he brought them because he wants a 'fresh start to the day' told DS not to do it again blah blah. Told DH to help me get the phones of them he refused to saying I went too far! . I'm about the leave with the younger DCs and go to mothers then beet DH at MIL later. I need to get away from all this madness. They are all upset with shouting going on.

The worst part was that DS 15 was actually about to give me the phone, but because DH said 'I went to far' ended up keeping it because DS 18 was allowed to keep his. DS18 doesn't pay for his phone by the way

DH just wants to forget about what's happened. DS15 asked him if they get their console back DH says 'he will think about it' ffs!!!

They're taking the piss out of you op

make a new start, start the day again op.

Make them order same day delivery replacements from Amazon! I've just placed an order for this evening so it is possible. Depending where you live you lift be able to get 2 hour delivery.

I'd cancel the phone contract . Your husband needs to bloody grow a backbone too - I'd withdraw all services until he shows a united front with you .

why arent you all going to mothers?
take all the kids, otherwise you are helping divide the house - imo, and not making for good relationships.

What the actual fuck?

You have a husband problem. You need to sort that first. I would be going to mum's and blooming staying there for the foreseeable future!

That sounds awful, OP. Hope you and the younger kids manage to have a nice time at your mother’s. I’d be inclined to stay there and not bother going around to your MiL’s later.

They’re all taking the piss. So no consequences means they’ll keep being mean. Your DH is a twat.

i reckon the older ones feel left out and this is how they get attention.

I think it's really funny. Seems I'm alone...

You think it's really funny that older teens ate all the chocolate meant for their younger siblings and just left the odd sweet to rub it in their faces that they weren't getting anything? Seriously?

Explain to your younger DCs that the older DCs are being punished because they did something mean and nasty to someone else. Younger DCs don't need to know the details but do need to see that bad behaviour gets punished.

Make sure older DCs hear this.

Explain to all DCs that while you still love older DCs, right now you really don't like them.

Presence of replacement chocolate eggs should be enough to distract younger DCs from asking too many questions.

Older DCs (and DH) should be left in no doubt that you are disgusted by their behaviour and that it's going to take a long time and a lot of grovelling on their part to come back from this.

He needs to start paying for his phone then.

Thinking if you think it is funny, how would you explain to the younger children why they didn't get Easter Eggs? Would you think it was funny if you had guests and your children ate their gifts, why is it funny if they pick on their younger siblings?

If they won't give up their phones, is there any way you can get them disconnected? Say they've been stolen or something?

(I'm not technically savvy so not sure if this would be do-able).

I'd be going nuclear at your spineless husband right now. I'd also say to the eldest that if he didn't hand his phone over, you'd cancel the contract anyway and he'll be worse off in the long run.

I'd wonder if they are smoking weed and got the munchies, tbh.

That aside, your Adult Abusive Son needs to leave for the protection of the younger children and your 15 year old needs intervention.

You need to ask your DH whether he is going to safeguard his younger children and if not he needs to make plans to go.

What they have done is emotional abuse. it's now up to you if you allow this to continue. This will destroy their self esteem. My Son In Law still has issues at 32, because their Parents did nothing to intervene, it has had a detrimental effect on his life and what he has been able to achieve.

Change the wifi password

i reckon the older ones feel left out and this is how they get attention

And what might that be based on Slarty?

1. Do what Gamerchick suggests. Yes, really. Do it. Then:
2. Immediately change the wifi password. Take the younger three and leave. Hell, I'd take the wifi router too.

I repeat, did you not buy eggs for the older ones?

Why are they still living at home?

Huh? One of them is 15